Feeling Alone - Spring,TX

Hey C H,

I just wanted to post on here to let you know that things WILL get better. It's pretty normal to be feeling depressed, stressed, sleep-deprived, etc. You have an active toddler which demands a lot of attention, and now you have a beautiful new baby that needs what's left of your time and attention. Hubby's away working, you're home all day long with no intelligent, adult conversation. It's definately understandable to get lonely and depressed. I'm a SAHM myself with a 7 mo daughter. My other daughter is almost 12 yo, so she needs a totally different form of attention. About 2 mths ago, I started feeling VERY lonely. (We moved out into the country about 6mths ago, outside Bandera, TX. My family all live in the TX Panhandle. I haven't made any friends either.) I spend every day at home. I go grocery shopping every two weeks, but other than that, I very rarely leave the house. When I finally got to the point that I was crying myself to sleep at night, I discussed the problem with my hubby. At first it was not a good conversation, but after some tears and some talking, he began to understand my point of view. When he is home he actually helps with the baby more often. Sometimes he even gives up sleep so that I can sleep a little bit longer. He takes care of the baby while I take a long hot bath. My point is this.....Discuss your problems with your hubby. Tell him your thoughts, feelings, all of that stuff. He may surprise you, and be able to shift things around to help you out.

Take heart knowing that things always get better! If you need someone to talk to or just vent to, feel free to message me. I'll even send you my personal email address if you need it. That's what we moms are here for!!!

Good luck!!!

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Take the medicine! I can't say it enough. I was in your situation after my baby (who is 8 now) was born. I was also nursing and continued to nurse for nearly 2 years while I was taking wellbutrin. The only thing that happened to either of us was that I became "normal" again. Think of it this way - what kind of Mom do you want to be for your children? If it is a sane rational loving Mom and wife then take the Wellbutrin. It will work and if it doesn't there are other types of antidepressents on the market. Ask your OB for another. Give it at least 4 weeks to really work before you decide it isn't. Most important of all - once you feel better don't stop taking it - taking it is what makes you feel better. Good luck!

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my midwife would tell me... up your Omega-3s and B Vitamin complex. Also make sure you are still taking all your vitamins and minerals that you did when you were pregnant. Postpartem is hard emotionally and physically. It does get better. And ask for help, people like to help. Someone to watch your 2 yo or just come clean or cook for you a few days a week. Seriously, I know its hard (we're having our third kid any week now) and I have a 3 yo and a 1 yo. It will change and get better. Eat well and try to sleep/nap as much as you can. Hope all goes well...

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Hang in there! Another group you could try is through Meetup.com. There are a lot of locations specific groups in there that hold play dates during the day and mom's day out types of groups in the evening. I know it's scary starting to go to other people's houses like that, but so far everyone I've met has been really nice. I try to have an activity for every morning - Dynamoze, Library (Semmes has a great program), play dates. Then the afternoon can be for naps and playing quietly until daddy gets home.

For the depression, I've read that acupuncture can really help - if you want to try something drug free first. I also second the exercise, and maybe journaling (there's research that shows that just writing in a journal for a couple of weeks can really improve mood).

You are not a bad mama just because you need a break and find it hard to stay home. I think everyone goes through that, and it just takes time to work it out.

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I have kids almost the same age, a 22 month old son, and a 4 month old daughter. I don't have experience with medication, but I can share stories, tips, vent, whatever. If you need someone to talk to, exchange e-mails, let me know.

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I'm not a big fan of mediction, but love support. Have you thought of joining a mom's group? I am a member of a fantastic one, and they are all over. An example is Mom's Club international...a great group of moms offering so much support, and they are all stay at home moms. I do it, and it is very hard, but the support helps, and I really wouldn't trade being with my kids for anything. Also, on the subject of grumpiness in an infant, have your baby checked out by a chiropractor. I use an excellent one, and my daughter was in need of one after my c-section delivery. Something may be hurting her.Please message me if you have questions. It will get better. I wish you all the luck in the world!

