Getting Pregnat the Second Time

It is typical to cease ovulation during lactation, and I hope you will bless your son by nursing him for at least 12 months. This is just my opinion of course, but I think you should take a cue from your body that it is too soon to be pregnant again. The ideal distance between conceptions from a medical standpoint is 18-23 months, since this gives your body time to recover the essential nutrients it lost during pregnancy and nursing. Maybe at the least you should consider taking a couple months to eat an excellent diet and take good nutritional supplements before trying again. Just know too that your baby may be seeming easier at eight months, but at eighteen months, he will take a lot of your time and energy, and you already know what a newborn is like! Best wishes

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Hi A.,

I also have an 8-month old son. I saw my doctor last month to discuss getting pregnant again and he did not recomend getting pregnany less than a year from my last pregnancy. He said it would take about a year for my body to fully recover and I should not breastfeed past the 1st trimester, as this could cause pre-term labor. So, we have decided to wait until after our son turns 1-year.

Good luck!
-C.

Honestly, my best advice to to try not to think about it and try not to actively try. When my daughter was 2 we decided to get pregnant again. We got pregnant on our very first try but I miscarried at 12 weeks. Then we tried and tried to get pregnant again, tracked ovulation etc. but with no luck. My daughter turned 5 in August. In October we sort of gave up trying and I sold and donated most of my maternity and baby items. And in November, suprise, I got pregnant!! So there you go, lol. I am now 6 months along!!

I would wait a bit longer, due to having babies very close in age. Around your cramping time, wait a week or so, and try again. I have 3 close in age, and they have their days. Good luck.

The heavens are filled with beings who want to be born on earth at this time. You will have another if that is your desire. Don't let the feeling that it hasn't happened yet get in the way of the wonderful feeling that you may be able to imagine as it is happening for real.

Divine timing is interesting. You might be aware of what your astrological sign has led you toward in your own life experience. If all beings are highly intelligent (before we are born into this world of forgetfulness) then it would stand to reason that your "baby" is waiting for the stars to line up in such a way that would benefit him in his plan for what he wants to accomplish and when he wants to remember his divinity.

In short, it will happen when it's appropriate and no need to get your panties in a bunch about it. (teasingly playful, wink wink)

Love, L.
Teacher of New Consciousness

I stopped breast feeding my daughter about a month ago and got pregnant almost instantly. Try checking out an ovulation calendar online. Good luck!!

I got pregnant with my second when my first was about 3.5 months old. I was breastfeeding at the time. Your body just might not be ready yet. Just enjoy trying and the time you have with your son. Good luck!!

My brother and I are exactly 1 year and five days apart to the minute. My mon's secret she says was to not think about it so hard, but just enjoy the practice. Sorry. I had my three children eactly two years apart to the day and my secret was just following my mom's advice. I hope this helps. I am not belittling your need, i am just telling you what I know

Most of the time it is natures way of waiting til your done breastfeeding the first.

I,too, wanted my kids close together in age and couldn;t get pregnant. I went to an accupuncturist that specialised in fertility and he told me my body simply hadn't healed from the first one yet. he did accupuncture,and I was pregnant after the first visit to him.

Do you really want to have two babies in diapers ( cost )and is it realistic to assume that you have enough time and energy for this now? You might wnat to wait till you get the first one potty trained to have another. Just a thought.

I got pregnant 3 times while breastfeeding, the first time my daughter was 4 months and that pregnancy ended in a miscarriage at a month, the second time my daughter (same daughter) was 6 months and we had our son 6 weeks early (they are 14 months apart) then when I was breastfeeding him and he was 3 months I ended up pregnant and that ended in a miscarriage at 3 months. The doctors said that most likely I ended up with the 2nd miscarriage because my body was not recovered from back to back deliveries.

Hope all goes well

D.

A.,
Relax and let nature take it's course. You have a child so you know your body has the ability. I do understand the anxiety of have to switch Dr's, I had to have a different Dr for my second delivery. Mother nature takes her time in all things like this. Bless you , and good luck. L. C.

