I'm a stay at home mom of a 17yr old and soon to be 3 yr old in march. Well my youngest is running me ragged!! Sometimes he wakes up in the morning and things are fine. But like this monring and trust me many many more, he wakes up screaming, yelling, crying, wanting everything but wanting nothing. He gets mad when daddy has to go to work. If he can't get what he wants, he starts screaming and crying. He runs and throws himself into the couch. If I try to put him in the corner, which does work if I can get him to calm down. He goes limp or arhes his back. He screams "help me" for no reason. I try to calm him down and get him to settle. He's a great kid and has alot of good days. I know theres nothing wrong mentally with him. In my opinion, he's spoiled, and I kinda blame myself for that, because when I was 8 months pregnant with him, my mom passed and I had a hard time dealing with it and when he was born, I never did the tre grieving I needed. I'm wanting to get back in to church, he's not around kids his age, and when at dr offices and the chance happens he doesn't know how to cope or handle it. I want to get him into church and a sunday school class of his age, and also put him into a day care or something a few hours a day to start.. Sorry if I'm rambling, but just need to get it out and talk. I really need some advice.... S.
Hi S.,
My son gets like that at times too, and it is usually when he either goes to bed too late or wakes up too early. Every study I've read says to make sure your young children are in bed by 7:30-8:00 so that they don't become sleep deprived. That's what his attitude sounds like to me is that he's sleep deprived, could that be it?
Hope this helped,
A.
S.,
my 3 yo used to do the same exact thing so i know where youre coming from.hes just doin it for the attention you give him when he does it.when my son did it i just went on with what i was doing and didnt give him any attention or put him in his room until he was done with his tantrum.now he only does it every once in awhile. and be sure to praise him when hes being good.he may want to spend more time with you during the day doin activities together or playing games.i hope this helps.
M.
Hi S.,
It sounds like he may have decided that making you miserable is the fastest way to get his own way. When my son screamed to get his way, my mother suggested I say, "I can't understand you unless you use your words" and "when you're screaming, I can't understand you." She told me to keep repeating those to him whenever he yelled anything at me. After he got the message, I sometimes used, "It's not going to work" and I'd walk away. As soon as he figured out he wasn't going to get his own way, he quit doing it. He had me pretty well trained!
Hope it helps. Good luck!
Hey S.,
Ignore him!!! He's trying to get to you and it's working. If you go about your business and leave him laying on the couch he will realize you aren't reacting to the way he is acting and will stop what he is doing. And don't blame yourself. I lost my Mom when I was pregnant with my first child...and like you I did not have time to grieve properly and it took me four years to start getting back to normal. And if it wasn't that it would be something else, believe me!
Get him into a play group...try and find some kids his age in your neighborhood and set up play dates. Church is a great idea. Not just for your son, but for you too!
My brother-in-law and his family are getting ready to move to Roanoke. I know it's beautiful there.
I hope this helps and if you want to vent or talk email me!
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Take care,
L.
If you feel that the problem is that he is spoiled then you need to stop spoiling him. It will be tough in the beginning, but don't respond to the emotional outbursts. I read a suggestion recently from a mom that said when her son has outbursts. She looks at him and says in as calm a voice as possible that she can't understand him when he speaks like that and that when he has calmed down she will be waiting to talk to him. She then put him in front of a mirror so he could see what he looked like and left him to blow off some steam.
Whatever you do, you must be consistent and your husband needs to agree to respond the same way. Once he realizes that the outbursts don't accomplish anything, he will stop. As long as you respond, expect it to continue. Also, make sure to compliment and thank him when he acts appropriately - if he is acting badly for attention, you want to make sure to give him just as much attention for behaving well as you do for behaving badly.
Good luck!
you should check out Mothers morning out programs, often hosted by churches. Our daughter goes to one from 9-12 and loves it. He could be getting very restless/bored and needs more stimulation. Good luck
