L.C. asks from Downers Grove, IL on February 16, 2010
Field Trips in Preschool?
My son's preschool has a field trip coming up and im not sure im comfortable letting him go. He is 4 and has never been anywhere without me or a relative. He would be totally fine without me, but im concerned that he could get lost or seperated from the group. I could put my name in the drawing to go with, but there is no gaurantee i will be picked. Do you think this is too young to travel in a bus and go on a field trip with out me? I really think im not going to let him go, but wanted see how other moms feel.
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I went on the trip with my son and im glad i did. Where we went had a lot of kids and i could see a preschooler getting lost in the mix. I certainly would not have been comfortable letting him go there without me. In the future i will either go with or not let him attend. Several moms in the class said the same. Since most moms that responded felt the same way, i dont think im being irrational. I know there were one or 2 who were all for letting their kids explore without them at the age of 4, and i seriously question thier parenting abilities and safety of thier children. Thanks for all the great advice.
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L.K. answers from Chicago on February 17, 2010
My daughter went on trips when she was 4 and I was a bit nervous. I went on the first trip with them and then her 2nd she did not want me to go. She was so proud when she came home from trip #2 becasue I did not go with her and she felt so big. There are normally 1 parents for every 3 kids. It is go for kids to break out of their everyday schedule. Good luck.
P.R. answers from New York on February 16, 2010
One of the preschools I looked at had field trips for their 3 and 4 year olds to nearby towns, in school buses and without seat belts. I thought this was dangerous and was told that it's easier to take them out in case of an accident (I think it's more dangerous for them to not be in car seats). I was told I could take my child in my car too as an option, but in the end I decided it was a dealbreaker for me - I'd rather have him not go to the school at all. Other preschools in the area don't do field trips because of liability concerns.
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C.S. answers from Chicago on February 24, 2010
I have to say that I agree that going on a field trip is too much for a 4 year old. Why don't they invite a parent for each child? They can ask for siblings to be left at home. It is very unsafe for a child to be on a bus without seatbelts and car seats. I really cannot understand this... My best friends son got lost at Brookfield Zoo. He was with a parent chaperone, saw someone he knew, walked away and was lost for hours before they found him. He was 7. It was very traumatic for him, his teachers, and his parents. Teachers may be very watchful of the kids in their group, but parent chaperones have no training. Many are not used to being around any child but their own. I certainly wouldn't want some of the parents that have previously responded to your post being my kids chaperones. Obviously, they have a completely opposite parental style. Good luck.
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M.K. answers from Chicago on February 16, 2010
Hi L.! My daughter will be going on her first field trip on a bus for 5 miles this Spring. She's in a 3-yr old preschool class (although she's about to turn 4.) I guess I haven't really thought about it in a negative way since I love her preschool, and she is *so* excited about going. Plus, I know they will have 1 adult per 2 students on the trip.
However, he is your son -- and if are not comfortable, it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. Put your name in the drawing, and if you don't make it, keep him home with you that day. Take him out on your own special excursion and have a terrific day with your son! :)
P.R. answers from New York on February 16, 2010
One of the preschools I looked at had field trips for their 3 and 4 year olds to nearby towns, in school buses and without seat belts. I thought this was dangerous and was told that it's easier to take them out in case of an accident (I think it's more dangerous for them to not be in car seats). I was told I could take my child in my car too as an option, but in the end I decided it was a dealbreaker for me - I'd rather have him not go to the school at all. Other preschools in the area don't do field trips because of liability concerns.
T.C. answers from Austin on February 16, 2010
When my son was in pre-k, his class took a field trip to the mall to build-a-bear and picture with Santa. I didn't really have to do much because they had the kids taught well to follow the teachers. They had a colorful rope with handles to help the kids stay in line, and when they asked them to sit and wait, they all did. In kindergarten, they went to a farm. There were more kids per teacher, and they actually told me I HAD to go along because the aide was helping a handicapped child. The school bus went on the bumpy back roads, and the kids were really bouncing out of their seats. His class went to the same place in 1st grade. I went along again, and it was a better experience. There were more parents helping, including the teacher's mom. I felt good about all 3 times I went on field trips. In pre-k, I got to see how well my son acted with the support of the teachers. In K & 1st, I kept him from getting lost and got to see his excitement at learning new things. His schools never limited the number of parents that could go along, just the spaces on the bus and who was paid for.
K.B. answers from Houston on February 16, 2010
My children went to a petting zoo, the local grocery store, and a small amusement park/farm while in preschool. To each one I let my children ride the bus with their friends but then met them at the location. I was always very impressed with the way the teacher's handled the group and felt comfortable that if a trip every came up that I could not go to, I would be ok with my kids being there. It all depends on the location and your comfort with the teachers. Go with your gut, but as others have said even if you can't fit on the bus with the class you should be able to go along on your own if your schedule permits.
Good luck,
K.
N.D. answers from Dothan on February 16, 2010
My child was close to 3 when she went on her first preschool fieldtrip to the pumpkin patch. I have to say iw as more broken up than she was. It was scary but then again I knew many kids and parents were attending, I was going till my car crapped out 1 day before the trip. all the kids were dressed in special shirts and lots of adults were assigned to the kids. That made me feel comfotable. My daughter had a blast and cant wait to do it again. Again, its harder on you than them really. Let him go he is 4!! If my 2 yr old can handle it your 4 yr old def can!
A.A. answers from Chicago on February 16, 2010
I did not allow my daughter to go on the class field trip in her 3 year old pre-k class. It wasn't because I wasn't comfortable with the supervision, I fully trust her teachers and that they would be well-cared for on the trip. I just couldn't get comfortable with putting my 30lb 3 year old on a school bus for a 30 minute trip with nothing more than a lap belt. She is in a five-point harness car seat. She goes lots of places with relatives without me, but I always send the car seat. Even if I chaperoned it wouldn't have solved the car seat issue, I could no more protect her in an accident on the bus, then anyone else. Most of the other kids in her class did attend, and I felt bad that she missed out....but at the end of the day I have to live with the decisions I make. There will be other trips when I feel she is old enough to ride a bus with a lap belt. Good luck with your decision =)
A.S. answers from Denver on February 16, 2010
How does *he* feel about going on a field trip with all his classmates? If he's excited and enthusiastic, then let him go.
The teachers are trained to keep the kids together -at our school they have a rope with loops for the kids to hang onto, one kid per loop- if they didn't feel comfortable taking the kids, they wouldn't. Mine's been on several now and had a lot of fun each time.
Each step in parenthood involves more 'letting go'. From the time you give birth, to quitting nursing, to getting them to eat on their own and bathroom on their own, you're teaching them to be independent. This is just another step. GL!
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