B.S. asks from Saint Paul, MN on December 24, 2009
Help! My Baby Won't Sleep!
My 7 mth old takes naps perfectly during the day, goes to bed awake, is in a routine, knows how to fall asleep, etc., but for some reason he wakes up at least once, more like 3-4 times every night! He slept through the night when he was 2 wks old, and occasionally since, including a straight wk when I tried a sleep book, but got a dbl ear inf, and has been horrible since (2 mths now). He started rolling over in his sleep and can't figure out how to get back, but that's only 1/2 the time. I don't feed him at night, so he's not hungry or expecting food. Sometimes the nuk calms him back to sleep, sometimes he needs to be rocked. I've let him cry it out (both in increasing intervels, and large clumps of time), and it seems to do NOTHING! He just gets louder and louder and keeps the whole house awake! My 3 yr old was a PERFECT sleeper, so I have NO IDEA how to solve this problem! Any suggestions? I have to add (after the first responses) that I haven't let him cry for more than 7 min at a time (start with 3, go in and reassure, move to 5, reassure,etc). And I do know he's not hungry, because I know his hunger cues, and this is different. I had been trying to feed him at first, and it didn't decrease the wakings. He goes from about 10-7 without eating, so it's not very long. Also, he falls asleep just as fast with the nuk half the time as he would if I fed him. Thanks for the advice ladies!!
C.D. answers from La Crosse on December 24, 2009
Babies change a lot from month-to-month their first year out of the womb. His cries are because he is hungry. You should feed him when he wakes in the middle of the night. His stomach is bigger and he needs nighttime comforting when he awakes. Nighttime comforting to a baby is holding them and feeding them. I urge you to give up any 'crying it out' you have thought of practicing, because this will not help him sleep but rather it will teach him that nobody will respond to his cries. If you were visiting someone in the nursing home and the person next door were sobbing uncontrollably, wouldn't you get up to see what they needed, or get a worker to check on them? We need to do the same thing for babies. They are helpless and need us when they cry.
J.S. answers from Minneapolis on December 25, 2009
First I just have to say, you'd know your baby best. If you've tried feeding him and it's not working, then let's move on. :)
My six month old is doing the same thing. Slept seven hours a night until he hit five months and then all the sudden he just started not sleeping. My three year old was a worse sleeper so I'm going reverse. I've heard everyone talk about how once they start being able to roll around and crawl the sleeping goes right out the window. My advice is just to keep on keeping on, it sounds like you're doing the right thing.
If you're wanting to try something else....I'm a big Baby Whisperer advocate myself if you've not seen those books. It's a good middle of the road approach, although it's not that different from what you're already doing.
But honestly, I think you're just in the middle of a growth issue that'll fix itself. I know that's frustrating when you're exhausted . Hang in! :)
A.C. answers from Minneapolis on December 25, 2009
My son slept through the night from about 3 months to 7 months when he started waking up again at night. It also coincided with him crawling a lot more. So, from 7 months to 11 months I got up to feed him once a night when he woke up because I figured he needed the food. At about 10 months though, I started decreasing the amount of time I nursed him before putting him back to sleep and then one night he just slept all the way through and has ever since except when he is sick (he just turned one last week!).
J.S. answers from Minneapolis on December 24, 2009
I agree with the other posts (maybe he is hungry, maybe not but it doesn't hurt to see) but is he teething? My daughter was a great sleeper the first 4-5 months then ever since teeth started coming around 6 months, she's been up at least once, more like 2-4 times. I just nurse her and put her back to bed. It's the fastest way for me to get back to sleep. I also give her some ibuprofin before bed, which helps her get a bigger chunk of sleep before she starts waking. Those teeth just keep coming through the first two years.
Good luck, know that this too shall pass and by age 2, he'll be sleeping through the night all the time. :)
M.W. answers from St. Cloud on December 25, 2009
I would definitely try taking him to the chiropractor! It has worked wonders on our kiddos when they start having trouble sleeping. Good luck.
K.S. answers from Milwaukee on December 25, 2009
I don't have any great words but I have to share that I think some babes are just difficult like that. My son didn't really sleep through the night until he was just over a year. It was incredibly frustrating-I like my sleep! Sometimes I think these things are just plain out of our control. With my son it wasn't hunger either. I would just get up and rock him back to sleep until he finally stayed sleeping on his own. I feel for ya and hang in there!
B.W. answers from Minneapolis on December 24, 2009
Just because you have't fed him at night in the past doesn't mean he's not hungry now. Nurse him when he wakes and he will fall back asleep full and happy.
Babies go through growht spurts pretty often, and their sleep habits and eating habits change with those growht spurts. If he's waking and can't be comforted, feed him! He's not big enough to cry it out and it will just frustrate you and him.
Your kids are different, they will always be different, so don't treat them the same or expect them to react the same to situations. Life will be alot easier if you don't compare them and just go with the flow of your baby. Doesn't it sound easier to feed him when he wakes and go back to bed than to spend hours fighting with a baby who is hungry and tired and screaming?
H.J. answers from Minneapolis on December 24, 2009
Ohh I would still be giving him at least one feeding at night. He is still a little young to be going the whole night on an empty tummy. But having an ear infection and just in general baby's have different sleep patters and some just can't go the hole night until later. Please to hold him up to the same standards that your 3 year old did. He is a different child and has different needs and feelings.