if you feel inadequate
then it probably means that you can still do something better.
I raised my boys at home, no daycare, it has huge positive sides. Do you PLAY with them together?
Legos is a good starter, build castles together, roads, race your cars together, let them win and sometimes beat them, too, have a lot of fun while playing, you need to become a kid yourself somehow.
Think what they CAN do already and start educating them SLOWLY:
blocks with numbers and letters,to pronounce letters, and find something in the room/house what starts with the same sound/letter, but make it FUN for them.
Actively engage them into all cleaning and dish washing and such things: when I needed to wash floors, we turned the house into a pirate ship, and spilled some water on the floor, as if the huge waves washed the deck over, and we took turns who is the captain and the captain gave out orders (not only yuou alone do it!) how to clean up the floor, how to wash, what corners were missed and what else can be done so that all is sparkling. The sailors, under the captains' guidance (you in some cases) can also have a word to POINT OUT TO ZTHE CAPTAIN what he missed while ordering around, and of course the captain must HELP the sailors, not only just being a chief commander, as if he does not help, he loses the authority of the sailors and they won't obey him...
when I needed to clean the room up, all the surfaces full of eee... whatever, you know, then I did it thuS: absolutely EVERYTHING from all over the room, goes into one huge pile in the middle of the room, on the carpet (floor): papers, toys, books, dishes, uneaten snacks, EVERYTHING. Everybody helped to do it, ans it was fun as you do not need to apply your brain into such cleaning, just all from everywhere goes into one pile. Be careful with liquids and chocolate/ketchup only, as you do not want it all wet or stained. Now, what do you see?
A clean room!!!!! One task is immediately accomplished. What else do you see? Now, the next part stARTS: THIS IS CALLED A "TREASURE HUNT": you can make it more fun if you take turns, and one at a time, you close your eyes, and pick ONE OBJECT from the pile of 'treasures', and decide (together or alone) where would be the best place for this object. garbage? Fine, run take it to the bin. Upper shelf? Great, climb up and put it there... and so on. If your 'crew' had a lot of energy, make then run all over the house to place things up one by one. If you all get tired, you can make smaller piles around in the circle: garbage pile; bedroom pile, kitchen pile, and once all sorted out, put all the bedroom pile into a plastic baggie, walk over there, and take thing one by one, placing them into places.
This way, your house is clean, you teach the kids to be caring, neat, happy, communicative, creative, and all are happy.
I would VERY STRONGLY recommend you to limit the TV time to no more than 1-2 hours per day, for some meaningful watching.
What do you fill in the time with?
1. discuss what they've seen, what they think of it, why the characters in the cartoon behaved so...
2. read them stories, and definitely then discuss the events in the story, what why how, what is the reason, how would they behave if they were that character, and what would happen if something in the story would happen differently: the bus came, for instance, and took kids to the kindergarten in the story. But, you say: the bus did not come. Mom and dad are at work. you guys waited for the bus but nothing happened. What do you do next...? And let them 'write' this story in their heads, and interrupt with unexpected situations: they'd say, well we'd go back home. You say: you started home, but here suddenly from behind the corner, here comes the GIRAFFE!!! what do you do? Present them very crazy funny unexpected situations, and go with their fantasy. Then, dad comes home, and you have a story for him to tell, you'll be amazed what you will 'write' together. You can really write it down, but even if you won't, it's a great exercise for the kids to start thinking, being responsible for their actions, and analyze WHY they do things like this (in their story)...
and so on...
they are absolutely creative, go with them!
they will lead you through, all it takes for you, is to start their game, and they pick it up and go to unknown directions making you SO HAPPY to participate in the world of their wonders.
Once you play with them long enough, they learn how to play on their own, but do not let the TV raise your kids, this is a crazy thing to watch without analyzing what is good and what is not there, it is a ¸TOOL for the system to raise obedient citizens, you know that, so keep it under control, if you want your kids to develop and open up all their natural potential creativity and genius.
I miss my boys being little, tremendously, that was my happiest time in life. they arfe 23 and 25 now, but we are great friends up until now, and they do very well in life.
L., You are blessed twice:
You have great kids, and_ you can stay at home to participate in their great life while they are growing. use the moment, do not spill a drop!!!
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if you feel like it. I have more ideas :)
and I also wrote some stories about my boys... I can share with you in attachment, if you wish.
Have a great gooDay, nicEve, and enJOY!!! M.