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Dear C H,
You are not alone, dear. There are many others of us who have dealt with post-partum depression. The antidepressant will help you. I took an antidepressant after the birth of one of my children. You are not doing anything wrong. Many women have difficulty after the birth of a baby. Obviously your body has been impacted and needs to recover, your mind just needs some solitude and relaxation as well. Do you have family/friends nearby who could lend a hand to help you get some rest? Perhaps fix a meal or 2 to give you a break? You are fortunate that your husband was able to come home to give you some relief. The medicine should be helping you see some improvement soon. If it doesn't, do not hesitate to try another from your dr. You will be better soon. I have some other simple suggestions if you want I will send you, just write me back.
Peace,
C.

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Dear CH,
I really feel for you. Please know you are not alone. So many new (and new again) moms are struggling with exhaustion and that causes all kinds of other problems. I'm not an expert, but I've had 3 children, and all I can say is that is DOES GET BETTER, esp. once you can get a little more sleep. Hang in there! It sounds like you were smart to seek professional help from your doctor. If you can find some help from a mom's group (like this, or in person like a neighborhood group) that might be a real life-saver. Just knowing you are not alone and having someone who will listen and sympathize helped me so much.
Good luck - and remember - it will get better!

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My children are 18 months apart, so I understand the stress you are going through. I, also, took an antidepressant after having my 2nd. It made the world of difference. Another thing that helped (and still helps) is exercise. I joined the Y. They have childcare and many programs for the children and yourself. Where I live you can even do drop off care for a couple of hours (or less, or more) a couple times a week. Just being able to go and eat a taco by myself is unbelievable.

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Staying home with kids is very isolating. I made it through the 2 years I did it by almost never being home! It's a chore to take kids everywhere, and it really messes with nap schedules, but for my mental health, I had to stay out, not home. (It's such a chore and you're so exhausted, that you actually might be GLAD to get home when you're finally there!) I had to meet other moms and see them constantly. I went to the story times at the library, the playgroup at our local gymnastics place, got a zoo membership, and stalked any of my mom friends who were on maternity leave. (who were also happy to have someone to talk to!) If you don't know of groups in your area, someone had mentioned meetup.com. You can try to find a playgroup that way. I also joined my local chapter of Mothers of Preschoolers (MOPS). Now, to have the kind of "I'm so busy I don't have time to feel alone" lifestyle I had, you have to have a supportive husband who doesn't need a super-clean house because you won't have time to do it. I'm sure your doctor suspects post partum depression if you have noticed a change since your daughter was born, which is why he/she prescribed Wellbutrin. It really might help. Other moms have said it is safe, and I'm sure your doctor would only prescribe it if it won't hurt your baby. But, if you need more reassurance, you could call your doctor's office to ask them a little more about the drug (ask about side effects and how much gets into baby's milk, etc.). I've also learned that you can just call up a local pharmacist to ask about drug issues. I also feel very funny about taking new drugs, even if it WON'T affect a baby, and having follow-up conversations after I leave the office but before I take it does help. Good luck!

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Dear CH--Bless your precious heart. It is so easy to go through down times after giving birth--especially with a toddler at home and household responsibilities to take care of. Please don't be afraid to take the medicine your OB prescribed. He/she knows that you are breastfeeding and wouldn't give you anything to hurt your baby.

Believe me, you NEED this. You will be surprised how quickly you begin to feel like "your old self" again. I had a close friend who suffered with severe post-partum depression for six months until she finally gave in and started taking the medication that her doctor prescribed. Within DAYS, she was back to normal. (It had gotten so bad that the grandparents had to take the baby for those six months and take care of him. She wasn't physically or emotionally able to care for him.)

I pray that you receive the help you need.

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C H,
Hang in there, I know it is hard, but you are going to be fine, with a little rest! I have not ever taken Wellbutrin before, but have been in your shoes, and this too shall pass. I am praying for you, that you will MAKE time to take a nap when your husband comes home, so you can catch up on some much needed sleep. The feelings of guilt are probably associated with being too tired to do anything! Call a friend and ask for help, that's what friends are for! I will keep you in my prayers!

