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Feeling Good and Bad a the Same Time!

I go to NCC. I am a distant learning student because I do not have a sitter for my daughter. I went to the study marathon that they had last week and learned that they have a free fitness center that I can use because I am a student. I can go whenever I want. But again I don't have a sitter. So I am able to take her with me but she has to sit in the common area where the students can study and stuff. The gym walls are windows so I can see her the whole time. I just feel bad because she is sitting out there either doing homework or playing her Nintendo. I went over some rules as if someone where to grab her she is to scream and she is not to leave her seat. I feel bad she is sitting there but I need to work out so bad. So how can I feel so good but so bad at the same time?

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Thank you to everyone who has responded. I went yesterday and I rode 6 miles on the bike and I walked 1 mile. I felt so good afterwards. She did fine sitting out in the lobby. She got all of her homework done and she had time to play her nintendo. But I told her she coudl nto move from the chair. I worked out for about 45 minutes and by the time I got out there she looked like she was going to burst because she had to go to the bathroom. So we quick went in and decided that she will use the bathroom before my work out and if she really needs to go she can go. I woudl like to get a walkie talkie or something. That way she can have one and so can I. Thanks again for all your great advice.
P.S. Working out in a gym is so much better then working out at home!

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I would be willing to watch her if you need me to. we can meet for a mini interview. I have a BA in Child Deveopment and a minor in Psychology. I worked in Child care centers for 4 years before my son. He is 3 years old. He loves other kids. :) I would be willing to help you. We can work out very inexpensive rates...
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I would be willing to watch her if you need me to. we can meet for a mini interview. I have a BA in Child Deveopment and a minor in Psychology. I worked in Child care centers for 4 years before my son. He is 3 years old. He loves other kids. :) I would be willing to help you. We can work out very inexpensive rates...
Thanks,

You shouldn't feel bad, you're doing good things! I think sometimes as single moms we have to improvise as long as we're not putting our kids in danger. Eight years old is old enough to follow instructions well and to keep herself entertained, plus its fortunate that the walls are windows and you can see her the whole time! Its important to make extra efforts to still do things for ourselves as people so we can be more then just somebodies mom. Next time you feel bad just think of the good example you're setting by taking care of your health and continuing your education even though its not easy.

I understand how you feel. i have my son and my 5 week old during the day. Theres not much my son can do with the baby so he kinda gets bored. His big sister just started kindergarden. During the day i need some down time while my baby is sleeping...but that leaves my son bored.

There are things a child of 8 can do to keep fit too. She can use the chin up bar, if she can reach it, the heavy bags, punching bags, walking. Not that she will be liting weights, but in my Jr. High, we worked out daily to keep in shape.

Hey you. You go GIRL. Good for you. I am a single Mom too and I know how difficult that can be BUT good for you for continuing to strive and model to your daughter that LIFE is hard adn certain situations cause us to do things in an unconventional way. It doesn't mean jeopardize safety, which you are not, it just means we think outside the box. If you were at a GYM like Bally's or GOlds Gym or whatever other membership driven gym there is around, she would be sitting in the child's area with younger children most likely doing the same thing. So what is the difference? You have a plan in place...She seems like she is perfectly capable...it's working. You just need to cut yourself some slack. You have to do some things for you. Working out is healthy and it's a break. You just make it work. Maybe you could trade services with someone else. Like watch their child another time. You could go through her school and talk with other parents and maybe set up certain days where she could go over to their house and their daughter could "chill" with you? Just an idea. Mom's have to band together. Or maybe there is a college friend of yours or around your age, that could be the "big sister" or "auntie" and take her during that time. My girls have LOTS of AUNTS. They have come through for me time and time again. Build yourself a goood strong support network, that is the key.
Don't feel bad.....You are showing your daughter how to have BALANCE. It may seem "out there" or unfair" but it really isn't. Voice your gratefullness to her for understanding and cooperating. She needs to know that her willingness to do it adn follow the "plan" is needed in order for you be able to have that luxury and how much you appreciate her for that. When you are a single Mom, you an dyour kids are a TEAM. Not that other mom's and kids aren't, but I find we have to really make it work together. There is no one else but us. Just tell her...Always let her know.......

Hi B.. First of all cudos on juggling school with motherhood; that is something I've yet to master. Although I am not in your shoes, I constantly feel guilty about leaving my children to do anything for myself. Lately, I've just been trying to tell myself that if it helps me feel like me, then it's doing them a favor. Most often, we're the ones who feel bad about things that aren't even affecting our children negatively. It's not really advise, it's just a way to help you maybe feel better about letting her wait for you...I hope I was of some help. Take care and good luck!

Can you go to the gym while your daughter is in school??

Well there is a lot of things you can do to make her feel comfortable. Well for one let her go spend sometime with friends. You can even put her in activity that she likes, well you go to the gym. Dont let yourself get down let her know that this is the one thing that makes you happy. Then later on that day or week do something with her or for her that makes her happy so you have a happy medium between the both of you. Always let her know that you 2 have to stick together because that is all we got.

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