Help with Getting My 2 Year Old Out of My Bed!

I had the same trouble with my little boy everyone told me if i did not get him out of bed with me he would still be there when he is eight years old. What I did was very hard but everyone told me this was the only way to get him to sleep in his bed. I layed him in his on bed, read him a story, gave him a kiss and a hug good night and told him mommy would see him in the morning. Of course it took about two weeks because everytime I left the room he would cry and I would come running to him. I stopped running to him and he finally quit crying. There was some times i cryed with him. I hated doing it but it was for the best. Maybe it will help for you to.

We had that problem when we put our daughter in a big bed. We finally had to put a baby gate in front of her door that she could not remove. I didn't want to close the door, because I thought that was mean. So the baby gate worked. She did fuss for a few nights but now she is sleeping in her own bed. Eventually we took the gate down, and if she won't stay in bed at night we tell her the gate will go back up and it puts an end to the roaming at bedtime. Good Luck!

Hate me or not, but get a routine with your child by doing what you were doing, laying down with him in his bed, but read a book there, or two, what ever you usually do. I would start during the day by preparing him by telling him "tonight, you are going to sleep in your big boy bed. What (stuffed animal) do you want with you?" Or what ever he may sleep with. Then at night, as he goes through his bed time routine, remind him again, take him into his bed, read the books, make sure he has a night light and his teddy (or whatever), and when he has had the books read, his last drink of water, his last potty, lay him down, kiss good night, and leave the room. If he throws a fit during reading time, I would continue to read to see if that will calm him. Just keep reading through the fit. He will scream, kick, what ever (I know, I have been there), but you have to stick to your guns. If he gets up, take him right back, and if you have to do it 100 times, eventually, he will tire. Within a week or so, this will stop, as long as you are consistant. But you have to keep a routine during this time, you can't stray from it. he will draw security from it. But again, you cannot give in, not one time. It is so hard, the hardest thing I ever did. But you can do it. good luck!

I have the same issues with my three year old!! OH MY GOD I LOVE HER BUT SHE IS A WILD WOMAN WHEN SLEEPING!!!! I will have to read your responses to see if maybe we can get this resolved together!! Let me know what you try!! I have seen the supernanny tactic and think it would work my problem with trying it....... I'm 8 months pregnant and sitting for too long the child growing inside doesn't like and is painful after a while. We have started potty training too.

MY 16 YR USE TO BE THE SAME WAY WHEN SHE WAS LITTLE AND WHEN I HAD MY SECOND DAUGHTER . I HAD ONE IN THE CRIB AND ONE IN MY BED . I UNDERSTAND WHAT YOUR GOING THUR . IT TOOK ME DATING SOME ONE ELES THAT WOULDN'T LET HER SLEEP IN BED WITH US . HAVE YOU TRYED MOVING HIS BIG BOY BED IN YOUR ROOM NEXT TO YOUR TILL HE GETS USE TO SLEEPING IN IT . OR IF YOU HAVE EVER WATCHED THE SUPPERNANNY SHE SAYS TO JUST KEEP PUTTING THEM BACK IN THERE BED THE WILL GIVE UP SOONER OR LATTER AND SLEEP IN THERE OWN BED YOU JUST HAVE TO BE WILLING TO PUT UP WITH THE TANTRUMS TILL HE GETS US TO HIS OWN BED . I HOPE THIS WORKS FOR YOU M.

I had the same problem with my oldest daughter. What I did was put her toddler bed next to our bed. There might have been some nights where she wouldnt sleep in her bed, but eventually she did convert into her own bed. Then as she slept in her bed more and more, we finally moved her bed in her own room. Then when I had my new daughter it wasnt such a shock.

I went through the same thing. Ds could get out of his crib at 18 months and would sleep in our bed. We let him for a year until it got to the point, I was being kicked and shoved way too much by him. It was no longer comfortable so we moved him back into his own room.

