Fever - El Paso,TX

I don't really have any good advice for your first question, but I usually try to avoid giving really small kiddos adult medication. Have you asked a doctor? Cool washcloths on the forehead, wrists, or neck can sometimes work.
The second part of your question is easier. When a child says they are sick and you suspect that they are not, treat them as if they are *very* sick. Make them lie down - preferably in a quiet, dim room away from activity. Feed them food that is as nutritious and bland as possible. Don't let them do anything that could get them too excited, like playing video games. Baby them. In short, bore them silly while wondering out loud if they will need to go to the doctor. If they aren't really sick, they will tire of this treatment very quickly. If they really are sick, then you're doing just about everything you can for them. When they say that they are well, keep up the act a little while longer. After all, you wouldn't want them to "relapse" and get ill again!

If tylenol & motrin are not working you really need to see your pediatrician. Fever can be dangerous. So dont take chances. As for your 3 yr. old....when the little one is napping ask her what she would like to do...color, have you read her a book, play dress up,have a tea party ect. Just do some short one on one time with her. Even holding her & rocking in the chair. Also let her help you take care of the baby like getting you a diaper, a blanket, lotion ect. This will make her feel like she is are a part of the care & she will not feel like she is getting less attention from you. Ask your 3 yr old..."what should we do to make baby sisiter/brother feel better" This will make her feel like a big girl. Even if all she says is I dont know what to do. Atleast you asked & this will make her feel important & like she is a big girl getting to help mommy in her siblings care.

For fever would suggest alternating meds every four hours,and wiping with cool wash towel. ( Be sure not to cold some kids have phebral seizures to cold baths, we found ot the hard way with our 2yr old, he had a fever of 104 and we put him in a cool bath and he seized up) In the event the fever does not come down go to ER or Ped doc right away.

...not sure what do with the last, my son drives me nuts saying pee pee potty, when I know he does not need to go for attention.

Include her when you take care of your son.
When my daughter was born, she got all of the attention and I was afraid that my son would feel left out. So I included him in everything from changing her diaper to picking out her toys. It didn't matter what it was. I always asked him if he wanted to help me.
I hope this will give you some ideas.

I would tell her your3 yr old to get you things for you smaller one. Like a cool wash cloth and thermometer and little things that she can do. She can be your big helper.

You can alternate tylenol and motrin, give one and an hour or two later give another. If the fever continues, you can put him in a bath of luke warm water (it will feel cold to him if he's got a fever) to cool him down or give him a popsicle. You really should talk to his pediatrician though, fever can be dangerous, especially if it's over 103 (kids can have seziures), most Dr.s will want to see kids with a fever that won't go away. Fever is usually a sign that the body if fighting an infection. He may need an antibiotic, and if he is already on one and the fever won't go away, definatly call the Dr.

This is tough! If you're sure the 3 year old isn't sick, then my advice would be to try to reason with her. Explain to her that the baby is sick and you need her to be a helper. Give her a safe job that she can do. Assure her that you will do something together when the baby is sleeping or something.

It sounds like the little one is teething.