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How Can You Tell How Far Along You Are????

Okay so this is probably a question every new expectant mom wants to know when they find out they are pregnant but it is about to drive me crazy! Here is my delimma, I called the doc and they said they will not see you until you are at least 8 weeks so they can do a ultrasound on the first visit so with that I made an appt for Sept. 14....that's still 3 weeks away!!! My questioning comes when A) I haven't had a period since April (which isn't uncommom for me since i usually only get about 3 periods a year) so when it went off i did not think anything of it. B) I swear I can feel some moving going on down there not necessarily kicks but those fluttery type moves.... C)I started working out in June so if I got pregos at that time then I could be at least two months....see i am freaking with all of these "opportunities" :) LOL. Here are some of my symptoms so far, quesiness(sp), sore boobs for about 4 weeks now, burping out of this world, sore back, I can feel in my stomach where it's beginning to get harder, and then of course the moving I swear I feel not constantly but at least 4-5 times per day. Anyways, I want to know what all of your thoughts were on how far you think I could be or what I should do about this doctor thing, should I try and find a new doc??? Also, Can you get pregnant without having your period every month? Also, I have 5 1/2 year old twin boys now so the thought of being pregos with more twins is another concern of mine! Thanks for listening!!!

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Okay so I went to the doc on Friday. I am 11 weeks and there is only one baby in there....yeah. Thanks again for everyones advice and words of wisdom.

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Good luck, momma. Who's the doctor who won't see you for 8 weeks?
Have you taken an over the counter pregnancy test?
Blessings, and best wishes

Find a new dr tell them you feel movement and have irregular periods. You need an exam at the very least. There is a show on Discovery channel about women who didn't k ow they were preg and went into lobor. Crazy but true

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I would look for another dr that will treat you better. I've never heard of a dr saying come in after 8 weeks. It the drs. job to look at you and determine how far along you are, not you tell them. My dr. saw me as soon as i thought i was pregnant to do a confirmation test & make sure everything was going well. And i would think that with your history of twins that most dr would want to see you to check that out also.

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I remember with my last pregnancy (he's 3 years old now) that I called and said the home test was positive and I wanted to make an appointment. They started to say something like they don't make the first appointment until after your (X) week-- I forget if it was 6 or 8-- but I said I don't have a regular period and have NO IDEA how far along I am-- so they made me an appointment to see the doctor within that week and then scheduled an ultrasound shortly thereafter. Call the office back and if they won't give you an earlier appointment then you need to find a new doctor!

hi J.,
when i took the preg. test (2 of them) & it came up positive...i called my reg. doc & told them i wanted the blood wk done to see just how far along i was, it's very easy...they just order the te st, then you go to the lab & they take a little blood...i was called in about 4/5 days w/the results. it gave me the weeks...I was 7 weeks along. then i went to the obgyn. maybe try that. congrats....babies are tons of work & lots of fun! god bless...J. j

I haven't had my period since the end of March/early April, and I am 20 weeks pregnant! You're probably not that far along (most of the time the queasiness and sore boobs start in the first trimester), but you need to find out! I would go to another doctor!

If you do not have regular periods there is no way for you to tell how far along you are.If everything is normal, which it sounds like it is, there is no harm in waiting 3 weeks. Just eat right and do the right thing. If you are that nervous call the doctors office, tell them you dont know how far along you are and are too nervous to wait. Although from what you said, I think your fine to wait the 3 weeks.

umm, you can get a second oppinion like now! I've never heard of them not even seeing you because they wait to do 1st visit with an ultrasound. An OB or midwife can usually tell with an internal about how far along you are and then they schedule an ultrasound.... I'd find another Dr or midwife at least for the first visit and then you can always switch back later if you're comfortable but if you want to know now, make an apt. with another physician. just my oppinion. Also, if you are feeling movement you are at least 10 weeks along!! Heartbeat is audible at 8-10 weeks and I was getting flutters between 10-12 weeks with both. Congradulations!!!

Good luck, momma. Who's the doctor who won't see you for 8 weeks?
Have you taken an over the counter pregnancy test?
Blessings, and best wishes

J. , the best thing to do is be careful and wait for your appointment, However if you start to have any pain or abnormal bleeding you can always go to the emegency room where they will do an ultra sound after you have explained your delema.

J. , I wish you the best

Hi J.! Yes, I would find a new doctor, if they won't see you sooner. I am at the end of my second pregnancy, and I felt movement at 14 weeks...so i would say that you could definitely be a few months along, if not into your second trimester! My dr swore it should be around 20 weeks to feel movement..but I am certain of what I did feel, and this baby has been a hardcore mover. If your current dr has any issues with seeing you, then I would find someone who will give you an ultrasound now...so that they can judge the size of the fetus. Good luck!!!!...and congrats!!!!!!

My pregnancy came as a big shock this time around. Like you, I don't get normal periods so I didn't know until I was 12 weeks. But, come to find out, the first period I missed (that I thought was just my "normal" irregularity) was because I was pregnant. My doctor had me come in right away, and had a good guess on how far along I was based on a vaginal exam, not an ultrasound. Then I had an ultrasound about a week later to confirm the date. I would find a doctor that will see you right away! Especially since you are unsure of the date, you shouldn't have to wait. Good luck and congratulations!

You are blessed...full time job, great babies and a good man. AND pregnant! So, no time to freak out in the next 30 years! ;-)
What does worry me is the way your dr's office works. They could have asked if you had done a pregnancy test instead of just writing down an appointment for whenever was convenient for THEM.
I agree with you that at least you are already 8 weeks. If you are pregnant since April you are closer to 16 weeks and therefore the moving around thing, the sore back etc are right on time! The doctor will probably start you on folic acid right away. If confirmed, enjoy your pregnancy and congratulations.