We had tried a toddler bed before since he could crawl out of the crib. But we got a big bed and the morning of the night we planned to put him back in his room, I bought the Thomas The Tank Engine bedding set with him in tow. When we got home, I explained that it was his new big boy bed and it would be awesome to sleep with THomas sheets lol. Then we washed the bedding and put it on the bed.

THe first night was very hard. He kicked and screamed. He had tears. He kept saying "I'm scared! There's monsters." But we held firm. We went in a few times and it took him about an hour to settle down and fall asleep. Of course it seemed much longer then that. THe next night, he fussed a little bit- maybe 15 minutes and that was it. We never had a problem after that.

Good Luck. It's very hard to listen to them cry like that but hold firm.

My two year old slept in our bed until he was 19 months old and sometimes still does. The thing that really helped us out was our pack and play. We put it in our bedroom for two weeks and he began to sleep there. When he started sleeping a full night in it we switched him to his room. Now the only time we have trouble getting him to sleep is when he's without his stuffed animal "bobby jack." The transition for your son won't be easy and it will take a while but begin now. I suggest talking to him about being a big boy and finding a stuffed animal that he loves. Also call the doctor for some tips.

Hi M.,

I was/am a co-sleeper with my children. Most of them transtioned into cribs at 9 months with no problems...much to my dismay, lol. My oldest though, now 9, slept with us until he was six!

Here's what happened.....ay 9 months I put him in his own bed. DH and I were trying to get pregnant with our second son. He did fine with sleeping in his own bed. Then our second child arrives on the scene. We had him in Indy because of a birth defect and our oldest was co-sleeping with my parents in a hotel for almost a month while we were in Indy. It was also his first time apart from me. Anyway, the first night home with his new brother he SCREAMED when we tried to put him to bed in his crib. Our second baby was unable to co-sleep due to an apnea monitor so we let the oldest sleep with us. We started by making him take his naps in his bed. I would lay with him until he fell asleep. I would try and explain that this was going to be his bed at night also but didn't force night sleeping just yet. Then we moved him into his big boy bed at night. We made a reward chart and for every three nights he slept in his own bed he got a small prize. Within in a few weeks he was going to bed in his own with no problems but around 3am he would always climb in with us. I think he was sleep walking and not really doing it on purpose because he seemed confused by it in the morning.

Try making it a positive thing for him. Make a three link chain with paper and let him remove a link every morning that he stays in and then have some small dollar store type gift to give him. Make it such a big deal and how proud you are or would be if he could be a big boy and sleep in his own bed. I do think it will be tough with a new baby arriving soon though. If the new baby gets your bed it may hurt your sons feelings. Maybe a compromise of letting him sleep on the floor in a sleeping bag might make him feel better. The biggest thing to press would be how impressed you are with the "big" things he does...even around the house, not just sleeping in his own bed. If you can get his desire to impress you to work for you, you might have a chance ;) Another thing we tried withour son was getting one of those tents that go over the beds. Made him feel more secure and it made it fun. Also maybe get a body pillow and sleep with it for a few weeks and then put that in your sons bed. I personally think my oldest just like to cuddle and the pillow helped him with that :)

GOOD LUCK!

PS I've always coddled, co-slept, nursed and used attachment parenting with all 4 of my kids. They are ALL very secure, well mannered, high self esteem children. I don't think showing love, affection or co-sleeping with them makes them bad, insecure people. I think always knowing that I am there for them makes them the secure kids they are. I'm into positive reinforcement, listening to there ideas and letting them have some control over the decisions made for there life. Just thought I would add that ;) You could ask anyone who knew my kids and they would tell you the same. You won't ever see supernanny having to visit my house! lol

I think that there's something that sometimes moms tend to forget when it comes to their children, and that is it is the parent who is in control in a parent/child relationship, not the child. I think that overall, it is the act of forgetting this very important concept that gets mothers and fathers into binds where there kids are out of control in one area, or even several areas.