Hi,
Breast feeding can be like a birth control. I don't believe you ovulate on a regular cycle. you can just keep trying and when the time is perfect it will happen:)

After 6 months of no success, I turned to the method of taking my basal body temperature (BBT) every morning. The first month of doing this, success! I got pregnant with my first child. We decided to try again when my son was 9 months (although I already had stopped breastfeeding by then, not my choice). The first month of trying again with BBT, I was able to get pregnant! Unfortunately, that ended in a miscarriage (11 wks pregnant). Then I recovered after 2 months, tried again with BBT. This time it took 2 months (probably stress from the holidays) and conceived again 12/28/2008. I'm now 19 weeks pregnant expecting a baby girl with a due date around my son's 2nd birthday. BBT method REALLY worked for me, and it could work for you.
Couple of suggestions: 1) listen to the advise of others and doctors in making sure you and your husband has given this considerable thought. Since I have family close by, I knew I can count on them for help since I've been told it's challenging having kids close at age. 2) Take prenatal vitamins now. 3) It's best to try to get your body weight as close to your last pre-pregnancy weight. 4) Get the book "Taking Charge of your Fertility" to learn BBT. 5) Remember, do not be discouraged if miscarriage were to happen. It's very common. I'm 35 now, and my body is not like a 20 year old. But I was able to conceive successfully every time using the BBT method. Good luck!!!

Well it can happen again real fast like me.. I got pregnant a second time when my 1st newborn daughter was 3 months. It has been very challenging, very very sleep deprived :) but love them to death. both of my daughters will be close.
I would just have fun trying and if it happens well great otherwise enjoy the time with your little one.

Stop breast feeding if you want to get preg again. It's too much on your body to be preg and breast feeding at the same time. That's why your body isn't letting it happen. Also be sure to be eating well and taking your prenatal vitamins, etc.

It might be the breast feeding. Some can breatfeed the whole time they are pregnant but for others it can be too much on your body and not allow you to ovulate.I would wait till you are done breastfeeding to try for another one. Give your body a rest, most drs will tell you a year (better for you better for both babys)

Slow down and enjoy your son...the 2nd pregnancy will happen when the timing is right for your body. Based on some of the other posts I have read, it may be too soon...you don't want to push too hard and end up having a miscarriage.

Personally, I had my 3 children 4+ years apart and was able to fully enjoy all of their stages individually and focus on each child, especially the baby and toddler stages. It goes by SO fast...you really want to enjoy that time. Whatever happens will end up being be perfect!

Good luck!

Hi A.,

I hear it's easier to get pregnant after having the first. While still nursing my second child (at about 13mths old) and taking birth control pills, I got pregnant with my third child. Although a surprise, it was a blessing. I have since had my tubes tied to avoid additional surprises.

Good luck!

When I was trying to get pregnant with my first (it took about 10 months of "trying"), everyone kept telling me we should just get drunk and do it in the back seat of our car. Of course they all said this with a great deal of humor, the idea being that if we relaxed a little it would just happen. I used to hate it when they said it, but now I see some wisdom in not stressing about it. I had my second daughter 17 months after our fist was born. We thought 2 years apart or so would be nice, and considering it took us about 10 months the last time, we stopped preventing it early the second time around, but not exactly trying (and stressing) the way we had the first time around. Needless to say, I was a bit surprised, and a little afriad, that it happened so soon. It was hard having the two babies so close, but I did not have family I could count on to help out. So, I totally see your point about having yours close. Family is so important, especially when you have a newborn. I wish you all the best of luck! Have fun, And hopefully you'll be announcing your new baby very soon!! God bless you, and your family.

BTW- I ended up using the Basal Temp Technique with our first after nine months of no baby. The next month I was pregnant. If I remember right, I was still breastfeeding then, although, not exclusively. I was finished nursing completely at around 10 months. I got pregnant when my daughter was 9 months. I agree, the book "Taking Charge of Your Fertility" is very helpful in not only explaining everything about a woman's cycle, but it lays out specific ways to optimize trying to get pregnant, which also is helpful when you want to avoid pregnancy if taking birth control doesn't work for you. (as in my case)