You shouldn't feel obligated to give a gift...however, your local scout store should have many eagle related things to chose from if they desire. And shame on "inmy30'salready". There is much that goes into being an Eagle Scout. It is certainly something to be proud of. There is years worth of work on merit badges and rank advancement to get to this point. The statistics I've read say only about 1% of boys who start in scouts make it so it is something to celebrate! All troops are different, but I serve on my son's troop's committee and I know our troop would never let the parents do the work on the eagle project as she described. The eagle is EARNED by the boys in my son's troop through countless hours of effort!