D.R. asks from Crystal Lake, IL on July 18, 2009
Getting 9 Mo Old to Stand
My 9 month old son does not want to stand. His legs are strong and fully functioning, but he has no interest in trying to pull himself up or stand. If I try to stand him up he's happy melting back to the floor and rolling around. At his 9 mo check up, his doctor was not concerned yet, but I'd like to start working with him more aggresively. Does anyone have any suggestions of activities I can do to get him to start to pull himself up or begin to stand? I don't give him toys - he has to work and move himself to get what he wants (he's happy rolling), and no toy motivates him yet (like on the couch to get him to reach or pull himself up. Thanks so much for your suggestions!
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M.R. answers from Chicago on July 18, 2009
He'll do it when he's ready :) He's probably happy and content with his stage of development, so just keep encouraging him but know that he won't lie on the floor forever!
If you're using an exersaucer or jumper, get rid of it. They give zero motivation for kids to want to stand or walk on their own. Why would they? They provide core/trunk support so they don't have to work to stand on their own. They also hinder the development of core-strength muscles.
Be patient! If he's happy rolling to get things that he wants, then continue that game with him. Don't worry - he'll want more eventually. Don't turn this into an aggressive push to get what you want; it'll only frustrate him and eventually he'll get really disappointed and let-down when he can't please you enough because he isn't learning fast enough.
E.R. answers from Chicago on July 18, 2009
I don't know what on earth the rush is... I would not worry about it at all! I don't think he is ready, and why push him if he's not? Time goes by so fast, and soon he will be running all over the place! Enjoy this time while you can, is my advice. I'm always amazed at how fast parents of little ones want them to grow up!
Neither of my boys stood until they were over a year old! They didn't walk until 14 to 16 months! And you know what? It never even occurred to me to worry because the longer they crawl, studies have shown that the better readers they will be. Crawling does something to the part of the brain that correlates with reading, and the more they crawl, the more that part of the brain develops. So don't worry, please, and please just relax and let him be what he is and WHERE he is at this time.
M.H. answers from Chicago on July 19, 2009
My son started to pull himself up after he learned how to crawl. Get him to crawl first that is very important to his eye/hand coordination. All kids do this at different time tables. He will do it when he is ready.
M.G. answers from Chicago on July 19, 2009
He'll stand when he's ready to. Just keep playing with him like you are doing. Some kids are just more motivated or active than others. I have nine month old twin boys, and one of them started crawling, pulling up, and cruising sooner than the other because he was much more motivated and curious. His brother is more content to sit and play with a toy for a little bit. All babies are different, so if your pediatrician isn't worried, you shouldn't be. You're doing a great job!
P.F. answers from Chicago on July 22, 2009
As long as the dr says his muscles are fine and developing well I wouldn't worry about it. I had an extremely early walker and it was really hard to keep up with him. He had an age appropriate mentality but the ability to get into trouble that was bigger than his mentality could handle. It sounds silly but it was very difficult.
J.C. answers from Chicago on July 19, 2009
All in his own time. My daughter (my third) just pulled herself up for the first time a few weeks ago and she had just turned 10 months. They'll do it when their ready. Not that you are, but try not to compare the timing of what your daughter did to when/what your son does. They're all so different. All of mine did things at different times.
M.P. answers from Chicago on July 20, 2009
What is your hurry? He will stand when he is able to and wants to. THere is nothing at all to be concerned about. All babies do things at different rates. My son stood at 9 months and didn't walk til almost 16 months. My daughter didn't crawl til 12 months but then stood and walked by 15 months. You just never know when they decide to do something. Leave him alone and let him develop at his own pace!