Going to Miscarry

I have been there. I went for my first visit and was high risk so had US done - I didn't see anything but was never told anything. 2 weeks later I went back and found the same as you an empty sac that had grown. Then I was told it was no viable but that we could wait another 2 weeks to see if my body would take care of it or if they were wrong. 2 weeks later went back and nothing, but the empty sac grew again. I never felt like I was miscarring either. We where given our options, pills to induce, wait, or surgery - we went with surgery.
Sorry to hear of your loss
A.

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Dear L.,
I have no advice for you and I have never had a miscarriage but I want you to know as I read this I teared up and my heart goes out to you along with pray. I wish only the best for you and your husband and family.

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First off I just want to say that I am sorry you are going through this and that you and your family are in my prayers.

I had a something somewhat similar happen. My baby quite growing at 8 1/2 weeks and I didn't m/c or have symptoms until I was what would have been 13 1/2 weeks along.
Here is what happened.........

Last year on May 1st I went in for my first appointment to hear the heartbeat and all at 12 weeks. (A few days before my appt I had some spotting, but my doc wasn't concerned.) My doc couldn't get the heartbeat with the doplar, so he sent me across the hall for u/s and my baby measured 8 weeks, but no h/b. My doc scheduled me to come back for a second u/s a week later because it was possible that a h/b could develop in that time. I had no symptoms of m/c before or during this time. I went for my next u/s a week later and still no h/b and still no signs of m/c up to that point. I didn't get any cramps or bleeding until the day I miscarried, which was 3 days after my second u/s. Almost 2 weeks after my doc first told me there was no h/b.
Not sure why it took my body so long to "catch up" with what was going on.

{{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}

K.

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I can't tell you how much my heart is aching for you and your family right now.

all 6 of my miscarriages were with out symptoms(bleeding or cramping at any time) mine were all at 12 weeks and they could never figure out why. the last one was dec 1st 2000 with triplets after a second round of insemination with fertility drugs to 'supposedly' help strengthen the whole process. We(my second husband) have two healthy children with out any insemination (only progesterone shots for the first 13 weeks every morning). that's even with my second, my daughter, coming 3 months early at 28 weeks.

It's very devestating and painful. the only way i made it thru was telling myself that plenty of others have gone thru worst or i have gone thru worst in my life(my mom passing at only 44 years old when i was 23) and i have survived and i would tell myself 'i will survive this too'.. and a divorce.

i'll keep you, your babies and your family in my thoughts and prayers.
T.

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L.,

I can only imagine the thoughts that must be going through your mind. In January, I miscarried twins at 15 weeks and had no symptoms when I went to the doctor for a normal appointment and found that the babies hearts had stopped beating. I have had great difficulty getting pregnant in my life, so it was an extremely tough blow. I, too, have had one healthy baby boy and also have an adopted son. We've gone through a lot of painful moments and asked a lot of difficult questions. The greatest comfort we found in the whole experience is knowing that our babies are with their Creator, and that Jesus is the one person who will do a better job caring for them than we would. You are in my prayers.

P.

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Dear L.,

Please know that I understand this must be so painful. Unfortuneatly, you will probably have to wait it out. I've had a miscarriage and know that painful feeling that feels like your heart is being crushed.

I do believe that doctors can be wrong and I do believe in miracles! I don't want to give you false hope, but I will be praying for you and the life within you.

May God Bless You!

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I too had a miscarriage at 10 weeks earlier this year. I was as shocked as you were when I found out. I had no problems with my first child and I wasn't having any problems with that pregnancy either. We went for our ten week appointment and my doctor always gives an ultrasound at that appointment and they said that there was no heatbeat and that the chest size was double of what it should have been so they said the baby would likely have never survived even if I would have carried the baby to term. I was shocked. When I think of miscarriages I always think of the cramping and bleeding and I had none of that. I had to have and S&C two days later and then whole time I kept thinking what if they are wrong. It would have been easier to take if I would have had some physical symptoms to go along with it. They figured my baby had died about two weeks earlier and I never had any symptoms. I feel for you and I really hope for the best.

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First of all let me tell you how sorry I am to hear your story. My heart just aches when I hear stories like yours. I also had a miscarriage about a year and a half ago. It happened similar to yours. I went in at 10 weeks and there was no heartbeat and the baby had not grown since week 6. I asked the same question you are, "why am I not bleeding and cramping?" My doc told me that it can take the body weeks to get rid of the tissue after the baby has stopped developing. It was at that point that we had a decision to make. Either go in for a D&C, wait and let my body get rid of it when it was ready, or there was a pill that he offered me that would basically speed up the process. It is basically an induction pill, it makes your uterus start to contract and just helps start the process. We decided to wait a week and see if my body would do it on it's own. Let me tell you that was the longest week of my life. I started to have false hope that maybe the baby really was fine since my body wasn't doing anything. So after a week of waiting we decided to go back in and have him do one more ultrasound just to be safe. I had to confirm it for myself before I made any major decision. After the ultrasound confirmed that there was no developing baby we decided to try the pill. I took the pill at about 2 in the afternoon and by the next morning it was all over. It basically just started the process that my body was taking so long to do. I didn't have to have a D&C and I could start to heal and move on. So to answer your question in a very long way. It is very possible that you are going to miscarry but your body is just taking it's time doing it. I know it is so hard to wait, and this week will be the longest week of your life. But I think it is smart to do another ultrasound just to be sure before any other decisions are made. I hope you can find comfort in knowing that everything happens for a reason and this is just another part of God's divine plan.

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I just had the same thing happen to me back in July I was 10 weeks when I went for my OB appointment but the baby stopped developing at 6weeks. My OB had told me they see it happen often where the baby don't develop all of the way. I was very scared & upset. I didn't know what to do I was just so disappointed I felt like it was something I did but my doc had a talk with me & she said that she see this VERY often in women that it was nothing I did wrong. I'm very happy that I'm pregnant again & I'm hoping this one is developing all the way. If you need to talk feel free to message me.

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I've never been through anything like this but I hope everything is ok and my prayers are with you!
~S.~

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My sister-in-law had a miscarriage on Christmas Eve last year. She was spotting and they check the heartbeat and there was one but every time they checked her levels they were going down. A week later they confirmed that there was no longer a heartbeat and eventually she will abort the child. Another week went by and they had to do a DNC (I think that is what it is called).

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This may not sound like much, but a very good friend of mine went through the same thing; they were later told to adopt and they did.
My advice to the was to stay in prayer and hold onto faith, two years later they gave birth to a son and two years from that a little.
They have three children now.
Much love and shalom.
J. W

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