I had a similar issue when I was pregnant with my second child. I had had a miscarriage after my first child was born, so I was very paranoid about my first ultrasound, but desperately wanted one to see a live child, so I called OB offices and explained my situation and pretty much told them, "I'm going to choose the doctor that gets me an ultrasound date first." The doctor I chose was Dr. Million, who turned out to be, as I've heard others say as well, one of the best in town. You are a patient, but also a customer, so demand an ultrasound if you feel that strongly about it. Also, don't you want a doctor who values your concerns?

I would call the doctor's office back and let them know you are irregular and don't know how far along you are. If they still don't want to see you immediately, find another doctor. Some lab tests have to be done at certain times, and you may not want to miss your "windows". You are the advocate for your and your baby(ies)so sometimes you have to be the pushy one if it means the best for all of you.

Also, start taking prenatal vitamins now. You can buy them over the counter and do not need the doctor to give you a prescription.

I have never heard of such a thing. I would love to know who this doctor is as my doctor took me right away. I saw my baby's heartbeat at 5 weeks. It's such a blessing; also, they need to see you right away as they need to put you on prenatal vitamins. They are very important.

I do wish you the best and if they don't see you, you definitely need to find another doctor; what if something serious going on with you in your pregnancy. The first trimester is so important.

G-D Bless you,

I didn't read all the posts, but I agree with the ones I did read. I had my first appt at 5 wks, as soon as I called and said I had a pos test. Then had my first u/s at about 8 wks. I'd definately call another dr....good luck to you.

Find a new dr tell them you feel movement and have irregular periods. You need an exam at the very least. There is a show on Discovery channel about women who didn't k ow they were preg and went into lobor. Crazy but true

please calm down, girl!! It is hard to figure out what your question really is, because you are freaking out so much!

did you do a home pregnancy test? so you know you are pregnant but your question is, how far along are you and could it be twins?

I'm a doctor and a mom, and I've also had twins, so I'm qualified to speak here. First of all, call your doctor back and explain to them that you are unsure about the dates, that you might be farther along than you think, that you have reasons to suspect it might be twins, etc. and ask for an earlier appointment. Tell them to call you if they have a cancellation. What will happen is, the doc will examine you and feel your uterus. If you seem large enough, he/she will order the ultrasound right away, and they can estimate the date by looking at the size of the baby/babies on the ultrasound.

The same thing happened to me in 1994....I got pregnant in April, but the pregnancy tests were negative although I did not have a period since then. One day I took the test and it turned very positive right away!! (I kept repeating the test every few days). I was having symptoms as you describe, and the doctor said my uterus felt large so they did the ultrasound right away and guess what?? There were twins!! My story goes on from there to be very complicated and did not have a happy ending, sad to say, one of the twins did not survive, but my son today is 15 and healthy!My point is, you could be right about the twins and you need to be telling this to your doctor, not to me.

I wish you the very best, and if you need the name of some good ob docs, let me know....but call yours first.

The question is J., do you know for sure you are pregnant and if you are not sure, a pregnancy test at Walgreens or so can tell you that. Secondly, if you ARE pregnant and you are just worried about getting to the doctor, then I would TREAT it as if you ARE pregnant, eat right, don't do anything out of the norm to cause miscarriage, and just wait until the appt. I know it might be nerve wrecking, but they can't really see anything substantial until the 8th week anyway, so that's why the doc wants to hold on. You just seem anxious to know if and when and how, but if the store test says yes, go with that and do what a pregnant person would anyway until your appt. Don't sweat it :-)) Also, even if you're going to have twins, you can't change that fact can you? So going early has no relevance.

Wow, I am totally surprised that the doctor wants you to wait until 8 weeks. When I got pregnant my doctor wanted to see me the minute I told him I thought I was pregnant. But back then they didn't believe in ultra sounds unless there was something wrong with the pregnancy. Some doctors still believe that. I was always told you can't feel movement until you are about 3 months along. It could be your bowels that you feel moving. Believe me I thought I was pregnant and went to the doctor and he said it was my bowels. Weird, I know, but I was also relieved as I was going through a divorce and had had my tubes tied. Yes, you can get pregnant without having a period. My sister in law has a period about every five months and had a baby. Without having normal periods there really is not way to tell how far along you are. I have another sister in law that had her period the first four months she was pregnant so she was pregnant without even knowing. She just thought she was gaining weight. I would guess you are probably at least 3 months along and possible 4. Please let us know when you find out. But for sure find you another doctor because you should already be on prenatal vitamins. The baby or babies need that.

Hey there. I would guess you are definitely pregnant with all those symptoms. You can usually buy a cheap pregnancy test at the dollar store that works great. They are very accurate.

You normally don't feel movement till about 16 weeks, maybe 12 at the earliest, so if you are feeling movement, you are either further along than you think, or possibly feeling gas. Although since you have had kids before, you can probably tell the difference.

Consider seeing a midwife instead of an OB/Gyn. I had both my girls with midwives and they are so wonderful. They really celebrate your pregnancy and birth, and have a much gentler and caring way about them. They may respond to you better than the standard drs do. And no, you don't have to have your baby at home. You can have the baby at a birth center or hospital with a midwife, too.

Here's some info:


Congrats and good luck!

You should go get prenatal vitamins anyway ... I don't think an Rx is needed for them anyway. Call your pharmacist!

You aren't the first I have heard where the MD says the same thing. The midwifery model of care is much better and more in-tune to the journey both a mother and her new child take through pregnancy. I suggest you go speak with a midwife. I have several friends who have highly recommended the Hollywood Birth Center and said they were outstanding. http://www.hollywoodbirthcenter.com/

Best of luck to you and congrats on the new addition to your family.

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