"Help" My Girl Is Really Fussy for No Reason That I Can See.

Updated on May 08, 2008
T.S. asks from Alpine, UT
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My daughter who I love is driving me crazy. For a couple of weeks now she has been really fussy on and off. She does not appear to be sick in any way, no fever,no runny nose,and I dont think she is teething (?), nothing that I can see is wrong. She is not eating as well as she use to and spits everything out. She is really clingy and wants me to hold her a lot more then usual. I don't know what to do and I am really tired of her being fussy normally she is a very good girl with a great tempermant but latley I don't know what is going on and it is getting hard to deal with. Any suggestions of what I could do would be great.

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S.M.

answers from Casper on

I would advise you to visit an herbalist with her. Sometimes they have things that can calm kids down.

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J.S.

answers from Colorado Springs on

T.,
It really sounds like teeth. Does she have any at all? My daughter is almost 15 months and has 9 teeth already. This is her typical behavior when she is teething. A lot of the times their gums will become swollen before a tooth pops thru. Oragel rubbed on her gums will help. Tylanol or motrin works great. Also, frozen waffles, humpherys teething tablets(desolve in water and rub on her gums) will help with some relief. Is she chewing or drooling a lot? Consider all possibilities but this is a spitting image of my daughters behavior when she is cutting a tooth! Let me know if you want some additional info! Good Luck!

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S.B.

answers from Denver on

Consider food intolerance. My son is Dairy, soy and corn intolerant. It changed his behavior drastically when he was dairy free for one month. this was about 18 months. I did the GI doctor and got really serious around 2 years as he had diariah and stuff. The corn was a kicker onthat one as it is in everything! I used to have joke with another stay at home Dad when we dropped off our kids...since both boys were running around happy and having fun (but a little happy hyper), we would say, too bad we can't drug them with dairy. They lay around, whine, etc. I let hm have birthday cake the other day and the evening was like I was living with a manic depressive child. screaming one minute, delighted the next, crying the next.

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D.K.

answers from Denver on

Teething can start very early without a lot of signs. If she is slobbering has swollen gums that is an indicator. Both of my kids got fussy during teething issues. Two year molars are the worst. I doubt it is food allergies as you would have known that a long time ago unless you introduced something new just recently. Fussiness is normal the closer they get to 2 year mark when the independence and power struggles start. She can just be frustrated and that her way, just tell her you will help her if she doesn't whine, teach her to be patient with her toys, even if it means taking something away if it is really making her upset until she cools off. It is hard to say, I would say if you are truly concerned ask the Dr but all kids go through phases.
I would say if she is eating much that is a HUGE indicator she could be getting molars in, those are painful and both of my kids barely ate. Just set food out, if she chooses to spit it out, get out down and walk her away from the table, she will eat if she wants to. They also go through seperation anxiety around the 2 year mark too, sometimes before even.
Hang in there...believe me it can get worse around the 3 year old mark, believe me, especially with girls!!

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B.G.

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T.-
Sounds like Addison is teething. They get their 2 year molars, and you saying that she is fussy and spits everything out just makes me think that. Just make sure she gets enough fluids and try to make her smoothies with healthy fruits and veggies in it and try to get her some nutrients. Also, Motrin or Tylenol for pain. I may be wrong, but that's what it sounds like.

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T.T.

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Is she getting enough sleep? She might be getting molars, too. They don't always get a runny nose or fever with teeth. I'd check the back of her mouth. Otherwise she might just be going thru a phase. Toddlers can be baffling creatures. They're growing and changing so fast it can be scary for them. Encourage her but let her know that you are there for her.

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C.N.

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T.,
Sounds like you and Michelle S with her 18-month-old son should get together and realize what a blessing it is to have a child that is starting to realize that mom is totally independent from them. It is a scary time for children to go through. Be willing to show patience and love.
With Joy,
C.
Loving Connections LLC

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J.O.

answers from Boise on

I would first take her to the doc and make sure everything is ok, sometimes the signs aren't as obvious, if it is OK then it is a phase and my 20 month old did the same thing last month, he has been better this month but still can be very clingy, I like you thought I was going to go crazy but it has gotten better so there is hope, just hang in there and know that this along with other toddler issues don't last very long!

