Homework Help! - Omaha,NE

3 boys here. the youngest is 4 and having fun, middle one is 10 and just because he put his name on the paper he gets an A, thats how easy it is for him. Now the 14 year old struggled from early on. he had help in grade school and a tutor now we send him to a learning center. but here is the deal, we stopped fighting told him his grade was up to him-"get the grade you want, but remember you may fail a grade because of what you chose to do" and we would give him things such as more time with friends or fishing, swimming, DQ icecream not items to later be taken away, not take away. so he started 3rd-4th grade, going to his room from right off the bus to do his homework. still grades not so good, but good study habits (I worry about the middle one). Give him extra weekends with friends-but the lies-boy- have a calm talk with him stateing the sadness over the lies and tell him there will more rewards with no lies and homework done.

oh we also give allowance money and they have to buy their own toys so if they lost a nikle for bad behavior that hurts if your allowance is only the same as the grade their are in per week.

our allowance is as follows
10% to God
20% to savings
30% to family government (I pay taxes so they have to also. It pays for family night out)
40% is spending for next week if they don't lose it for bad behavior this week.

You are in a hard spot. good luck to you

What about taking him to a Learning Center and having them help get things done. I am not saying that he needs help on the work but to have someone there to help motivate him might be the trick.

I am having the same problem with my 10 year old son. He has always been a bit of a challenge but this year I am going out of my mind with him. I have thought about finding someone to tutor him for homework because he doesnt listen to me and I end up losing my temper every single day and I feel like the worlds worst mother. If you find the answer to this problem please let me know you are not alone-hang in there.

hi Carol, i have a 13 yr old son in 7th grade and he too is the dame with not getting his home work done and turning it in he to is on iep and my support comes from my folks since my dad was a high school teacher and all we had to 4 way him to get his work done we too have had the groundings and the take aways and what have u and they did work till it came down to this is what is going to happend to u if u dont dtart to buckle down and he now realizes it and hes started to buckle down on things, does his teacher e-mail u his hm work at nights? that is what my sons teacher does and she ails it to my dad. is there any way that u can set something like that up and see if u can have iep come in and take a look at his progress and reevaluate him? u can do that. and see about setting something up with them as well? i dont know if i have helped u i understand that u are a single mom and the only thing that is missing here is i have a husband but he doesnt help with the kids an i have 3 kids 2 boys and 1 girl all the ages of 13,12,11.so i feel like a single mom at times . well good luck.

Hi :)
Here's what I've found-sometimes point cards (or token economies) just won't work. My daughter Madeline is 11 and in 6th grade, and has autism. Points don't work well with her either, so we have to give a reward immediately after she completes work, follows directions, etc. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't--it really depends on how much she wants the reward. I know that right now, she's earning peanuts (literally) for doing math facts.
A lot of the time, problems with even getting started on homework can come from the size of the chore itself. To accomplish a lot of homework (and for us, that might just be 2 pages), we break it down into sections. We decide what we're going to work for (the reward) before starting work. When Madeline gets one section done, she earns a reward. This could be an actual item, or just time alone for 10 minutes, or even going online to look up a new "obsession". Then we work on the next section, to earn another reward.
Lying, on the other hand, I know very little about. As far as I know, Madeline has only lied once, and then told me about it a few hours later. Most of the time, if she doesn't tell me about having homework, it's because she forgot that she had it, and then I consider it my fault for not going through her bookbag soon enough after school to catch it.
As far as punishment goes, I've given up on that along time ago with her. I've have been told by my psych professors that most of the time punishment won't work unless it occurs very close to the time of the act. Otherwise, the child cannot connect the punishment with the action (this also follows with rewards--wait no longer than 3 seconds to reward after the action). Therefore, I can't very well punish her for something she had done much earlier in the day!
Anyway, I know that some of this might not work for you--heck, you might have already gone through my suggestions, but I thought I'd "lend my two cents". Good luck!
~K.

I don't know what your financial situation is, but I work at a place called learningRx, I have worked there about a year now and it has helped so many kids in so many different situation. ONe thing that I hear from all the parents after only a couple weeks of training is that they notice a difference already. We train in cognitive skills, which would help your son tremendously. I don't know where you live, but they are going up all over the place. Go to their website...LearningRx.com, and let me know if you have any other questions!