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Has Any One Had Really Bad Mood Swings After a Miscarriage?

I had a miscarriage at 10 weeks back in August. For the first couple weeks, I cried about just about everything. I cried through my entire post-op appointment. The doc had me come back two weeks after that. =I was doing pretty ok then. I was able to finally see my nephew who was born the day before my D&C which was something I had been avoiding, and I was able to make it through the appointment without crying. I was doing much better until the last few weeks. I can go from being very happy to being horribly depressed. If I see a woman who is pregnant I just feel sick to my stomach wanting my baby back. I can go from laughing to crying almost instantly. I've never been like this before. I'm usually a pretty happy positive person, yet since then, I've really struggled to try to see the glass half full and I get really snippy sometimes with my husband and my kids, and then I feel so guilty for being such a witch to them that I get depressed again. I would think I'd be better off now, 2 months from the miscarriage than I am. I'm taking vitamins and exercising to try to keep my mood up and get ready to try to conceive again after the 3 months the doctor suggested we wait are up. Does anyone have advice? Have you felt this way after a miscarriage? How long until you felt really normal again?

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I struggled to get pregnant and did the same thing. I wanted to hit pregnant women when I saw them becuase they had what I so despreately wanted. I cried when I saw car seats in restaurants and wanted to carry the babies away and take them home. My sis was pregnant at the time and sometimes I had a hard time even talking to her about my niece to be. I think is all normal, esp with the change in and out of hormones. You might bring up to your dr and see what they suggest.
I am very sorry for your loss and wish you all the best.

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This is totally normal. Not only are you grieving the loss of your child but you are also postpartum so your hormones are still adjusting. You may want to try a natural progesterone cream to help your hormones get back to normal. This will also help you when you start trying to conceive again.
Most importantly give yourself time. You are experiencing a very real loss. I know when I had my miscarriage it was really hard for me because I felt like many people did not recognize my loss. They never got to see or hold the baby so for them it wasn't as real as it was for me. I got lot's of comments like oh well at least you can try again etc. I felt like if my baby had been born first they would not be saying those things. As far as how long it took to feel normal I would say it is a process. For me the depression let up when my hormones calmed down but now a year and a half later with a new baby in my arms I am still sad for the little one I never got to hold. Don't put yourself on a time limit and don't put too much pressure on yourself.
I am sorry for your loss and will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

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I have to say that though some people may be able to relate to you, no one can tell you how long it will take you to get past this. No one can say anything to make it better. I had 6 M/Cs over 8 years. I had my ups and downs for all those years. My friends would get pregnant and not want to tell me. In fact for every child I lost, I know a baby of the same age.

I went to counseling. I didn't go back after the dr tried to reassure me that some day I would have a baby. I don't like it when people try to blow smoke up you to get you to calm down.

Still, the counselor was right. I do have a beautiful baby girl. Only after she came into this world did my heart heal. I didn't have any children and you do. Hug the ones you have and look at how blessed you are with them. Take time for yourself, but also feel the skin of your babies. Smell them and cuddle them. They are your relief.

My heart is with you! If you have the strength to stay at home and raise two boys, you can do anything!

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R.-

Sorry for your loss. Your actions are totally normal and understandable. In the past 7 months I have been pregnant three times so I know where you are coming from. Not only are you dealing with the emotional side of it but your hormones still need to get back to normal. Give yourself some slack and time. My biggest suggestion would be to wait to get pregnant again though. I had an ectopic pregnancy in June and I just got pregnant again (not planned)...i feel like I'm on a rollercoaster. I did not give my brain or body enought time to heal so this pregnancy has been really challening. Everyone is different but you WILL feel better just take it day by day. Good luck to you!

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I am thankful to have never had a miscarriage but I have had post pardom depression. I think they might be similar. When your body is releasing all that progesterone and other hormones and suddenly you are without, it leaves you absolutely "off". Not to mention the depression you have experience from the trauma of miscarriage alone. It is no wonder you are having trouble though and I am very sorry you are going through this, truly.

Please though, if this continues, try some medication (I prefer Lexapro personally). There is no need to suffer through this.

*HUGS*

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I went to counselling. I had several miscarriages in a row and felt like a failure. The hormones are one thing, but there's another part, your brain, that might not get better with out outside perspective. It helped me a lot.

However, I can say that it didn't truly go away till I had my first baby. Having miscarriage after miscarriage and no babies already, I was wondering if I'd ever have any. So I was worried. And the first successful pregnancy was hard and with lots of drama so the final release from the remaining pain of loss came the day my son was born.

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R.,
I am sorry to hear bout your miscarriage. I went thrw one in 2003. I was so depressed. I didn't want to be aroud anyone or talk. I was so upset that I didn't want anything to do with my first baby. I had to go threw canceling. It's been 6 years and I still have a hard time. I think everyone woman that goes threw this has a really hard time. I know I did. It is really hard one a woman that has had this... The best advice that i can give you is to try to get threw it the best that you can. Hey, it's okay to cry. I was so angry for so long. I wasn't normal for a yr or so and then all of a sudden I got pregant with baby 2. My frist child and seocnd one is 19 1/2 months apart. I didn't really get excited unitl I was past 16 weeks part. I misscarried my when I was 16 weeks. That was really hard for me. So, when my oldest child asks me about the baby that was going to be a yr and week apart from her I just tell her that the baby went to be with Jesus.
I hope that you are going to be okay. If ya need to talk to soemone I am here for ya...
Ya can email me anytime you would like to, My email addy is ____@____.com
Have a great day! I will be prayting for you...

I know nothing about miscarriages, but mourning and grief do not just go away over night.
Sometimes you just need to know how to talk about it. Ask your dr about counseling or something.

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