Feeling Rundown

You're going to school, have a young child and 5 dogs? hmmmm....I wonder why you're tired??? My son is 2 and I have not felt the same since he was born...I feel the same way...tired, tired, tired. It doesn't matter how much sleep I get...I am still tired...you probably don't give yourself enough credit for all that you do. I've gone through phases with my son. I'll go through a phase where I can't wait to see him and then I'll go through a phase where I wish I could just go home from work and sleep and not have to deal with him. I would say if this keeps up for a long period of time to talk to your doctor. You migh be depressed. I know having a child can change your hormones a lot. Good luck and know that you're not alone!

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Boy, reading your post was like reading my life for the past several years...we really need a coffee club! LOL...

Honestly, I think your suffering from some depression and possibly anxiety. You might want to check with your doctor and try some anti-depressants (mind you they DO take about 4-5 weeks to actually start working so keep taking them...). You may also want to mention the being tired to him as your hormones may be out of whack and you don't even know it. My issues built up for so long without me doing anything about it that it also developed into an anger management issue...I'd get so mad at the kids that I litterally saw red and had to go lock myself in the bathroom until I calmed down (sometimes that would be just sitting on the toilet breathing or taking a hot shower/bath). And the stupid thing about it was that their indiscressions weren't all that bad...I was just overreacting. But the point is was that I had to train myself to tell them "mommy can't talk with you right now b/c I'm upset, but let me get back to you on that so I can make a fair decision" and walk away from the issue, calm down and reapproach it before I would say or do anything detrimental.

In your bio you seem VERY busy, stressed and overworked as a SAHM (which we tend to be)...see if you can't convince hubby to watch the kids one night a week (either every week or every other week) and you take the night off...go to a movie, go out to dinner with a friend (do you have them?? I don't seem to anymore since my kids are my life...LOL), or just go sit in the park or library but the point is to DO SOMETHING FOR YOU!!! It doesn't have to cost a lot but the fact that you are having quiet time for you is important.

Also, have you mentioned this to hubby? Maybe he's got some suggestions...but he certainly needs to know how you are feeling too. Sometimes we just get too busy and forget to even talk to eachother!

Another thing that really helps is exercise...especially with the really nice weather right now, throw that daughter of yours in the stroller and take a "sidewalk trip". The sunshine really does lift the blues and the endorphines from the exercise will help you feel better.

Anytime you want to chat...just drop a line! Been there, done that and proudly wear my T-shirt (albeit a bit dirty and stained now...LOL)

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Sounds like you need a break. It looks like you have a pretty full plate. You need to take a "me" day. Whether it's by yourself or with a friend. Take a day off and get away from it all. Go to lunch, see a movie, get a massage. Something that is just for you. We all need to recharge our batteries once in a while! You deserve it!

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I've seen a lot of good posts and all could be true but I wanted to present a different option that might sound odd... but it's possible you could have sleep apnea. Symptoms that you expressed are the no drive, always feeling tired and scattered and lack of patience... other things to look for are snoring, tossing and turning a lot, and increased tendency to wake up with a headache. Honestly, I would schedule an appt with your dr and talk about your symptoms, include anything new that you haven't experienced before, and let him/her start testing from there, it could be any of the options you've been given.

I also agree that increased exercise/time outside would help. It's very hard to get motivated to get out there, but once you do it does help.

Best of luck to you!

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I don't know how finances are for you right now. But if you can swing it I have a great recommendation. I bought a little movie/mp3/mp4 player called Creative Zen. It holds movies but I really get it for the audio books. I buy them through Audible.com. I love this thing. I download books as often as I can. I get a wide variety from music and relaxation to fiction to learning. Right now I am listening to a spanish audiobook that is for beginners. I don't know if I'll ever learn it. But it's great. I also bought the book called The Time Travelors Wife. I strongly recommend reading or listening to the book before the movie. The book is always better than the movie.

I also have the bible on tape and inspirational things by Joel Osteen and Joyce Meyers. I bought a nice set of headphones. Okay, don't call me crazy but I guess I am. I made 29 dollar per month payments for Bose headphones and those things are the bomb!

I wear my device and headphones and listen while I clean and sometimes even listen falling asleep in an easy chair. It's so important to do for us or we can't do for anyone else.

S.

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Hi E.,
This really sounds like postpardum depression to me. Most people don't realize that it can strike well after the birth of your child. I had it as well with my first child, and all I wanted to do was drive and sleep....I get how your are feeling. It is especially telling that many of these feelings are directed at your daughter. Please talk to your OB or doctor and let them know what is going on asap. You will need their support to get through this.
Good luck to you, and please reach out soon to your doctors - you don't have to feel this way.
D.

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It sounds like you have most symptoms of depression. You can be depressed without knowing why, or even feeling like you are. You should go to the doctor. Hope you find the answers that you are looking for.

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Besides being a tired mom with a busy child, you might be suffering from some depression. Check with your doctor. Maybe you just need more sleep, but maybe there is something more that you need. There is nothing wrong with admitting that you need help.

Good Luck.

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E.,

Just from personal experience, it could possibly be your thyroid. I was also dealing with postpartum, but my doctor said she wanted to check my thyroid just to be safe. Sure enough my thyroid wasn't working at all. A lot of the symptoms of postpartum are the same with the hypothyroidism I have recently acquired. It's ended up that I have some autoimmune disease where my body is attacking my thyroid.

