Hitting..

Why doesn't she take you as seriously? Just make sure your punishments are always consistant and you follow through on any threats you make.

I have a three year old son who has started doing the same thing. I have a "little" chair that is kid size that is in the kitchen in a spot that is away from everything. I have told him just once he can not hit. So I concider that the warning, but, when he would hit me, I would immediately pick him up, put him in that chair for a time out. He sat there for three minutes. Then when the three minutes were over I go back over, ask him why he was put in time out. He says becuase I hit you. I say "that is not ok, we dont do that here." He says he is sorry and we kiss and make up etc....the thing is that you have to be very constant and if she gets out of the chair add a minute and you tell her you are adding a minute. Get something that has a buzzer, like an egg timer or something that she can see how much time is left. When she gets out of that chair say I am adding a minute and put her back in the chair. You have to follow through with this!!! The first time my son was put in time out he was there for 20 minutes untill he figured out that mommy wasnt joking. She will test her limits!! Don't let her push your buttons or walk over you, BE STRONG!! Good Luck!

Some good advice here already. My son is 2 1/2 and hits when he gets overstimulated or upset. I do the grab his hand and say no hitting but I also send him to his room for some alone time. It usually works well, and I think its partly because he is hitting for attention and isnt getting it, and partly because having time to himself calms him down and distracts him. I tried the hit back one time and it just escalated the problem and made me feel horrible. Good luck. Jen

Yes I have had that problem with both my younger kids. What I did and it seemed to work was just swat them back and ask them how they like to be hit. Not hard I think that was my problem is not enough discipline with my kids but try it and see if it works. Good luck

Our now 10-1/2 yr. daughter sometimes hit or kicked at her father and I when angry. Younger children don't know how to communicate their feeling to us adults and sometimes act out. She never did this to her classmates parents or family friends or neighbor providing child care for us. Our 5th grader has not hit in ages. One of my daycare mom (a Special Needs speech teacher), our girls, daycare children and myself have been hit, bruised from being bit, kicked and had our hair pulled. However, this boy was diagnosed about the age of 3 or 4 at St. Vincent's Hospital with Sensory Integretion Dysfunction. Therefore, he was developmentally behind his age, could not communicate with peer/adults so he hit, bit, etc. I got books related to "hitting" at RedLeaf Press, Children's Book-of-the-Month Club or Overstock.com. Also, the workshops available to parents/providers through Child Care Resource & Referral (CCR&R) help me tremendously.

I dont know how old your daughter is but its a phase that all kids go through. My daughter went through it when she was about one and a half to two. I also see and know other kids around the same age that are hitting. They really have no idea that it is wrong or that it can hurt. I ignored it and my daughter quickly stopped doing it. Its really hard to disipline a child for something they are doing if they dont even understand what they are doing.