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I really feel for you and I know what you're going through. It can be exhausting and isolating to be home with little ones by yourself all day long. Try to find other moms in your neighborhood or through your church that you can have playdates with. I have a great group of friends now that get together nearly every week day to play and it just helps with the sanity to have a grown up to talk to! You still have the kids, but they are much more occupied when they have someone else to play with.

Also, I try to get out of the house every day, even if it's only for a walk or somewhere quick. My kids like to be outside, so even if we just play in the backyard, it helps all of our sanity. I have been struggling a little bit lately too. I have a 3 year old and a 10 month old and I have been feeling very overwhelmed and like I never have any time to do anything for myself. My hubby watched the kids for me for one day so that I could get away and it made a world of difference. I'm sane again (well, at least more so than before)! It's so hard when the kids are this age, but I'm told it does get better, so I hang on to that thought and pray a lot to get through it. Find some other moms to hang out with because friends help a ton, even if it's just to commiserate!

As for the medication, as long as your doctor says it's okay, then I guess it is alright to breastfeed while taking it, but I was kind of like you and didn't want to take anything when I was breastfeeding. The bottom line is, if you are suffering from post partum depression and you can't cope, then you need to have the medication. Do it for yourself and your kids! I am a huge proponent of breastfeeding, but if you have to stop in order to take this medication, then I would do so. It's so much more important to be healthy for your family and able to take care of them. I'll say a prayer for you because I know the torment you're feeling right now and it's heartwrenching.

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ALthough I am in a slightly different situation, single mother of two children, 11 yr old son and 2 yr old daughter, puberty and potty training all at once! I have no help and am raising these two beautiful children all on my own. All this to say that being overwhelmed can be an under statement. I just wanted to say to watch out for the side effects of Wellbutin, I recently changed to another anti-depressant due to the extreme irritability I experienced. I could go from normal to out right mad in less than a minute, so patience was no longer a part of my vocabulary. This isn't the case for all users but it does happen, so just be aware and talk with your Dr. about alternatives if this is not the right one for you. Nobody wants to be that impatient/irritable person that everyone tries to avoid! Good luck!

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Have your doctor check your thyroid...sometimes childbirth triggers hypothyroidism...it did in me. I felt like two different personalities, and it was all because my thyroid was not functioning properly. Good luck and God Bless!

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You NEED to take care of yourself! Take the medicine to help you get to feeling better. It is a hard time with to little ones but remember they are only little once so enjoy your time with them! Find a moms group/play group to get involved in and plug in for so adult interaction. Hang in there! Rest as much as you can and remember to take care of yourself!

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Have you joined a group for stay at home moms? I joined a MOMS Club when my oldest was just four months old and have been in the club for 4 years. I had a hard time adjusting to being a stay at home mom too. I was a teacher before and missed my teacher friends and daily interaction with adults. My son wouldn't nap unless I held him, walked him around the house, bounced him on a ball. If I didn't have the MOMS club and activities to meet other moms I think I don't know how I would have survived. It is a great way to just get out of the house and talk to other moms and receive much needed support! Also, I felt when I had my second son it was even harder. My oldest was just 2 years and still needed me alot, but I also had a demanding nursing baby who didn't like to sleep either. However, by the time baby number two was 8 months old life improved greatly and I could see the light at the end of the tunnel. It was really hard at first though and I remember telling people that he would be my last child because I couldn't go through this again. But, now I am due with my third child in May. Check out: www.momsclub.org

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Don't let your emotional stage take over your life you need some me time ask your husband to give you at least 1 and have him sit with the kids just so you can take a warm bath or just to do something for your self.
You should call your Ped. Doctor about the medication your taking and see what they tell you to do, I hope this will help it so hard when we depression

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I had similar feelngs after having my kids. I took Wellbutrin SR 200mg (which is half the prescribed dose since I nursed) and it made the world of difference.

