E.A. asks from Loganville, GA on March 04, 2008
Fertility - Loganville,GA
Not so much a request more of a vent.. Went through 3 cycles of clomid..nothing. Ob/gyn sending me to a infertility Dr.. Kinda bummed..feel like my ob/gyn is giving up on me . May sound silly. Anyways. with my son , i had no problems.. Was pregnant again with twins (with no help) in oct of 06' but miscarried in Nov.06'. Kinda bummed, irritated, sad.. Anyone else have the same issues?
M.F. answers from Atlanta on March 05, 2008
I'm so sorry to hear that. I have miscarried before and it was very emotional for me and my husband at the time I was however 23 and knew I had some time on my hands to work with to have children. I had a friend that took fertility shots and it took her some time before she got preg I think it was about 1 yr. I'm sure you are feeling many emotions but don't think you or ob has giving up on you the reason you are going to an infertility Dr I'm sure is because it's better to have someone that has studied this in more depth. I know it's easy for someone to say it will be ok and have faith but when you are walking in your shoes it's hard to step out of them and look at the shoes (so to speak). It's that way with many issues we face in life in general. Our bodies are very complex Doctor's know so much but still yet know so little there are still so many mysteries about our bodies. I am so sure you are very let down and bummed I would be to maybe it helps to say if you weren't that way you wouldn't be normal... I think you are reacting as normal as anyone else I would feel the very same about it as well. Listen I just want to say something to you I hate to see 0 and no one just saying something when someone is in need. I don't know if this helps but I think I can speak for some other moms as well that we do feel each others pain and joy just being women alone I've yet to meet a women with or without children that doesn't wear many hats in her daily life so we speak the same language. I like to read some Meditations for women in different books and this is for you...
It's by E. Dickinson
"Hope" is the thing with feathers
That perches in the soul
And sings the tune without the words
And never stops-at all.
I will keep hope for you and I will add you to my prayer list,
I will keep faith with you in your journey to the fertility doctor. My thoughts are with you.
L.S. answers from Savannah on March 05, 2008
I myself went through fertility treatments, w/ several rounds of clomid, clomid w/ steriods, and finally the shots. While on the shots, I went into hyperstimulation of my ovaries, and had to stop the shots. The Dr. told me that the only way that I would get pregnant was invitro. Afraid of going into hyperstimulation again, we opted not to do invitro. I was sad, and angry, why couldn't I have a child, my husband and I wanted one terribly. After years and years of trying, we took a break from the stress of it. I quit a very stressful job, lost the weight I was supposed to, and it happened! All on it's own. I let the Dr. who treated me know that I was finally pregnant, and he came to see my baby in the hosp. when she was born, and he couldn't have been happier. Long story short, it's not silly to have any of those emotions. Infertility can be an emotional rollercoaster. Continue to have faith, and don't be bummed about going to an infertility Dr. I was glad that I did.
A.M. answers from Atlanta on March 12, 2008
I got pregnant with my first daughter super easy. We decided to try and I was pregnant within one month of stoping BC. SO I naturally figured I would have no problem getting pregnant again when the time came. Ha! No such luck. We tried for over a year and no luck. I was going through all the same emotions you were. To make me even more frustrated my sister got pregnant with her 3rd baby during this time. We went through a ton of ovulation prediction kits, very expensive, and my OB saying just give it time (she had tested all my hormone levels and nothing was crazy), that I could buy a ton of diapers with what I would spend on fertility treatments. We were just about ready to plunk the money down to start the beginnings of fertility treatments. Finally someone suggested a book called "Taking Charge of Your Fertility". I read the book and learned a lot about myself and my body. I was not ovulating at the time that I thought I was, day 14, but much later. But After 4 months of charting according the TCYF book I was pregnant. SO it took us over a year and a half, but it did finally happen. 11 weeks to go and our second daughter should be here. Good luck with whatever you decide.
C.T. answers from Little Rock on March 05, 2008
In addition to what Jill wrote you may want to consider trying to use a natural progesterone cream to try to get pregnant. I have worked with several women using this method over clomid or IUI, which happens to be cheaper and safer. I am 12 weeks pregnant now by using the cream. I have fertility issues - it took me two years to have my son before I learned about progesterone. The fact that you miscarried tells me there is a possibility your progesterone is low. Low progesterone is one of the big causes of miscarriage and also a reason for difficulty in getting pregnant.
Jill is right on track too. Having a good diet and your weight being healthy is very important. ALl of the information she provided is excellent.