Is your daughter mixed? I thought I would ask because it seemed as though you did not have the same type of hair as her, and therfore were unsure of how to manage it.
I like to use a Shampoo called CREAM OF NATURE. They have a formula that is conditioning and detangling all in one bottle. It is sooo moisturizing, that you really don't even need a conditioner afterwards. But I sometimes use one anyways. The conditioner I like to use is called CHOLESTEROL. They have some for dry hair, dry scalp etc. You may want to refrain from washing her hair everyday though. Maybe like once a week only.
You can buy these products at your local beauty supply store. I like to go to SALLY'S BEAUTY SUPPLY. I am not sure exactly what part of MD you live in and if there is one near by. But any beauty supply shop should carry this.
Some other good brands are MOTIONS, DUDLEY'S, and for kids, anything from the JUST FOR ME LINE works well.
My aunt is a hair dresser, and has been for about 20-30yrs now. So I learn alot of my tricks from her. She is in Silver Spring...if you are near, and I can give you her contact info.
Her shop is called INTERNATIONAL HAIR DESIGN, and the phone # is ###-###-####. You may tell her that her neice, K. reffered you.
GOOD LUCK, HOPE THAT HELPS!!