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HELP!!! Am I in Labor?

Hello all wonderful mommas,
This is my third child, and i am in the midst of a disagreement with my OB. My family Dr. tested me positive for this pregnancy and I went to my Ob for confirmation. He said that I was 3 to 4 weeks less than what the dates of my last period put me at for delivery. So he switched my due date from Feb. 23 2010 to March 19 2010. Then he tells me that this baby is overly large, Because I am measuring at 38 or 39 weeks instead of where he puts me which is only 34 weeks. so instead of admitting that he is wrong and I am right at this point he is just waiting it out. Well I am too far along to switch Dr.s now, and my insurance won't cover many other and they believe it or not are actually worse than he is.
So now that back ground is out of the way, I think maybe I am starting the labor process. But With my first two, I was never at this point naturally because I was induced, also I had back labor with them.
This Baby has, Dropped really low and the pelvic pressure is extremly intense, the fetal movements are not as regular as they were, I have frequent constant urination and bowel movements. I am not sleeping more than 4 hours a night and not straight through, To even look at food, water or coffee makes me so nauseated that I have to walk away. I almost feel like I have the flu, I have been making myself eat and move around. But my pelvis just feels like it is being pried open with pliers and I am so uncomfortable. A little pain, but I have a high pain tolerance. I have not felt anything really in my belly, some tightening around my belly button but i can not tell if that is a contraction or the babys spine. I have no idea if i lost my plug because with two small ones I do not have time to check most of the time, had more discharge but it is thick and more yellowy and if my fliud is leaking I can't tell like I would be able to with a gush, due to all of the discharge and urination. Some times the pressure is so intense that I just want to squat down or pull my legs close to my chest to get comfortable, but it isn't regulated. I am also extremly irritable as in not fit to be around people and restless but tired.
I know that this sounds silly being my third and all, But the Dr. isn't even checking me yet for signs of labor because of our disagreement in dates. and He says if I start bleeding or my water breaks to go the hospital, but that it is probably false labor or that if it is real labor that they will give me a shot to stop it.
I do not know if I am in labor and when I looked it up on line, all the sites seemed to contradict themselves and everyone around me seems to think I should know what I am doing this being my third. If i am in labor when should I really go to the hospital because I have been like this for 48 hours and should I allow them to give me the shot? I do not want to wait too long if I am in labor, but I also with tow small ones here do not want to go just to go.
Thank you all.

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Hi, I have had 3 children and have worked as an OB nurse. It does not sound like labor yet. Contractions should become regular and you will have trouble talking through them. You should wear a peri pad to tell if your water is broke or you are leaking urine. If the water is broke it should have a distinct smell not a urine smell and should be clear, if you have a greenish discharge it could be meconium stained fluid and you need to go to hospital for that. You should go to the hospital for decreased baby movement also they can test and see if the baby is moving enough. I know that the end of pregnancy is uncomfortable and don't worry most OB nurses understand if you come in with questions and don't know if this is labor even with the 8th baby...lol....every pregnancy is different. Good luck! ; )

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I don't know if you're in labor, as every labor is so different.
Some other posts think you are not in labor because you are not in awful pain, can breathe...
For my daughter, I left home and walked to the hospital because my husband insisted and wanted to be on the safe side.
So, we left home at 8:30pm, walking (the hospital was 3/4 mile away). I was joking on the way to reassure my husband.
Turned out at 9:30, one hour later, our daughter was born. Just after arriving at the hospital, my water broke and I started pushing.

If you are in doubt, call whoever can watch your little one and go to the hospital to be checked. If you are not in labor, you'll be reassured. If you are, it's the place to be. As mentioned in a previous post, nurses and midwives are understanding and will answer your questions without thinking that you should know better the third time around.

Good luck and keep us posted (if you can!)

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I have a few concerns with this...First, how did he verify the difference in dates? Was it through ultrasound or just guessing? U/S are most accurate in the early stages. If your early u/s was consistent with the March due date, then you could just be having a large baby. My 2nd child, I was measuring 44 weeks and he was just at 38 weeks when he was born. Every pregnancy is different.

I never had the gush of my water breaking but instead had trickling for hours. With the discomfort, I also have a high tolerance and to me it sounds like it COULD be labor. I had 2 children without pain meds and it was realtively bearable up until the last hour.

If you are uncomfortable to this extent, go to the hospital. Have them check and do an ultrasound and take it from there. Keep us posted!

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I agree that you should go to the emergency room. All of the OB nurses are very helpful. Be your own advocate!

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Hello -
It sounds to me like the pain and discomfort you are feeling are due to the baby dropping down, not necessarily from being in labor. The nausea you are feeling is probably because of the pain, even if the pain doesn't seem that intense to you. I get migraines and they make me nauseous even when I don't feel the pain is really that bad.
When you are in labor, you will feel contractions. Your water may or may not break. Often in first pregnancies, labor begins with water breaking, but in later pregnancies, not as often, I hear. You didn't mention anything about contractions, so are you having real ones?
I recommend getting one of those wraps that helps to hold the baby up off of your pelvis. I used one with my first pregnancy and it really helped. I saw one at the babies 'r us on sawmill/161. You can also get them online.
http://www.fitmaternity.com/maternity-clothes/m1.html
http://www.daisychainmaternity.com/collections/daisychain
http://www.cheekymonkey.ca/BellySling.htm
http://www.bellybra.com/
or make your own
http://www.parentsconnect.com/tips/give_belly_a_lift.jhtml
Good luck enduring the rest of the pregnancy! The end will be worth it, right?
Blessings,
J.

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dont take a shot to stop it if YOU think you are in labor! You know your body best abd this ti me sounds like it. Is the pain regulated? You had mentioned it wasnt but if it is now then they need to be at least 2 minutes apart b4 they will let you stay in the hospital. Just keep walking around and breathing. Try to stay calm. If the pain is too much though i would consider the hospital definently but if yiu can bear it then do it. If you are in labor now dont let the dr give you a shot to stop it b/c obviously your body wants this baby out now! Good luck will keep youin my prayers tonight

as an after thought...might want to try a midwife if available and youcan get the extra cash they can do a quick ckeck maybe?

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Everyone said you will know when you are in labor. They were right. You will know without doubt. The super intense contractions every 2 minutes after waking up at 1 am were mine. Everything I paid attention to said time the contractions - they should get closer together even if you lay down. My son dropped before 36 weeks and I went full term. There was definitely the feeling of pressure on my pelvic floor for weeks. Plus Braxton-Hicks that tried to trick me (had them from 6 months on).

Good luck.

I can't answer that---- but please make sure that you have someone available at any time to help drive you to hospital (in case you become unable to drive), and to watch your kids, etc!

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