Friends

E.,
I'm moving down from Chicago in a few weeks and if all goes well, we'll be in Carrollton. I know how you feel. I don't get out a lot, by my house has a tendency to absorb kids when they come over, so if you ever want to go somewhere but can't think of anywhere we love visitors and I love grown ups to talk to ;) I guess I'm offering to be a friend when I get there, and asking for one too cause I wont have any nearby in a few weeks.
A.

Hi E. - there are a lot of us in the same boat! I started a working moms group a few weeks ago in meetup.com; the focus is on "girl" time, family time, and couples nights too. Check it out at http://workingmoms.meetup.com/5/. I have been in the Keller area for a few years, but just haven't had a chance to meet any friends out here. We're still "shopping" for just the right church, so haven't even had an opportunity to meet other families. I posted a message on mamasource and received lots of responses from ladies interested in the same thing. I couldn't find what I wanted, so I started my own! Our group spans the age ranges, although most of the children are younger children (not all though). Hope to meet you soon - C.

Since you're a Christian, you might try joining a lady's bible study. Alot of area churches do the Beth Moore series and you're likely to meet alot of like-minded women there and make new friends. God is a great person to talk to about anything and everything, as well!

Hi, E.! I'd be willing to be your friend :) I have two boys - 3 1/2 and 17 months. How old is your son? I am also a Christian and don't drink, but do like to have a fun night out as well. I have a playgroup for SAHM that meets weekly, but we do MNO's once a month or so that you'd be welcome to join. Do you have a church home? That's a great place to meet people too. :) Also, I've met at lot of great ladies at www.dfwareamoms.com. Drop me an email sometime - ____@____.com. I'd love to meet you!

I think a lot of us are in that boat! I just recently stopped working again and moved from Arlington to N. Fort Worth/Keller area. I don't know many people over here. I only get to see my friends about once every other month when we meet up for lunch or dinner. It does get a bit lonely at times.

I am in the same boat! I wished we lived closer to each other. Do you have any hobbies? I scrap book and make jewelry. Are there any groups for women at your local church? That would be one place to start. Then try to find other ways of connecting with people. There are free craft classes at Michael's and other stores you might meet someone there. I hope this helps.

E.,

I find your post very reassuring because I feel the same way. I have a good life, a wonderful husband and a great son, but I really don't have any close girlfriends. I work in the agricultural field, so most of my co-workers are men. There are a few ladies I am friends with, but they are closer to my mom's age than mine! They really don't understand the challenges of working full time and raising a young family. I am a Christian and go to church regularly, but haven't really found the connection I am looking for. My friends from high school and college do not live close. I have been thinking about this a lot lately because my husband and I are seriously considering trying for another child. I am a little nervous, and would love to have a friend to be able to talk to about "girl" things. Anyway, I know we don't live close, but I would be happy to be an e-mail friend. My address is ____@____.com.

Hi E.,
I am glad I'm not the only one out there that feels like this! I have a great husband, 3 busy kids and my parents and sister all live close, but I feel lonely all the time. My 2 best friends live far away and I don't have a friend here near me that I can just call to say "hey, wann hang out?" Most of my church friends have kids that are older than mine so they are super busy with activities and things and they all have their own close friends. I always feel like I am just a 3rd wheel to other people's friendships so I KNOW how you feel! I also don't drink so in my husband's group of friends I always seem like the "wet blanket" you know? I stay at home now with my kids and sometimes the days drag on and I feel sad. You don't need a shrink, just some new buddies! I would be happy to be a friend! You can email me any time at ____@____.com and maybe sometime we can meet up with our kiddos! I have a 5 year old boy, 3 year old girl and 12 week old boy.
Take care!
Kristi

Take some time out for you without hubby and son. Go take a class in something you like or join and exercise group. Take time for you. Friends change as we get older and our interests change as well. Perhaps you have outgrown your high school friend and she was a friend for a season which has now changed. No, you don't need a shrink just something to do that you like. Keep searching it will come. In your case doing some praying over it and it will reveal itself before you know it. God puts good things in place you sometimes have to know what it is behind door number ***. Been there and done that. The other S..

E.,

You don't need a shrink. I have been in your exact place. A friend is a different fulfillment than a husband or a child. When I lived up in MI, I felt like I had no one that I could call just to chat and see how things are going. I felt like there must be some reason for a call. I have a friend in Carrollton that I have known for 19 years and although our lives have been very different at times, we still get together. She just called me today and asked if I wanted to meet for lunch. It is important to have someone like that in your life. You're not crazy.

Grace Community Church in Plano has summer "classes" that begin mid-late June. I was thinking about joining one because I need my own time away from the daily grind myself. Their website is www.findgrace.org if you're interested in seeing what they have.

How old is your son?

M.

What really helped me find some other girlfriends was joining a mom to mom group at my church. That has helped me make mama friends but still keep my other friends (who are not even in relationships and/or do not have kids). I also like to hang out with the girls in my sunday school class. I still get lonely sometimes, but I can guarantee an activity at least every other week. Start with your church and see what you can do from there.

Try meetup.com, you can find groups for almost anything. i belong to a few Moms meetup groups where our kids get together to play and we meet to chat, we even have moms nights out and such. I totally understand your delema, I too am lonely and am in need of friends. My best friend just moved away. I have a 3 year old son and a 13 month old daughter. if you would like to get together sometime email me.

What are do you live in?
I am near Alliance but do lost of stuff in NRH/Keller too.
I am a Christian, early 40's, work out, and also have void!
L.