This popped onto my facebook page. This is exactly what you are asking about.
Dr. Carl Pickard says, teens start pulling away and acting up so you want them to leave when they turn 18..
Of course you have a little more going on here.
Remember teens this age have a lot going on in their lives. Their friends are their #1 priority then it is themselves.. Parents are in there sprinkled like salt and pepper. It is the nature of the beast.
My father and I had a time from my teens till I was 30 where I kept him at a distance. he was an alcoholic, drug user (casual) and was pretty self centered.
He finally went into therapy and then went to AA and changed his life.
I still did not trust him. Even though he apologized and told me he was never going back to what he had been, I still did not trust him,.. I finally told him to quit apologizing to me and to instead "live the life he said he would". "His actions would speak louder than words" to me.. And Guess what? He did it!
Write her a letter and apologize. Be specific. Ask what else have you done that she wants you to know about. Let he know that if she does not tell you , you will never know. Then let her know you miss her and want to be close to her and that you are going to give her space.
Let her know that you want to work on this relationship and to please not put it off for too long, because you know that soon she will be in college and it will be hard to get together.
I am sending you a hug and peace, and strength.