Haveing Trouble Getting Pregnant

Hey J.,

I see that you are active in your church, I'd like to give you spiritual advice before you seek your OB/GYN... In reading your request, it reminded me of 1st Samuel ch.1. This story is of Hannah who couldn't conceive, so she seeked the counsel of GOD, then he blessed her with Samuel. I will definetly keep you in prayer.

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Hi J.,

I highly recommend Taking Charge of Your Fertility by Toni Weschler (spelling?). It requires some work on your part (get your hubby to read parts of it too so he's involved). All of my friends who have used it have gotten pregnant within 6 months. It's something I think every woman should know about her own body but nobody tells us! Good luck.

Most OB/GYN's will advise you to try for 12 months before contacting them for infertility testing. That being said, there is a thing called secondary infertility, meaning you didn't have trouble concieving #1, but are having trouble w/ #2.

Have you tried charting your cycles? What about using the ovulation predictor kits? Those are the things my OB/GYN adivsed me to do when we'd tried uncessefully for 12 months.

As for insurance coverage, I've found that most companies either offer absolutely no infertility coverage or coverage that only applies to certain kinds of infertility treatment. For me, my infertility testing was covered at 50%. We moved on to artifical insemination, which was also covered at 50%. When we moved on to IVF, we didn't have any coverage at all.

If you haven't concieved by the end of 12 months, I would think it would be reasonable to request an appointment w/ your OB/GYN.

Good luck!

J.,

I have been trying to concieve for over 16 months. When we started to try I was calculating my temp, and all that stuff they tell you to do when you are trying. After a year of that My OBGYN started testing my husband and I for fertility issues. I did find that our insurance doesn't cover most of the proceedures. They claim to cover "diagnosis" so you have to tell your doctor to bill under "family planning" and not infertility. After a few test I am on my firt month of Clomid. I started with a small dose so we will see what happens! If I were you I would talk to your OB..

You can buy an ovulation tester at Walgreens - it will tell you when you are ovulating - and abstain for a while - - - then when you ovulate he has saved up a bit and you have a better chance....

OR - - - you can do what those of us that get pregnant too easy dream of - and keep having fun - let nature take it's course - it's not a race - God will send you that baby when you are all ready....

When "we" try to do something, we get impatient and we always wonder if this is the day it will happen. It is very natural not to get pregnant right away. It took us a little over 2 years. The doctors kept telling me it was the stress of work. I did work too much, 60-70 hours a week. So one day...I quite and the next thing I knew (within 2 months) I was pregnant. I relieved the stress of worrying about things at work. Just relax, the best part about having a baby is making it!!

it took us 3 years to get baby number two. i even had a miscarrage somewhere in the middle of it. what i did was i charted my tempurature every day (yes, for 3 years) to see when i was ovulating. that helped alot. it will also help clue you in if you are pregnant. that is called basal body tempature charting. then the month that i got pregnant with my #2, i used that clear blue easy ovulation kit. it worked! with the 2 methods, we got our baby! good luck and dont give up!

11 months is and isn't a long time. My Dr. said it could take time as well. I would talk to your OB just to get an opinion, maybe some better tracking ideas. He/she would definitely be able to tell you which fertility treatements, if any, are covered by insurance.

Take care, keep us posted!
M. M.

There is this thing fertility tracker it is a microscope that you lick first thing in the morning and when it shows ferning its baby making time. It easier than it sounds. My cycle was very irregular and after tracking one month I got pregnant the next. You can find them online for like $50 Good Luck!!

I wouldnt suggest fertility options - they have been known to cause blood clots. There is alot of natural options to choose from - i dont know what else you have tried but feel free to write me & i hope you find something that works.

Nope, I don't think you're being impatient....in fact I think you're being very patient! I don't want to freak you out but you might want to consider asking your OB/GYN about doing some blood tests to see if you have developed Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome. One of the symptoms is an irregualr cycle. I have it & was diagnosed in 1997 & we were able to concieve & now have 2 boys but w/the help of infertility drugs. Our bodies change so much after pregnancy so you might want to have a physical to check if all is in working order. As far as what infetility procedures are covered, you should check w/your health care provider since it all differs depending on your coverage. We have Kaiser & w/our coverage, all infertility excluding IVF was covered. We still had to pay our co-pay for the office visits & for the meds but it was significantly cheaper. I'm not sure about natural ways to regulate your cycle but try asking at a health food store, research on line or ask your doctor. Good luck!

J.,

It is definitely time to talk to you OB/Gyn to see why you aren't getting pregnant. Once you know what is causing you to not get pregnant, your OB should be able to help you figure out what to do next. In my opinion, if you have been trying for 11 months without success, it is time to see your doctor to see what is going on.

T.

Hey J.,

My hubby and I are having the same problem. Although we never used protection, our daughter is now 2 years next month and we have been trying for over a year now. My hubby found some pills online that are suppose to help with regulating your cycle and to help your hubby boost his count. They are called fertilaid and they do have a .com website. Other people on the site have very good things to say about it. We just stared taking it on tuesday so we will see how it goes. I am very regular and we still havent gotten prego yet. I also went to my pcg and she referred me to a fertility clinic. The only thing is the first available appt is not until may 21! Anyway I understand how you feel and it is very frusterating. Sometimes I want to break down and cry or quite trying. Hope this website helps you too.

Kimberly