I am also having the same dilema, but my daughter is almost 13mos old. If Could add up how many times she has actually slept in her crib, it would probably would come to about 4mos. When she was 8mos old we moved. So, we put her crib in my other daughters room who just turned 11. She begged us to let her lil sis sleep in the same room. Well when we moved she got ill so I kept her in the room with me so I could monitor her. When I tried to transition her back into her crib she would cry. Well my kids can't stand to let her cry. And every night they would go and get her out of her crib. I tried explaining to them that it was ok to let her cry for about 5-10min.
To make a long story short I ended up having to put her playpen right next to my bed. Then she figured out how to climb out of her playpen right onto my bed. So, I moved it further away, but then she would climb out anyway and I was worried she would hurt herself. But, she ended up doing the same thing as your twins. She would be dead asleep in my arms on the sofa and the minute I put her in it she would pop right up like a jack-n-the box. So, needless to say she sleeps right next to me in my bed everynight. Its so bad that I have to rock her to sleep, I can't just lay her down. So, I feel your frustration. But, you have 2 so I can't even imagine how stressed you must be. I am and I only have the one. And, my hubby is deployed so often, because his ship was just commissioned that he is rarely home. It's getting so bad that I'm not getting any sleep. Here it is 10am on Sun and I haven't even been to bed. It's the 3rd time this week.
WELL A LITTLE ABOUT ME:
I to am a stay @ home mom of 7 kids. My oldest 2 are 23 and 21 and they don't ____@____.com the other 5 do. I have a 19 yr old son who will turn 20 this year and still lives ____@____.com other son turns 18 in March. They are 16mos apart. And then I have a 15yr old daughter, an 11yr old daughter and the 13mos old who also is a girl. Plus I am a full-time Nursing student. I attend @ night because there is no way that I could afford to put her in daycare, plus none of my kids have ever been in daycare. When my oldest was 4mos old he got Bacterial Meningitis, so from then on I vowed I'd never put any of my kids in daycare. I hope this helps to know that your not alone in your dilema, so i could also use some advice, Since there is such a big difference in age from my 11yr old to the baby. Thanks a lot everyone for listening to me vent. Take care.