Anyway, just ask your doctor if he/she can check your thyroid levels. I just have to take thyroid meds every day. I felt a lot like you are describing, but feel so much better now that things are better under control.

Hope you feel better soon.
Take care :)

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E.:
I can relate somewhat, as I felt this way after I had my daughter 7 weeks early and then home for 8 weeks, but could not take her anywhere for months after due to RSV season. A help to me (though you likely cannot believe this) was to get out of the house with some alone time. Just go to the grocery store alone when your hubby gets home. And the biggest help was getting back to church. My husband kept her at home on Sunday morning so I could get to church. I NEED that time for worship and time with our Lord. Initially, I was feeling so down that i felt as though I did not want to see anyone. But getting out and back into the "old" routine (somewhat) was a great help. My final suggestion is listening to Christian Radio (Casting Crowns, Jeremy Camp, Kutless are my favorites) or you can find these on playlist.com.
I'll be praying for you!

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You are exhibiting signs of depression from what you described. Do you ever give yourself time for just you? Do you get the chance to exercise? Are you eating properly? If not, try that & see if it makes a difference. You'd be surprised.

If the above suggestions do not help, talk to your doctor & be honest about your symptoms. Many things can cause depression, including thyroid disorders. It is a medical issue that needs to be discussed. Don't short-shange yourself by assuming you just need to 'get over it'. Write down your list & take it to your Dr. visit.

Take care of yourself, you are worth it!

J.

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You need a break! If it's financially feasable, ask your husband if you can go spend the night in a hotel for just one night. Take a book (NOT HOMEWORK!), or just watch TV in bed and get some rest.

Of course you are exhausted - look at what all you do! Give yourself some credit and yes, it is okay to be tired sometimes!

Now for practical advice - get a small/medium sized notebook and start making lists. Write down everything you need to do and make a goal everyday to cross off one or two items. Don't overwhelm yourself, but you will be surprised at how much it helps to see what needs to be done and then start plugging away at it.

Finally, find a Mothers Day Out for your daughter. Even if it is only one morning a week, alot of churches offer flexible programs at pretty reasonable costs. Just a few hours of a break to run some errands or just veg-out by yourself can make a big different.

These feelings won't last forever, you are going to be fine, but you do need to take care of yourself! Good luck!

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I went through this when both my kids were little. I just felt like I couldn't do it and I didn't want to do it any more. It's stressfull being a mom and I was working so I was getting out of the house each day, but I'm sure that working also played a roll. What would help me is that my hubby would watch the girls for the day and let me get out and do something just for me. Lunch and movie with my sister or going to the spa (only did that once), shopping (and not grocery shopping). Or we'd get Grandma to watch them for over night and we would go do something, like a bed and breakfast or just dinner and a movie then home. But something that was not tied to my kids. I would feel recharged and ready to go again. It's amzing was just a few hours of being you can do for you! If something like that dosen't restart your engine then you may need to talk to your doctor to make sure you don't have a litte touch of depression, but I'm betting just getting our and being E. will help you a lot. You have a lot on your plate, take a little break every now and then.

I also agree with the mom that said to get back to Chruch. That was a big help to me and still is. My kids are 6 & 8 and I love going to Church, that just sets the tone for my whole week. My husband and I were also doing a class for parents at our Church (Parenting on Purpose) and that was great to learn how to be a better parent and to have other parents there to talk about what we are struggling with. Plus many Churches offer things like Mom's day out and you can find other moms with kids your age.

Good luck & God Bless!

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Yes I know exactly what you are going through if these are the only symptoms you have your lucky.I have depression and now am dealing with postpartum depression for 2 yrs.Call your dr you may have depression or may not but a thyroid check will let you know if its an imbalance of your thyroid that causes depression symptoms,also if you are anemic start taking an Iron supplement this to will cause fatigue and mimic depression symptoms as well.

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Hi E., sounds like you are pushing your physical and emotional limits. Sometimes that will bring on situational depression. Thats the body and minds way of saying "think of yourself once in a while please." When I went through a time like that several years ago I really needed to clean up my diet and eat much healthier. It was an effort when I was already tired and didn't think I could handle one more thing. I found a dr that worked with nutritionists so I could use my insurance to help sort it out and get better. don't ignore your symptoms you can feel much better with help and support.

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E.,

It maybe a matter of you need to recharge your batteries a little by getting away for a day or a weekend or possibly a little bit of depression or even post-partum depression. Please know that all the moms I talk to have gone through phases like these where your kid/kids drive you crazy, your husband gets on your nerves, etc. It will pass. In the meantime, you may need to get some help from a psycologist or Dr. Sometimes talking it out, or you may need an antidepressant. Depression is a chemical issue in the brain. Some people need medication. Good luck and God bless.

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Hey E.,

I know the feeling I use to be the same way. I actually started taking some mood enhancement medicines that are toxin free and that seemed to help me a lot. I would talk to your doctor it sounds to me like your going through a little depression and it will only get worse untreated. If you would like the information on the stuff I'm taking just let me know and I can get that for you, but I would talk to your doctor at the very least because it can get really bad if it's not treated. Good luck!

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Sometimes just getting out in the fresh air can make you feel better, so take everyone on a walk w/ you and enjoy an hour or so of fresh air a day and more than likely your mood will change. It worked for me.

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