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Hi CH,

I suffered from postpartum depression w/my last little one. It started immediately & my dr. prescribed wellbutrin & prozac -- take the Wellbutrin if your dr. is prescribing it to you! I breastfed too and that was a concern, but my dr. told me that very little will get into their system. He also told me if I was unable to take care of myself, I would not be able to take care of anyone else & it would get worse before it got better. So start now if your haven't already -- It will help you, but it will take a little time to get into your system. And, take it in the morning not at night. If the Wellbutrin alone does not work, they may need add to it or up your dose. Keep in touch w/your OB or nurse about your situation - they need to know (to help you)! Any questions or need someone to talk to, feel free to email @ ____@____.com - Hang in there!

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Look into some mom or play groups so that you can go out with other moms occasionally. This will help with discussions between adults and letting the kids play so they are not right on top of you every second. You may also try taking them to the park or long walks to get you out of the house and breath some fresh air. My son and I often go on walks and he is very calm and enjoys them. Hopefully it would be the same for you.

What about finding a mother's day out program so that you could drop the kids off a time or two a week just for some down time and time to recoup yourself.

Where do you live? If you are in the area maybe you can join our group of moms who get together occasionally.

I sincerely hope that things get better.

Barbara

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Just know that it will be ok. I think the most important thing to do when you are feeling frustrated and alone is to surround yourself with friends and things to do. Make weekly plans with any friends you have that have children home during the day, join a mom's group that you can be part of. I joined MOPS (Mothers of Preschoolers) at Community Bible Church when I became a stay at home mom and I really believe that it helped me through. I was able to talk to other moms in my group who shared their problems at home too, we prayed about it and gave the frustration to god. When i feel alone and frustrated just getting out seems to make me feel better, go to the zoo, the mall anything. But you need to get with other moms any way you can and keep the knowledge that you are a wonderful mother who will raise wonderful children.

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Hello! I know exactly what you are going through. I have a 7 month old son and I was feeling very overwhelmed and tired and angry. It got so bad that my husband and I started fighting all the time. I always felt like I had all this built up stress and anger and it drove me crazy. I talked to my doctor and she also wanted to put me on some medicine but I really didn't want to be on anything. I started taking B Complex and it has helped me so much. I still have the stress sometimes but who doesn't right? I no longer feel angry and my husband and I are getting along and I actually look forward to waking up every morning. If you don't want to take any medication then try the B Complex, I swear it's helping me. Good luck and hang in there! *hugs*

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I sufferred from post-pardem depression after my second son. I was also on Wellbutrin. I recommend you take it. It will take 2-3 weeks to take effect, so the sooner you start, the better. I am an RN and just from the information you have given I would have you evaluated for depression. I was on it for less than a year and recovered with no problems. My boys are now 7 and 4 1/2. I waited way too long before seeking treatment because I hate taking medication and other than that have never been on anything except pre-natal vitamins. By the time I started on medication, I had become a different person. I was miserable and suicidal. I almost lost my job and was having severe anxiety because even the smallest issues seemed completely overwhelming. Please take this seriously. Call me if you want to talk. ###-###-####

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HI. A couple of things that will equip you and support you: go to www.mhahouston.org and click on brochures to read their excellent one on Your Emotions After Delivery (Baby Blues and Postpartum depression symptoms checklist and support agency referrals); contact a couple of local mom-and-me support groups and begin to create a network of support for yourself, perhaps a playfriend/group for your toddler, and ways for you to have some alone time to get sleep, go outside in the fresh air and sun, to take a bath, etc. Go to www.meetup.com and locate the Spring, TX mom support group for young children. A local church and/or high school may have teens that will come and assist you for a couple of hours now and then. It may cost a few bucks, and worth it. Good luck.

