We only get to go do things because of our family..So I guess I am your friend in this situation.
We have no CC debt..anymore. It is all my medical bills. All alomst 100k of it.
My in laws love taking mini vacations..and spending time with us and the grandkids.
We dont float off of anybody. When there is soemthing they want to go do as a family..Like stay at Great Wolf Lodge for the weekend...I am not gonna turn them down. My kids dont deserve to be stuck up in a house because I was sick.
So, yes we do take the vacations if they are being asked of us. Because I dont know when we will ever be able to go stay some place or take a vacation on our own.
Our family understands or money issues right now...They dont hold the fact we are struggling with things because of medical bills as us just being lazy and floating.
I work hard at home to bring in money I can....and my hubby works 60 hour weeks sometimes more...just to make sure we have a roof over our heads.
I know that my friends(even close ones)get green eyed at us for the same reason.
I try and include them when we can and the moeny and event allows.
My FIL and his Wife always love taking kids to the big State fair we have here every year....a day for seven(eight if we bring someone)can be 500 bucks.
If I told them no. they would be hurt. And there have been plenty of times where I feel like I was having to take there gift as a hand out...but they have assured me...it is not a ''Handout'' that regardless of where we were at with our money they would still take us and do it that way.
My hubby and I are kinda keeping a running tab...cause when we do(and we will get outta the red)get back on top...we want to take everyone on a massive trip(this of course right now is all wishful thinking...but dont kick a girl for having hopes).
It is ok to be green eyed about it. It does suck. And I cant speak for the people you know in their own situations...
Mind though is the fact that my kids deserve to do the fun stuff. they didnt cause my illness.
People might look at your situation and say wow I am jealous they have it so together and are working on paying down CCs.....Man they will feel good when they can walk away from that stuff..and vacation whenever you want...I can say I am green eyed at the thought of that sort of freedom.
The grass is not greener in floater ville..it actually is brown and we dont like it...but this statement could be used in both directions....
I wanna make my tone clear..I am not saying this angrily. I am saying it matter of fact. you do have some very good points and rights to feeling green.