Future Mother in Law

T.,
This is a touchy subject. First of all, I would do all the leg work for her; finding an in-home care taker.
She may qualify for in-home health care. That way the only burden you have is making sure you have someone dependable.
A CNA or STNA to come in and do light housework, grocery shopping, give them there meds, give them baths, would be the perfect idea.
You do the leg work with your husband.
That way he doesn't think that you just don't want his mother
and she wouldn't need the dog anyways because that would be more work on her and she is not able to take care of a dog.
Now, don't forget to visit. Maybe take the "dinner" to her
so that she don't get no ideas if you we're to have her over.
(smile) Just don't forget about her-that would be a shame.
If the subj, comes up again, just explain to her I am not medically qualified to take care of you and if something would happen, God forbid, I want you to have the best care.
You have to lay it all out for her.
Not that, hey, I don't want you here and neither does your son.
Not nice* so you have to be tactful!
Check into elderly housing or subsadizing housing.

Does she get any kind of assistance from the government or medical? If she has some sort of income maybe you could look into a larger apartment and she could help with the bills. I had an aunt with ms and now have a friend with ms. I know how lonely it can be when you are sick and noone wants to be around you maybe because they get depressed. I don't know the situation on why you can't live with her but give it a chance and help her as best you can. She is the only mom he will have and sometimes we have to put aside our differences and help those in need.

Hello,

Have you gotten in touch with her extended family members? You are not solely responsible for her welfare, nor do you have room to take her in. Call on your extended family to help! That's what families are for. Some may be able to help financially or with other arrangements, paperwork, phone calls or anything else.
S.

i can see it either way. i know it is going to be a big lifestyle change to have someone else in your home, especially it being your mother in law! and space is going to get even more cramped. but if you make sure she understands the rules of your home and cleans up after herself and pitches in a little, it may be a good short term solution to her problem. i assume she is older and not in the greatest of health. and with the holidays approaching and being evicted...imagine how she feels! i know her being there wont always make for the greatest time while your home with her..but for a little while you may have to bear it. but make sure she knows that she cant possibly live there forever. give her a guideline for finding independance again and help her get there if necessary.
you may even end up enjoying having her there. she might help with dinner and food costs and even lend a hand with your son if you want to skip out without him.

Check with the YWCA, if you have one. My mom lived there for years and she loved it. It was reasonable and there were activities and other people her age.