How Do I Deal with Living with My Parents?? I Am Going Crazy

What about talking to other Sandy survivors and seeing if there are resources you can access or just have someone to talk to? Maybe many of them are moving to x location and you can feel like you have a community there. It is hard to move to somewhere new, but wouldn't it be better to be somewhere with your own roof vs being with your parents? Strangers aren't strangers forever.

I also agree to find something to do outside of the house for as much of the day as possible.

Have you talked to a crisis counselor? I think this is a good thing to do because you need some real plans. I know you don't want to go where you know nothing and no one, but really wouldn't that be better than what you have now? I have done it 3x in my life, and yes it can be scary, but it can also be an adventure. Why not look at it like that?

If you have job or your husband does, then figure out how long of a commute you are willing to do and go to an area that is about that far away and start looking. It does not have to be forever, but you shouldn't stay there. It is bad for you and your family and obviously you are not ok with it. Look at inexpensive places that you may not want to be in, but that might help you save and be safe for you, your husband, and your daughter. Maybe house share with a friend or something....anything pretty much has to be better than what you are doing now. I am so sorry for all of you!! But please, take steps to get out before you're too down to be able to.

You are not alone, you have your husband and your daughter. The longer you allow her to be subjected to this terrible situation the longer it will take to undo it. Don't forget mobile home parks, RV parks, and Craigslist. Good luck, we will pray for you and keep coming back if you need a cheer up!!

I did an internet search and it is kind of really hard to find places to help those who need it. But, I did find a thing from the Catholic Charities http://www.catholiccharitiesny.org/get-help/disasterrelief/
maybe see if they can help you find a place to live. Also talk to other churches in the area, I know they can help people who dont' go to the church too, and see if maybe the church owns house you could rent, or a parishioner has one...

I am so sorry you are going through this. Do you work. Does your daughter go to school. I would stay out of the house all day. Are ther any places you can meet with your meighbors whohave lost their homes. A shelter of sorts or are they all gone. Hope you can get out soon. Sending hugs and prayers your way. It can only get better right. Hang in.

Well, on top of living with your parents you are grieving for what could have been. I lived through a flood and lost my home, and actually we were taken in by my sister for about a day and a half whose half inch of water on her basement floor devastated her. I understand it was what upset her and she never came to look at our home which was totally and completely destroyed. We actually lived out of a room in our house for months while the rest was rebuilt. My first set of thoughts are that you have to allow yourself to grieve and that means finding others going through similar things and really talk about it. The next is that you need to just (sorry the proverbial just say no coming up here)> tell mom you can't listen anymore to the secrets and that you are dealing with a hard time yourself. I will pray for your family that you find a place soon I know it is very very hard. And do little things tiny steps to make yourself happy. The biggest problem is you are suffering from your loss, a death in its way and not only do your parents no hear eachother but they are so needy they can't see your pain.Start a journal. It will end. Things will change. Prayers coming out for you.

my first thought was do you know anyone with a motorhome, trailer or camper you could rent?

Wow.
I'm so sorry.
What options are out there?
Can you afford to rent a place? Are there even places to be found?
Do you have ANY timeframe until your home is ready for returning to?
All I can suggest it to see it for what it is right now: shelter.
You're not going to change them. You know that already.
Be clear and direct with them.
Live as well as you can right now.
And TRY to keep your eye on the prize.
And pray!
Good luck. Hang in there.

If you're not working then you might start looking for a job just to get you out of the house. If you cannot find work then you need to do something to get time away so you can be around other grown ups that are making you feel better and building your self esteem.

You can get child care for not much if you apply for child care assistance. This will also get your child out of that house for the day, very day. Then I'd use the extra money to eat out every evening. By the time you get home each day it will be bed time and you can go straight to the bedroom and bed. Then up the next day and doing it again.

Get out of the house every day all day.

I'm just going to pray for you.....I would rather live in my car with a lot of warm blankets and lots of water...but, you must find a shelter and get out of that situation. Please keep us posted. Disfunction is a terrible thing and it seems like this is your "SECOND TIME AROUND"....Get out...get better...

I am so sorry! To lose your home is terrible enough. Then to have to live with people who barely tolerate each other, much less your family! Yikes!
I can't think of a solution but I will pray for you!

Hoo boy, that sounds rough. Unfortunately the only person you have any influence over in this situation is you. Your parents sound narcisistic, and that is hard to deal with.
Get out of the house as much as possible on walks, head to the public library if one survived close to you, go iceskating, get the kids involved in club activities, try out a science center, whatever you can do to NOT be there as much as possible.. And most of all, try not to be sucked into their drama. When your Dad is hostile, call it like it is: "I know you don't like having us here, Dad. We are doing our best to find another place to stay." and walk away, preferably out the front door with your family to do something inexpensive you enjoy. Good luck.

I can't imagine how hard this may be. I can only tolerate going to my parents house for a few hours at a time, not extended periods of time. You are right on one hand, you're blessed to have somewhere to go. On the other hand, it's awful! Is there any other option for you? A hotel? A house? Anything?

I'll be praying for you all!