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Updated on May 12, 2011
J.M. asks from Los Angeles, CA
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So i'm in third pregnancy... and for some reason all I can do this time around is worry. My first trimester I was very emotional and felt so depressed. I'm not sure but I cant help but to think that something will be wrong with my baby and I just start to over analyze. I've gotten no negative results, so I just feel like i'm driving myself crazy over nothing. I thought it could possibly because with my last son I had an abnormal results for the AFP (I believe it's called) but thank God my son was perfect. My last two pregnancies were great, so i'm just wondering if anyone has ever felt the same way???

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P.O.

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One pregnancy as you've seen doesn't determine the next, and you have reason to worry, but try not to do so. The negative/positive AFP always messes with our brain..and 8 times out of 10 they are not right. All the best, think positive!

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V.N.

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I have felt that way. Like the other post said each pregnancy is different. Try to keep yourself calm. Play with your other children. Get out, go for a walk. While the tests are coming back normal and your allowed to do stuff (and you can actually move!) Enjoy this wonderful time and when you worry try to write it down to get it out of your head, on paper or start a blog. Don't bottle it up!
And congratulations!

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C.M.

answers from New York on

OMG!! I was a worry wart during my pregnancy. I cried a lot. If I wasn't crying, I was over thinking everything. I thought that my baby was going to come out mervous due to what I was going through. Eventually I calmed down. He came out perfect!! Your perfectly normal. Just relax and take it easy. All is going to be fine. :) Good Luck!

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S.S.

answers from Los Angeles on

I've heard that it's common for parents of two healthy children to worry most during the third pregnancy. It's about feeling that they are tempting fate. I'd heard that before I was pregnant with my third and I still went through it. The best advice I have is to relax anyway. (Try not to roll your eyes, lol.) You won't help anything by worrying, and you don't want to look back on this as a stressful time.

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J.S.

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I did. My last pregnancy was very difficult on me emotionally and physically. I didn't realize the increasing physical difficulties were from fibromyalgia and thought it was just from years in retail and the hardship that repeated pregnancies and age put on the body.

It was particularly emotionally difficult because we moved into a new house in the middle of it. The move triggered the worst symptoms in my daughter's Autism and this was when she was a toddler so it was before we even knew it was Autism.

Then my husband lost his job two weeks after we moved in until right before the baby was born. I was worried about the pregnancy because right before conceiving her, I'd had a pregnancy loss. I'd had nightmares that she had cystic fibrosis and other diseases and disorders so I had every battery of tests that the blood tests can tell you for reassurance. I had a posterior placenta so I couldn't feel her move and needed non-stress tests and weekly ultra-sounds.

Add to that, my MIL thought, "Two children is enough for anyone. What business does anyone have having three children?" Yeah, thanks MIL, you had five kids so which three would you have told you wish had never been born?

But for all of that worry and stress my daughter was born perfect and she's been an absolute joy. I wish I could multiply her.

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M.K.

answers from Los Angeles on

I am about 11 weeks into my third pregnancy and I am feeling the same way. I am so sick and it is making me really depressed that I can not spend as much time with my first two as I would like. I really wanted a third, but now I am thinking "what the hell did I do?" I have two great kids, but both of them were horrible pregnancies. Why would I do this to myself again? I am so much more emotional than I remember from the first 2 times. I have heard from friends that this is common with the third, but gets better as you start feeling less sick and more comfortable.

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J.M.

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I was a total nervous wreck during my whole second pregnancy. The good news is that the undiagnosed post-partum depression that I had after my first did not return after my second. Better during than after, in my experience.

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