S.C. asks from Milford, MI on January 16, 2008
Ok, are there any other mom's out there that have experienced more difficulty getting pregnant for the second time??? I lost two pregnancies last year and have been trying again and cannot seem to get pregnant (last one was July). My cycles are 25 days on the mark but I just cannot seem to figure out when I ovulate. I have had sex from days 10 to 14 in various combinations with no success. I cannot do my temp b/c I work some night shifts and it will screw it up I think. I used a kit with my son and got preggo within a few months. I guess I thought I had a good idea when I ovulated but now I don't know. I will be 37 next month and my son is 2 1/2. My doctor told me to go ahead and go to a fertility specialist if I don't get pregnant within the next couple months......I don't know why but I am hesitant. I feel like I am not doing something correctly and I will look like and idiot. Maybe I should try a few months of the ovulation kit?? Any suggestions? Thank you all so much. I feel like this site is such a great resouce.
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Had a positive pregnancy test on Thursday but seem to have started to bleed today.....I guess it was just not meant to be. I will try all of your advice. Thank you so much.
H.R. answers from Detroit on February 02, 2008
I know how you feel. I am having problems too. My son will be 5 this year, and I cannot seem to get pregnant again. We have only been seriously trying (counting the days in the cycle, etc.) since January 2007, and still nothing. I will be 32 this year, and I am getting frustrated. I just bought an ovulation kit to see if that helps. I think I might move to California though and start drinking their water since everyone in Hollywood seems to be getting pregnant. It gets depressing everytime I open my people magazine and see someone else's pregnant belly on all of the pages. Hopefully this will be the month it happens for me.
J.D. answers from Detroit on January 16, 2008
Your story sounds very simular to mine, execpt I had a really hard time getting pregnant with my first. My cycles were all messed up and came to the conclusion that I wasn't ovulating each month. My doctor had me take Clomid, which is a fertility drug and to use a ovulation kit. It only took two months and I was pregnant.
I highly suggest trying an ovulation kit. They're very easy to use and tell you the exact day you're ovulating. I'm pretty sure Clearblue makes an ovulation kit. I've used a non-name brand before and it worked too.
Hope it works and hope you're preggo soon!
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K.K. answers from Detroit on January 16, 2008
I am with you. I have an almost 2 1/2 year old and have been trying since he was six months old. I had a miscarriage before him and had no problems getting pregnant both times. Now I am still hesitant to try all of the over the counter fertility methods; it seems unnatural. My doctor called it secondary infertility--it sounds so bad. She also stated that we should try going to the ob/gyn and start the fertility process. It is so hard (and devastating every month) when you love motherhood and want a house full of children. I obviously don't have any advice, but my thoughts and prayers will be with you because I know how it feels.
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C.M. answers from Detroit on January 17, 2008
You do have a short cycle, I have the same thing. When I got preggo the dr. had given me a slip to have my progesterone checked on day 20 of my cycle, thinking I may have low levels. If you have low levels it is more difficult to sustain a pregnency. Also short cycles are a sign of low progesterone. I would ask to have my levels checked and also go see the fertility specialist now.
L.O. answers from Detroit on January 16, 2008
get the ovulation kit.
it is cheap and it will let you focus your efforts on the fertile days.
Why waste your time at the fertility dr when you might be able figure things out at home.
Also the fertility dr is going to want to run tests and poke you with needles..
try a couple of months of the ovulation kit..
it worked for us.
K.H. answers from Detroit on January 20, 2008
I tried for almost 2 years to get pregnant with my second child. It was weird for me too because my first child was a complete surprise(I was only off the pill for less than a month). We tried for a while then I did then temp thing. Finally after a year and 8 months my doctor referred me to a fertility specialist. I went for the consultation and in talking to the doctor I told him I was late but that my cycle was not regular and I was often late (which really messes with your head). Well, come to find out I was pregnant. So I don't know if it was just the release of the pressure to do it on our own that made us finally get pregnant or what but I said "Dang, your good" :) So I would say don't put off going to a specialist. Maybe it is something simple that is a quick fix and you are putting yourself through things that you dont need to. They may suggest the ovulation kit or maybe just do some tests to make sure all is good. Anyway you don't have anything to lose. And just as an aside, it doesn't mean you will have trouble again if you want a third child. We were surprised by baby #3 while using condoms. Sometimes God's timeline is just not the same as ours. Good luck and let me know how things go. K.
R.C. answers from Detroit on January 17, 2008
I think you're being too hard on yourself, sweetie. You're doing everything right! The only suggestion I would have for you is to relax, and maybe try Clomid, if it doesn't happen for you in the next few months? A glass or wine (or two) seems to work for me, in terms of relaxing! Good luck to you!
S.V. answers from Detroit on January 17, 2008
I was 35 and having difficulty getting pregnant again also. I went to the Dr. and we tracked me temp, and figured out I wasn't ovulating either. I was diagnosed with Polycystic Ovary Syndrome and went on metformin, and also tried acupuncture. I truly believe the acupuncture is what did it. I had some very cool experiences during the treatment. Might consider this option before taking all those drugs and going through all the fertility stuff. I started to ovulate again within 2 months and was pregnant the next month. I am now 6 1/2 months along waiting for my little girl to be born. Best of luck, I know how you feel.
C.B. answers from Detroit on February 10, 2008
I havent read the other posts. Have they checked your progesterone levels?