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it is so isolating, isn't it? strange because people keep having babies.... i used to look at them and think, what are they doing that i am not? looks like we are not alone! my kids are now 8 and 4, but i can taste what you are feeling. the sleep deprivation makes everything seem impossible. look, you know you love your child unconditionally, but your bond will deepen as you all get to "know" each other... like any other relationship. so no more guilt! about the wellbutrin, i was on it during my second pregnancy, and went off of it before having her bc i wanted to nurse. then i had a drop-off into post partum depression.... my doc said very little of the wellbutrin passes through breast milk, and according to another doc, it is the "cleanest" of the antidepressants. you do not have to go that way, but if you do, know that you are not harming your baby. besides, baby needs a happy mom, so you really do have to take care of yourself first, not the other way around.
hang in there, we all empathize with you!

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First, FORGET THE BREASTFEEDING!!! OMG....you need to put yourself FIRST! I found breastfeeding tied me down and I felt lost ...like I personally did not exist. The baby will be fine with formula, just fine!!!!!!! promise!
Take the meds and get your self back to where you need to be to enjoy that beautiful baby and great family.
Then, buy "Mylacone" for the fussy baby. It saved us!
You made the first step to see the Doctor, now take the next and keep going to help yourself.
I believe these days we have TOO MUCH information about right and wrong...it's confuses us and makes us judge ourselves WAY too hard. You are a great Mom, Wife and Friend.....please put yourself first..the family will do better once Mom is better!

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Hang In there. It will get better. But you may need help. Ask someone to come spend the night and use them that night get some sleep!! If your doctor said the medication was fine for breastfeeding then take it---Hormones are crazy right now --No one will look down at you for needing help---all new moms have been there.
I promise it will get better!!

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There are play groups out there that your oldest child can go to, you can visit with the other mothers while this is going on. The play groups are at churchs etc. Check them out and give it a try. Also go to parks and let you oldest run and play you can watch, the air and the out doors will help both the kids and you, they will both sleep better and you can relax. Sit in a chair with some music while you nurse, hum and make soft noise while you nurse this will also relax both of you while you nurse. I know that it sounds strange but it did help relax both of mine and we were both able to sleep. BEEN THERE

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Hello,

I have 2 little girls, ages 5 and 2. My oldest daughter was almost 3 when our new baby came home. I remember feeling very down and overwhelmed when number 2 joined us, so I thought I would share my story with you since it sounds soooo familiar. I worked full time, but took about 4 months off for maternity leave. I figured when I got back into the swing of things with work I would feel better. I thought I was missing my friends, adult responsibility, etc. Well, I went in for my check up at my OB office and I had post partum. This was not diagnosed until my baby was about 6 months old. My doctor put me on a low dose of Wellbutrin, and I saw a huge difference. I was nervous about taking something, but I have had no side effects at all. I also breast fed, and that wasn't a concern for my doctor, but they are all different. I was also at the point where I was starting to ween her off of me though. So maybe that's why it was ok...i cant remember exactly. Since then, I have quit my job and have become a stay-at-home mommy. Totally new stresses came my way, so I went on it a second time. I am still on it today. It is very tough being a SAHM, and I had never realized how hard it was going to be. I have noticed, with my personal experience, that staying on the medication helps me get through my day with organization, energy, ease, and most of all enjoyment. It doesn't make hardships or anything "go away", just makes it easier to deal with with a smile on my face. I have a much more positive attitude. I hope this helps, and I hope you can understand that you, and your husband, are not alone out there.

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Sounds like, you might be suffering from Post Pardum Depression. Not sure how you spell it. Many women develop this, after having a baby.

Make an appt. to see your dr. Hope you will be feeling better soon.

Good Luck.

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Hi CH,
It sounds like everyone has already given you great advice regarding the meds. Just to add a couple of things, I would HIGHLY suggest buying a Dr. Sears baby sling (the kind that wraps around you and over your shoulder). You can buy one at Target or baby's R Us. You can carry your baby around almost the entire day so you can be more hands on with your toddler and the baby will be more content. This helped me sooo much.
Also, if you have a baby sitter or family member that can baby sit try to have a date with your huband once every couple of weeks so you stay more connected.
My prayers are with you!

