March 19, 2008,
A.T. asks from Chesapeake, VA on March 18, 2008
Gift Ideas for 19 Yr Old Boy.
We have a family friend named Michael who is 19 yrs old. He was rushed to the hospital on Thursday b/c they thought he suffered a stroke. Then they diagnosed him with an inoperable brain tumor. Well 14 different drs have looked at him and none of them can agree what is wrong with him, all they agree on is that they have NEVER seen anything like this before. He is paralized on his left side. I want to send him something but I think "flowers" would be a bit girly and he probably wouldn't care. Does anyone have any ideas of things I could send that might lift his spirits during this really tough and discouraging time?
*He is in a hospital in Buffalo, NY I am located in VA so its not so easy for me to just go visit or bring them dinner...things like that.
So What Happened?™
NEW UPDATE ON MICHAEL!! =)
He is home from the hospital and on a wonderful road to recovery!! =) He has feeling back and is working on movement. He can walk with some assistance and has to wear a brace but its better than the "brain cancer" and "never walking again" they were telling him in the first place. I want to thank everyone who had him and his family in their prayers!! He truely is proof that Prayer Works!! Thanks again!!
C.F. answers from Washington DC on March 18, 2008
How about a magazine subscription? Not very expensive (usually) and you could send him a current issue with a note saying that you've subscribed him to it. If you're not sure of which one to get him, check with his parents/sibs and see if he has a particular interest (music, cars, motorcycles, hobbies, sports, something academic-related, sciences, travel-related).
As a gift, it's
a) something to do in the hospital
b) something he can do for himself, even though he's paralyzed on the one side
c) interesting and lasts beyond the week or so
d) as expensive as you want it to be (many subs are $20-$30, Sports Illustrated and the like can be pricey)
Last but not least, it:
e) sends the message that you plan on him being here to enjoy every issue. = ) That is a wonderful message to send, with the uncertainty he seems to be facing.
One note though - it can take up to two months for a subscription to get going, so if you do it, plan on getting him the next month from the newsstand again.
Hope this is helpful.
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A.V. answers from Washington DC on March 19, 2008
What is he into? Something to ward off boredom would be nice. Can he play a video game? Can he read comics or books? What about a movie?
K.P. answers from Washington DC on March 18, 2008
I think a nice plant with a card. I hope they find out soon what is wrong. Does he like to read? Maybe a funny book to lift his spirits.
M.C. answers from Washington DC on March 18, 2008
Hi. I just googled 'hospital care package' and found this great site:
Here's what it says:
How to Put Together a Hospital Care Package for Teens
A hospital stay is never fun. It’s especially un-fun for teenage patients who would rather be out doing what teens do. They’re just old enough to understand why they need to be in the hospital and just young enough to be justified in feeling that “it’s so unfair!” The reality is that hospital stays are usually a package deal of long, boring stretches broken up by the poking and prodding that adults insist is critical to care. A well put together care package can help to break up the boredom without the prodding.
Grab an assortment of magazines. Themes should include current events, entertainment and, of course, magazines geared to teens. Wrap a stack of the magazines like a gift package, complete with fun wrapping paper and ribbon.
-- like cars, jeeps, motorcyles, rolling stones, etc.
Pack up one or two t-shirts and coordinating lounge pants. For body conscious teens, the lack of coverage available in traditional hospital garb can be more traumatic than all the poking and prodding combined. Tees from home are broken in, comfortable and individualistic.
Charge up the mp3 player, sync it up and bring it in. This one needn’t be wrapped in anything other than its ear buds. Bonus if the mp3 player has photo or video capability. Music is an essential part of life for most teens and hospital rooms rarely come with radios.
Put together a simple stationery set. Package pens, pencils, notepaper, envelopes and stamps together in a vinyl document envelope. Write the teen’s name on the outside in fancy lettering for a personalized touch.
Compile a group of handheld games. It can be in the form of a single handheld system with cartridges or a variety of individual electronic games. These can often be picked up fairly inexpensively at discount stores or borrowed.
Gather well-wishing notes, letters and cards from friends and classmates. Nothing brightens a teen’s day like hearing that other teens care, even if it is the old-fashioned way.
--Hope this helps
S.S. answers from Washington DC on March 18, 2008
Just having gotten out of the hospital I can tell you that it's very boring and flowers are pretty but not very entertaining. Your spirits are low even when you seem pleasant. Send him a really well made pillow with a stain proof case, slippers (cause the floors are worse than the bed, even if he can't walk he might still appreciate them when he's being lugged around) and a word search book or some kind of easy to read humorous trivia book for a laugh (I'm sure his Mom or Dad can read it to him if he can't). My prayers are with him and his family. My step-mom, died of an inoperable brain tumor. We buried her on Good Friday about 15 years ago so this is really hitting home for me. It's a horrible experience to look into someone's eyes once they can no longer verbally communicate with you. My heart goes out to that young man and his family. Jane liked it when I read to her, she smiled and that gave me a simple pleasure so i strongly recommend a book of short versus, metaphors, jokes...If the worse does happen the family will be able to hold onto that book as a keepsake, so inscribe it to the wonderful boy you know. If the best happens, he will have it to remember your thoughtfulness in his hour of need.