You have to remember that a child crying is NOT the same as when you or another adult cries. We cry because we're sad, or happy, or hurting. I realize that a child cries when they get hurt too, but you understand, I'm sure, that most of the reasons a child cries are not the same ones that will make them cry when they're older. A child doesn't really understand yet how to control their feelings. They haven't learned yet the whole concept of keeping their composure. They just know that they want to cry, and so they do. They do it for attention, they do it to express their anger and other feelings, and lastly, they do it because they know mommy will cave! Now,that being said, you have to remember that it just plain isn't up to the child whether he/she sleeps with you or not. It's up to you. You are the mother and you are the one in control. Now, I don't agree with the whole sleeping with your child thing, but that's because I believe this severely compromises the child's early development of independency skills. Just keep in mind though that since you have allowed the child to sleep with you, you have made yourself his "security blanket". He now feels probably scared, and at the very least, very alone in his own room. So, try to replace yourself with something, so to speak. Let him sleep with your pillow, so he can smell you while he's trying to fall asleep. You can even pull a blanket off of your own bed for him to sleep with. Also, buy a monitor that also has a walkie talkie on it, or just buy a walkie talkie. YOu can show him that if he ever needs you, he can speak into the monitor and you'll be able to hear him. You could also speak back if you'd like. Now, you'll also have to break him of constantly getting up throughout the night and coming to your room. Just pick him up or grab him by the hand, walk him quietly to his room, and put him back into his bed. Don't talk to him while you do it because that would be "showing him attention" Believe me, a few nights of consistently doing this, will make him realize that there's no use in trying anymore. Kids are so smart and if you cave just one time by letting him crawl in bed with you, or you crawling in bed with him, they will remember and it will ALWAYS be worth trying to them, because they will know that you have a breaking point in there somewhere. Do not sleep with him either, it's just trading one problem for another. Kids need to learn to be independent. They need to learn to fall asleep by themselves, without mommy walking or rocking them, they need to learn how to fall back asleep by themselves when they wake up at night, and they can only learn these very important values if we as mothers give them the opportunity to do so. If we keep running in their rooms everytime they cry, and allowing them to sleep with us, then WE become "what calms them down". In my humble opinion, this isn't the healthiest way for a 2, 3, 4, 5, or older child to learn independence.

Hang in there, it will take a good 3 days, but once it's done, it's such a remarkable relief and you'll be so very proud of your child...and yourself!

We had this problem with our daughter. My husband and I would put her in her bed and sit next to her bed on the floor. She would scream the first couple of nights, but it did get better. Each night we would move closer to the door. And she would cry less and fall asleep faster. It took about 2 weeks but she is now able to sleep in her own bed. The key is stay strong and not to give in. Even though its hard since they are so cute.

Hey M.. I think this is something that is tough for every mom. It basically comes down to you having to put your mind to it. Yes, he is going to be mad, and cry and scream and all that good stuff that we can't stand--but in the end it will be worth it. My little one slept in our bed until just about 3 months ago. I used the SuperNanny tactic. I started by putting her in her bed and sitting right at the side. When she would cry I would comfort her by patting her back or butt and tell her that mommy was right here. Then after about a few days of that I would sit a little farther away..and eventually worked my way out of the room. It takes time!!! Good luck
T.

I have a 26 month old that did the same thing up until about a month ago. I wish I could give you a quick easy fix but we had to do it the hard way! I watched an episode of Nanny 911 with the same problem and I followed what she said! I know that your child can just get right out of bed and want to get in yours but we just kept putting him back in his bed and letting him scream out. Eventually they will quit getting up! Surprisingly enough it only took 3 nights to get it down. I think it's just all about consistency with them! I'm sorry you're in this dilemma, it's so hard! My husband and I just had constant talks with our son and told him that he was going to sleep in his big boy bed, telling him that mommy and daddy are right across the hall, that we love him and told him goodnight! Sorry, I'm not much more help, I can only tell you what we did! Good luck! E.