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Bless you CH,

I remember feeling EXACTLY what you're describing, but my "babies" are now 13 and 22. I would nag my husband and say, "My life has changed so much more than yours...you can still go to the bathroom by yourself!" I was so unpleasant, I'm sure he dreaded coming home to me." I was also working part time in the evenings and I was EXHAUSTED!

This will get better, I promise you. I also took antidepressants during the last trimester of my pregnancy and on into nursing. Doublecheck with your health care provider and voice your concerns.

Hang in there with your husband...when he comes home tell him how much you appreciate him...ask him if he can stay home while you take a Saturday morning to yourself.
Remember to love yourself...it is SO draining to take care of little ones..even though you ADORE them.

A friend of mine posted a notice in her pediatrician's waiting room..."Seeking other new moms to get together with and provide mutual support". She ended up making a good friend..their "babies" are now off to college. :-)

Look for a Mother's Morning Out for your little guy if you are comfortable with that.

Lots of us moms feel your pain and know that it will get better!

Fondly,
D.

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Oh Sweetie !

my heart goes out to you ! Take the medicine and get some sleep so that you can get the emotional and mental rest you need. Contact your doctor to make sure that you can still breastfeed with wellbutrin (certain antidepressants you can..Prozac has more than 2000 of studies with nursing mothers) When it comes down to it- choose your health over the babies...(that sounds selfish, but you have to be strong and healthy to take care of your little ones and husband-- If momma ain't happy, no one is !) Find a support group, perhaps a mothers group at church that will lift you up and remind you of your vocation as a mother. It helps when you are surrounded by women with are going throught the same thing as you are- you are not alone !Continue to reach out for help and friendship. I will pray for you...

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This sounds like symptoms of depression. There are drugs that can be taken while pregnant or breastfeeding. I am sure that your OB would have told you that it was not safe to take if your are breastfeeding. Keep in mind that not all meds. work the same on all people. If you are feeling better in about a month, talk to your doctor. She/he can perscribe something else. It may take a couple of tries with diffrent meds before you find the one that fits you.

I wish the best for you and I also am a survivor of depression! Best of luck and hang in there. Things can only get better!
J.

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Hey,

I know it is very important to be able to breast feed your baby but it is more important to be mentally/physically healthy. I know the feelings you are going through and I can tell you that the medication will have you back to normal in a week or two. Now, if you decide not to take medications, a suplement of vitamins Bs will help a lot. It has to be at least 100 mlgs. Hope wellbutrin works for you, if it doesn't try Lexapro - sometimes after a while a dose of 10 miligrams would do. Your feelings are totally normal and it is very common especially among women.
Good luck!

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Hello, I'm sorry for how your feeling! I live in the Pasadena area and would to invite you to come to church with me. I know it will help you! God is soooo good and you will feel a touch from God! Please email me if you would like to visit my church. ____@____.com everything turns out ok and I hope to hear from you! I with God's blessings on your family..

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First off...It's okay to feel that way! I felt the same way after my first. I would just put her in the crib and I would go outside and cry for about 30 min straight. I just couldn't do it. I was so tired and mentally exhausted. She was diagnosed with colic and was on prescription meds for it but it didn't work. My huspand and I grew apart and I just didn't know what to do. The house suffered, my huspand suffered, and so did my baby daughter. I don't really know when it stopped just that one day it did. I realized that taking care of my children mattered more than anything else. Forget the housework, it isn't going anywhere. Take it one day at a time. If you need to talk I am here, I will listen with you and cry with you. I understand, I totally do. You aren't crazy. Just a mom :-)

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I have had the same problem after each of my 3. Staying home is hard and a total shock when you are used to school or work and adult interaction.

I have taken Wellbutrin and it's okay, although pharmasuticals are NOT my choice to fight depression now. I take Omega 3s from Hemp (no risk of mercury) and exercise exercise exercise. It makes a tremendous difference in attitude. I also recently bought a book called The Good Mood Diet, which teaches you what foods help mood and how to eat them.

