Help Support - Orange Park,FL

R.;

I'm sorry you and your child are going through this, but bravo for looking for help. I'm an incest survivor myself, so I can highly recommend therapy. You can't just ignore this; it only gets worse.

I'd recommend the Victim Services Center or the Women's Center. If you can't find their contact numbers, please let me know.

L.

My 15 year old was with her father over the summer and was awakened to his roomate rubbing his hands all over her. Her father called the police immediatly and the man was arrrested. I thank god that it did not go any further than that. I can tell you though there was still a lot of trauma. Counseling is something I recomend. Also, websites where you can share experiences. My daughter would not see a counselor but she would talk on the computer to strangers. As long as they get it out. If your child is very young though that will not work and you should find a good counselor.

I WOULD DEFINATELY PUT HER IN COUSILING IF YOU KNOW FOR SURE. IF NOT I DO KNOW SOME QUESTIONS TO ASK IF YOU ARE TRYING TO FIGURE IT OUT. I WAS MOLLESTED, NOT AT THAT YOUNG OF AN AGE THOUGH. GOOD LUCK AND I AM SORRY BOTH OF YOU ARE HAVING TO GO THROUGH THIS.

I agree with both of these responses. Call the authorities and at least have it investigated and get your child in counseling. If the allegations for some reason prove false then the authorities can figure that out. However, it sounds like counseling will be needed either way.

Good luck and I have to add that I do not know you but I am so sorry that you and your family are having to deal with such a horrible thing. I am sure that there are support groups out there and I am sure that a web search will probably give you several. If you contact your local authorities they can actually probably refer you to some local community groups to offer you support through this healing time.

How old is your child? Was it a family member or a babysitter? I was sexually abused when I was 8 by my cousins husband. He threatened that he would hurt me or my mother if I told. I kept it in until I was 21 years old. It effected my life and how I trusted men. Dealing with it at age 21 was very hard. If your child is old enough to talk, take them to counceling NOW! Make sure that they know it is not their fault and let them know that they can tell you anything even though they may be scared. Definitely go to the authorities if you suspect this is happening to your child and make sure you also take them to the doctor who will most likely be able to tell if they were.
Good luck, it is a very difficult situation. I was extremely protective of my oldest daughter, sheltered her too much I suppose. God Bless you and your family

have you look into maybe a child phycologist or a counselor..maybe your pediatrican can help

R.,
I am sorry you have to go through this. I hope things get better for your family.

J.

I have not "thankfully" had to deal with my children being abused in anyway. first of all when did you find out? did the child tell you? did you contact the police dept? I am so sorry for you and your child it is horrible that there are actually monsters out there who think kids are just objects to be used!
you need to get involved with some sort of counceling for you and your child, you cant go it alone! there are parents groups to help with support for you guys.no matter what call the authorities! you are your childs biggest advocate so fight like hell for him/her. god be with you and your children! I will say a prayer for you guys! so sorry again for what you and your child are going through!

I hope you haven't taken your children back to the baby sitter. How old are your other kids. To think that a 14 month old baby being sexually abused turns my stomach beyond belief. You must not allow your child to be cared for by the same people if there in suspect, and suspect everyone! This is exactly why I will not work before my children go to school.

I have some advice for you since this has happened to me but i don't feel very comfortable talking about it where everyone else can see it. If you want you can send me an email at ____@____.com if you want to talk further.

Hi,

I am sorry you are going through this. First thing is first. Please go to the police. Let this person get in trouble, no matter who it is. Second.. get your little angel to the doctor. Third, there is a chance they will block it out their head. I had suffered it at the hands of my grandfather (Maternal). She never told my Dad and shipped him back home to his country. I don't remember much. But think about counseling. Observe the childs behavior and get some counseling yourself. I wish you the best and don't feel guilty, but trust no one!!!! I don't, because after that, as I got older (my teens) I had at least 2 friend's father, try to kiss me. Thank goodness I must have a strong mentality, I didn't let it phase me. I only stayed away from them. Teach your children to come to you and let them know that it isn't their fault if something happens. I know so many people that this happens to, it's unbelievable. I have a little 20 mos old girl. I don't trust anyone!!!! My prayers are wth you and I know you'll get through this.

A friend in Orlando

My daughter was abused when she was 12. She became severely depressed, wanted to die, still has a voice in her head that reviews her day...If your child is in school, call student services and they'll make sure the school's psychriatrist/social worker talks to your child. They do some counciling and they can help you decide what level of therapy your child needs. Every child is different. Mine needed medication therapy as well as talk therapy. Turning Point is a councilng service that is great with abused children.

Have patience. It's a long slow road. It's been a year and I see a HUGE improvement in my daughter, but she's not completely (mentally) healed yet.

If I can help more, let me know!