Fur Coat

Your particular coat is in line with your particular beliefs. If you want to wear it, wear it! People that know you, know your beliefs and that it's not real. If anyone actually takes the time to approach you and comment--all the better opportunity to spread your beliefs!

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I'm confused why you find it disturbing and are disgusted when you see others in fur coats when you wear one that looks real? Maybe theirs is fake fur too and looks real like yours? If you care so much of what others think, don't wear the coat. I, on the other hand, know who I am and what my what beliefs are so who cares what others think by looking at me. I doubt people are really glaring at you. You're probably just insecure about wearing the coat so you're imagining that glares. If you love the coat, I say wear it!

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I think this is a matter on your own conscience.

I choose not to wear diamonds, or any precious stones for that matter. It's a matter of my priciples. People are raped, murdered, made into slaves, and battles are fought because our society chooses to give value to these rocks. I don't wear fake stones either. I think that fake jewels perpetuate the value we place in wearing the real ones.

But this is just my personal opinion. I don't fly this flag or force it on anyone else. If someone asks me why I don't wear a diamond wedding ring I explain, but not outside of that.

You have to do what feels right to you.

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People glare at you? I have a real mink fur coat that I wear all the time when its cold and I have never noticed anyone glaring at me. People are going to continue buying fur whether you wear your fake one or not. And I happen to be an animal lover too.

L.

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Maybe you can get a cute button made that says something witty about it being a fake...make it an advertisement for fake furs.

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When someone glares grin at them and tell them it's fake. Those are actually the opportunities you were looking for when you first got it.

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I am not an animal rights activist, but I can understand the importance of standing by one's convictions.

From my point of view, I'll bet NO ONE cares about your coat or the fact that you (an animal rights activist)is wearing it, with the exception of those few who are hyper-aware of furs because of their political leanings. And hopefully, with those people, they're not so judgemental that they would jump to conclusions about a total stranger, and might even be educated enough to be able to tell the difference between fake or real fur.

With that said, it sounds like you're more worried about what you "think" others are "thinking" about you and this coat. I think you're making more out of this than need be. If you know you're not going against your belief system, then what do you care? If someone were to call you on the carpet, you can show them the tag if they're that psycho about it. And I truly mean, anyone who would confront a stranger on the street about their clothes, whether it's politically offensive or not, is psycho.

So relax. If you like the coat, wear in good conscience. If you're really that troubled by what it represents don't wear it. But if you're feeling funny about the coat because you're trying to impress others, or make some sort of statement, then plan on having a miserable rest of your existence, because whether it's furs, the color of your skin, eyes, or hair, your sex, your economic status, what you look like, your personality, your beliefs/religion, political stance, etc. someone is going to think you're offensive because face it, people are judgmental creatures by nature. And with that consideration in mind, that would mean, with the exception of your closest family and friends (and even then!) you might just not want to leave your house! LOL.

It's a matter of mind over matter, just relax and wear the coat!

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If you like the coat, you should continue wearing it. What should matter most to you is that you know it isn't real fur since that would bother you. Not so much of what others think. I think most times if I see people wearing fur I have never really given it much thought whether it was real or fake. BTW: I am an animal lover, and I have a real fur coat that was given to me- but that is a whole different discussion- one that would probably get pulled! ;) But if you are that uncomfortable with it- I will give you my address and you can send it to me! I promise to wear it! ;)

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If I knew you and saw you in a fur coat, I would assume it WAS fake because of your activism. If I didn't know you, what you thought wouldn't really matter to me anyway.

I have a fake fur coat and I wear it. If I see someone staring, I cheerfully say "It's polyester." making small talk. At least in my area (Minnesota) there are few people wearing fur, real or fake, anyway. When I do see someone, 90% of the time it's an elderly person and I assume that it was inherited.

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When I was younger, I had a vintage pile velvet coat that I loved. A male friend once snorted at me and said "I can't believe you have a fur coat." I snorted back and said "It's velvet."

But I still got rid of it. And now, over 15 years later, I probably couldn't fit in it. But it still makes me sad that I got rid of a coat I loved because some damn fool thought it was fur.

If you like the coat, wear it. You know who you are. You know what you believe. And you know you are true to those beliefs. If someone else thinks your coat makes YOU someone else, is that your problem? No one who is against wearing fur is going to run out and get a fur just because your coat is pretty. But someone who admires it and tells you it's beautiful might get an "aha" moment when you tell them it's fake! : )

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It's basically a judgement issue. The fact is that its not real fur, it's a nice, warm coat. If you don't judge others you wont feel the judgement yourself. You cant judge a book by its cover.... as you can very well see.
If you do get a comment on the coat you can just tell the truth about it. If people glare, oh well, let them glare..... they will end up feeling judged one day as well. It always goes full circle.

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I would wear it and not worry about it. If someone says something to you -tell them it's fake.

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Hi,

I am a animal lover too and I understand your dilemma. I think unfortunately your option is to sell it or donate it. I don't think that people will understand since it looks real but its fake--- I just don't see how you could wear it without feeling this way. I don't wear fur and I don't even wear fake fur because it looks too real to me and I don't like the association I get with wearing it--people won't stop to ask if its real or not, they will judge you immediately for it. Maybe you could sell it and find a beautiful coat that is equally attractive and draw attention that way? :) Good luck to you.

M

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I agree with the other poster. Fur coats (fake or real) aren't hugely in fashion or style these days, so I personally wouldn't wear it for that reason. This is probably why you don't get many comments, either.You see more faux fur trim than anything, which is more in fashion. Maybe you could wear wool instead, or some other fur where the animals are shaved, not killed for their coat.