S.L. asks from East Providence, RI on October 04, 2006
Going into Labor - East Providence,RI
I am due on October 13th and last week at my doctor's appt. I was only a 1/2 cm dialated. The doctor said if I wanted he would induce me a week early but I have never heard anything good come from it so I am just going to wait it out and hope she comes earlier rather than later. However I am so afraid of going into labor and all the pain. I've been trying to get myself ready by watching "A baby story" on TLC everyday now that I'm out on maternity leave but it hasn't been making me feel any better. I swear I think I'm going to have an anxiety attack when I know the time is finally here. Any advice to calm me down a little bit or at least to prepare myself more. -----Nervous Nelly:)
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Thank you so much to all of you who have responded with advice and reassurance. It was comforting to hear your stories. I am planning on having the epidural. I had my doctor's appointment today and I am now 1cm dialated..it's progress :) I have been taking alot of walks and trying to remain calm. I know I'll be okay as many of you have gone through it, it's just the anxiety of the unknown. However I know with my boyfriend by my side I will get through it. Thank you all for your support. I really appreciate it.
C.F. answers from Burlington on October 04, 2006
I was induced twice with my daughter. They started to induce me at CVMC in Berlin but then decided because I was high risk, I would be better off at Fletcher Allen so they stopped my induction and I had to wait the weekend before going back, meanwhile I had contractions from the induction the rest of that day and part of the next. When I finally went back she was a few days late and they started the induction again. I wont lie, the contractions can get painful but the one thing that really helped was the breathing they teach you in childbirth class. I closed my eyes and did the breathing everytime a contraction came along, I wasnt going to get any pain meds, I wanted to do it natural but the nurses said I needed to rest so I had an epidural which isnt that bad either, I was more freaked out about that than anything else. I ended up having a cesarean because my daughter wasnt handling the contractions well and I wasnt dilating much. It was the best experience of my life and to see my baby for the first time made it so worth it. Just imagine a really bad cramp..thats what they feel like Good Luck, motherhood is the best job in the world
T.D. answers from Providence on October 04, 2006
Your dr. wants to induce you already??? When I was preg. I was only 1/2cm on fri. 12/6, and I was due on the 8th. I thought I was going to go over, but low and behold, I broke my water that next day on the 7th!! I didn't have any contractions and had to be induced, I broke my water at 11am (was still only 1/2cm when I arrived at the hospital) and gave birth at 10:30 that night. By about 7:00 I was like 5cm, and then by 9 I was 7. I tried my best to go drug free, only problem was I have gad back problems since I was 16, and the contractions were making my back lock up, and I couldn't deal with them anymore. At 7 cm I had the epidural, and everything flew by after that. I felt the pressure at around 10:25 and she was out 5 min. later!! Once I had the epidural, I felt no pain, I think my daughter's father was feeling the pain more than me... he was so worried asking if I was hurting at all, I was even holding up my leg myself, because he was too scared to push it up high enough and hurt me. Well... good luck!!!
V.H. answers from Boston on October 04, 2006
I was induced for both of my pregnancies. The first one becasue I was overdue and my water broke but I was not dilating. The second one because I was overdue and my Doctor was going to be on call that day and I wanted him to deliver me. Everything went fine for me. As for the pain, if you are going natural I can't really help, I went with the drugs, it really took the edge off the pain and made the whole experience for me much easier to tolerate. (Real woman use druge too, it doesn't make you less of a woman or less of a mom cause you didn't go natural.) And at the end when you have your baby, you can't really remember the pain, and would do it all over again in a minute. What really helps is focusing on breathing and finding a focal point to concentrate on, I looked at my sisters nose, wierd I know but it helps. Good Luck and Congratulations.
K.N. answers from Boston on October 04, 2006
relax, easier said than done right? are you going natural and or requesting an epidural. i recommend an epidural. it is such a great thing to have. the pain is great but well worth it. the pain is managable depending on your circumstance. do not get induced becuase the pain can be much stronger with the contractions. let nature take it's corse unless other problems occur. That show on tlc is awesome but it deosn't tell the real story of labor and delivery. tlc makes these women look like a million dollars and when your pushing that baby out i guarantee your hair and makeup are not going to be perfect. sit back relax and enjoy what is left of your pregnancy. whatever happens it well all be worth it in the end. good luck w/b if you need too
about me. i am 29 ahve 2 sons 10 yrsold and 2 months old. i am back to work part time and or as needed. i work in pediatrics as a medical assistant.
E. answers from Providence on October 04, 2006
Hi S.~ STOP watching baby story!!! Evryone's experience is so different. And I also find that everyone screams on that show. It looks scary. Every labor is different. I had pain meds for one and managed fine with next without any. You never know. Just do what is right for you. When the time comes to have your baby, you will be amazed at how you know what to do. Dont worry you will be okay. I agree with waiting rather than inducing. Might want to see if your body will move along more naturally in the next week! Good luck and congratulations!
A.C. answers from Boston on October 04, 2006
I completely agree...don't watch A Baby Story!!!! I never watched any of those birthing programs during my pregnancy. I used to watch them before I became pregnant and I do watch them now. I can't really speak from too much experience as I went into labor at home around 10 pm. Called the doctor to let them know. Got to the hospital at 11:29 pm and had him at 11:37 pm. The only advice I can give you is that once your labor starts, all you are going to concentrate on and want to do is get that baby out! Everybody's birth is completely different, so I would keep the Baby Story stories out of your mind. Good luck and congratulations!
R.C. answers from Boston on October 05, 2006
I remember how scared I was when I had my first born. There is nothing really to prepare you for the pain but no need to have a panic attack, I wont lie to you it hurts like a son of a gun lol BUT when you see that little buddle of joy being born and they pass it to you after birth you will forget what you have just been through and think WOW that was worth it all!! Everything will come natural as it goes along and you wont be alone when I was in labor the Drs and nurses were wonderful and you can express to them how nervous you are they will understand and help you through it thats their job and thats what they are trained to do. Haveing a baby was one of the happiest days of my life! Shes 21 now and she is still my baby she hates it when I say that but when you get there u will know what Im saying. Just relax and enjoy the experience you will do fine I promise and remember when you are nervous and anxious the baby feels that even in ur womb so try to relax and enjoy the moment. Good luck and congrats!!
J.H. answers from Hartford on October 04, 2006
I am a mother of a 6 1/2 month old girl. I am the queen of anxiety and I am afraid of everything. I watched every show and read every book. I was scared. I did get induced 1 1/2 weeks early. Partly my choice. I couldnt wait. But I did start having contractions the night before I was induced so I think it would have happened either way.
Anyway, when the time came I had this calmness come over me. I figured there really wasnt any other way. I did not want a C-Section. I had to do this. When I was induced the contractions came on instantly. My nurse suggested an epidural early, mostly because there were 5 other women delivering and she wasnt sure when I would be able to get it. I felt nothing until the very end. Not even a contraction. My labor was 13 hours and 2 1/2 hours of pushing. I got tired and thought I couldnt do it anymore. But every time I thought that, I would think of this baby I was going to have. I was going to be a Mommy. And I started to get excited. My husband was a great help. He helped me through.
I am not going to be one of those people that say that you forget the pain, because you wont forget the pain. But at that point you dont care how much pain there is, you want to see that little face and it makes it all worth it in the end. When those eyes look at you for the first time, that is the look you will never forget.