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M.N.

answers from Denver on

Hi T.,
I have a dd who used to be fussy when she was an infant and she stopped eating purees and certain food when she was about 7 months old. When I took her to the Peds I found out she had food allergies that could be upsetting her stomach, also she was a child who has chronic ear infections with the teething.There is a chance she could be starting on her back molars( her 2 yr molars) my daughter still hasn't received hers but she will be 2 in june but she started teething them about your age. I would have the drs take a blood test and see if theres any allergies that she may have. I hope this helps and gl

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C.C.

answers from Denver on

Hi T. - so far the advice you've received has seem right on target. 2 yr molars are the first thing that came to mind since she is not eating well. My little guy got his molars around this time too and acted much the same way. He didnt drool or chew on things. Fussiness and refusing foods were what I noticed. I think there was just a lot of pressure in his jaw and in his ears.

You might consider giving her a dose of ibuprofen since it is a pain reliever and an anti-inflammatory. If her behavior improves, it could just be due to discomfort. I've had great luck with a homeopathic remedy made by a company called Highlands. The teething tabs worked better for sore gums and the earache tabs worked better for the pressure. They are sold at Walmart as well as the organic grocery and vitamin stores. My chiropractor recommended dosing every 20 minutes until the pain subsided and then follow the package directions.

EDIT: T. - I know some of the moms suggested food allergies or intolerances as the culprit. These can lead to fussiness and behavior problems but they usually are also accompanied by symptoms like a runny nose, eczema, diahrrea etc. Also, oftentimes moms blame a food intolerance when in fact, food choices create drops and surges in blood sugar. Just food for thought.

Best of luck in all things!

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S.M.

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T.,
You may want to ask a doctor.. Is it possible shes teething and you just cant see the signs yet? Also, where dose she go when you work one day a week? Meaning, is it someone trusted - could something be wrong there? Umm... Maybe its a growth spurt, they can eat a lot then not eat as much and grow and sometimes its a little painful. Maybe, a change in your life style that is affecting her? Maybe she is just going through a phase - but unless you can see or figure out what it could be you probably should check with a doctor just in case its some sort of infection or something that you can't see the symptoms from. LOL, I don't know if that was any help - but some things to think about:)
Best Wishes and Good Luck,
S.

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L.C.

answers from Denver on

Hi. My 18 month old son is also in a fussy stage. He is usually easy going and not fussy. He does have a runny nose, however, so I am thinking he's getting ready to cut some big molars in back. I suggest, that if you don't think teething is the problem, that you take her to her doctor. If she's not acting normal and you don't have ideas on what it could be, then maybe something's wrong that she can't communicate about. Also, is she constipated? Our second daughter was so fussy and wouldn't eat a thing and rarely went poopy, so we took her to the ped and got some medicine that we still use now (she's 3). those are just some ideas. Hope it turns out well and she's back to normal soon. Nothing worse than having something wrong with our babies and not knowing what to do.

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M.S.

answers from Salt Lake City on

Like several people here, I would think she is teething. Try putting some oragel or ambisol(sp?)on her gums and see if that helps. My son always stopped crying and it was almost like he thought it felt cool. Good luck!

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A.R.

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She may be cutting her molars; those teeth move lots before they actually erupt. Try giving her some children's Tylenol or Motrin and see if that makes a difference.

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C.B.

answers from Denver on

She might be getting her molars. If she has a personality change like this it is usually teeth. It would explain why she is not eating and spiting food out because it hurts! Try a popcicle. See if it easies the pain any. Feel in her mouth where her teeth are coming in and feel for bumps. If they are there, she is just trying to get teeth. You might feel better if you call the Dr. just to check.
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S.M.

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Hi T.,

It could be an ear infection or molars. Is she fussier at nap time or at night? Molars take a while longer to break thru, sometimes it seems like forever. One of my son's got all four 2yr in one week. But, I could tell he had been uncomfortable for about 6 weeks. He also seems to get an ear infection every time he would get a tooth from all the extra drool. When you brush her teeth, look and see if it her gums are red or puffy. It might be hurting her to eat.

I would call the dr. since she isn't eating as usual and it has been a couple of weeks.

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