Getting Son to Wipe

How long has he been trained? I wiped my sons' bottoms for two years after I had them trained. Kids either can't reach or don't know how to wipe effectively. I would start wiping him if he lets you. He can develope a bad rash, exactly like diaper rash if he isn't clean. I know it's no fun but it makes for less mess in the long run. Good luck.

HI, My name is T..
Wondering if you let your son help with your 9 month old?
Your son might be jealous and this is his way of getting special attention from you.
Try letting him help you change, bath and feed the baby.
Some kids even try to steal the babies bottle because they are jealous.
If you breast feed then after getting the baby situated let your son sit on your lap or next to you.

My eldest son use to take all his clothes off when he went to the bathroom. He was able to move around a little easier.
There are a lot of good suggestions here.

By using your 9month old explain to him while showing him how to wipe. Like the others said check him when he gets done.

I feel your frustration my son is 4 and a half and doesnt always wipe himself either. However when he does wipe I reward him (90cent hot wheels car usually does the trick) For the most part I think all kids mature at differnt rates and maybe he just hasnt gotten to that point yet that he feels confortable doing it himself. There is going to come a day (kindergarden) where he goes in the bathroom and sees all the other boys can do it themselves and then decide to do it himself too. I wouldnt worry much about it right now though I think most children at this age really dont have the skills to do it totally by themselves. The wet wipes are a gift from god though I love those things!! I know its frustrating to drop whatever your doing to go help him out (I am a mother of four plus I do daycare so trust me I know!!) Hang in there though he is not being lazy he just doesnt sound ready yet...

Well, I am having the same problem! But my son is 6 years old. Everytime he changes his underware it's dirty and I can't seem to get through to him to wipe better. I'd hate for the kids at school to smell him and make fun.

I am having the same problem with my seven year old. We used the wipes but then they started clogging the toilet. We started having him call us whenever he went to the bathroom but that doesn't teach him anything and just annoys us. The teacher has not said anything so I'm not sure if he does it at school or not. He is on his third pair of underwear today and it's only dinner time. I hope it's a phase.
We did notice that making signs help. It the pictures and he can follow them step by step. This worked for brushing his teeth so I am going to try it for the toilet as well.

I also have a 4 1/2 year old that has problems with pee pee dribbles. I have started a reward chart. He gets a sticker everyday he goes without an accident. After a week of no accidents he gets a small reward (ice cream cone, small toy, special movie, etc...). So far he has done very well with this method...however he does still have an ocassional accident. Hopefully this gives you an idea of something else you could try. Good Luck!

Hi I have a daughter that is 5 and she is forgetting to wipe and flush the toilet. What we did for her is, we made a sign that says
Things that you need to do:
Use toilet paper
Flush the toilet
And wash your hands
We also drew pictures to go along the side of each thing.
If she dosn't do all of these things then she gets punished. My daughter has to take a bath every time she doesn't do one of these things. Aftor she was taking so many baths a day, she relized that she needed to do what she was told. We hung the sign on the bathroom door so she see's it every time she shuts the door to go pottie.
You can surely try this if you want to, we found it to be very effective. Good luck. H.

our son is having a little bit of that issue too. so that last few times I've tried to go in and just observe what he's doing. Our son is attempting to wipe but doesn't always get all the "inside his bottom". with him I think it's more it's hard to reach around there. I don't know if that's the way with your son or not. so we've started reminding him when he goes in, "be sure to wipe all the way up on your bottom." And he usually does much better. Our big issue is remembering to flush the potty after an #2 event.

so maybe he's "surface wipes" and thinks that's sufficient. or he's having trouble reaching all the way around EASILY.

My mom suggested that and i was immediately, like, he's not fat, but when I thought about it the next time I went. Trying to reach behind you and perform an action "blind" isn't necessarily an easy thing to do. Maybe figure out if he's just having trouble reaching or if he's just in a hurry to get done.

I have the same problem with my 7 yr old and 4 1/2 yr old sons. Some times my 4 1/2 yr old uses too much toilet paper, or lately its not at all. I have bought those Kan dos. They are like baby wipes, but they are flushable. They seem to use those better. I just think it's a boy thing or something.

You know I don't know if you have this luxury or not. But, my 4.5 year old son has been potty trained for quite some time as well. He still can't wipe worth a darn either. Although he is learning. I make him wipe his own bottom then tell me "mommy, I am done." I go and inspect him...cause really what choice do we have. I go and wipe one more time and tell him good job or nope try again basically!! LOL!! So everytime he has a bowel movement we check his bottom so, we don't have soiled underwear, the smell and MOST importantly He doesn't get a sore bottom... I have 6 siblings, and 13 nieces and nephews. the vast majority of them I babysat for until I turned 18. This was the same thing I saw all of my siblings doing with there children and It worked swimmingly...Mind you one is a principle at an elementary school!! So we all listen to her from day one about kids she still has to do this sometimes for other peoples children! LOL!!

I also have a 4 1/2 year old (girl). All I can say is flushable wipes the are a godsend.