You are NOT alone and you are NOT a bad mom. You just need a boost to get through transition. And you need to make sure you take time for you too!

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Depression hit me really hard after the third one. That first year I had all three at home and I put the "stay at home" in "stay at home mom". The only friends I kept were the ones that continued to call me. It was a blur. I still feel bad I went on autopilot and don't know how I got through it. The next year was even worse. I'm pretty sure I could use some nice drugs myself! The best help I've found is the Buddhist mindset that says "these feelings are real, but they need not define me, or stay forever, or dictate the choices in my life. My current ideas are not "truth", but what is passing through my mind right now. I can choose to keep them or notice them and then let them pass." If you are interested in a great book that will remind you to be gentle and loving towards yourself, and therefor with your children (& hubby!) read "Buddhism for Mothers" by Sarah Napthali. It truly saved my life.

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When I got pregnant with my daughter, I had been on Lexapro (Anti-axiety and depressent) for two years. I asked my OB-GYN if it was safe and she said it's a Class C drug, meaning if the benefits outweigh the risk, then stay on it. I did, and my daughter is totally normal and very smart. I breastfed for two years (she's finally weaned!!) and again, I had the same concern. The OB-GYN said the pill would be even more watered down now than when she was in the womb. I took the pill right after she nursed for the last time before going to bed so that she'd get the least amount possible.
You need to and deserve to enjoy this time in your life. Please take the meds - it will help you and your family. If I forget to take my Lexapro one day, my husband and I can tell. I become very short and annoyed easily, which is no fun for either of us!! Please take the meds - it will help you and your family.
Good luck; you'll be in my prayers.

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Please know you're not alone!! I went thru the same thing after I had my daughter. I felt like the worst mom in the world...she would fuss & it was as if nothing I did would console her. I kept thinking 'why can't I console her...what am I doing wrong?' Believe me...plenty tears were shed! It's a huge adjustment you're going thru from having one child to two. While I never took any medication, I did pray ALOT and also voiced my feelings to my husband. Afterward, things definintely got better.

I'm not sure about breastfeeding & taking meds...personally that's something I'd avoid if I could. If you really think you need the meds, maybe consider switching to bottle feeding. You HAVE to take care of yourself in order to be able to take care of others. Talk to your husband and discuss your feelings. Ask for his help! If you're having to get up during the night, take turns getting up (that's what my husband & I did). Sleep whenever the kids sleep. Getting enough rest is very important so you have the energy to be a great mom. Once your daughter starts sleeping thru the night, things will improve immensely.

Enjoy this time because pretty soon..they'll both be going to school and growing up fast. (My daughter is 10 now!) Join some play groups or Moms day out programs to meet up with other moms. Get out of the house with the kids, even if it's just to play in the backyard. If you have family nearby, ask them to watch the kids sometimes for a few hours so you can have some time to yourself.

My prayers are with you. Take heart this will soon pass and things WILL get better. Blessings!

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You should try the medicine, my mom swears by it, and she doesn't swear

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Not much advice - just well wishes. You're not alone in your feelings and you will get through this. Give yourself permission to let some of the routine things go and have a little time for relaxation. It's very common for moms to want to try to do all the household chores while the children sleep, etc. If they sleep, you sleep too and the dust, etc. will be there waiting for you later.

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Hi C H...I am not a stay at home mom but i have felt lonely at times..i am a first time mom though 22yrs young i work n go to school so my n i dont get to spend alot of time together...u did good by calling him to relieve u..i wish u the best..just make sure un ur husband take some time for urselves...Good Luck

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First of all you are not alone in your feelings and it happens to the best of us. Going to the doctor and asking for help shows you are strong women!

I had to take some medicine while breast feeding. As long as your OB approves it and knows you are breast feeding you and the baby will be fine.

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I understand how you feel. Being home all day with little ones is very rewarding, but very hard and you do feel alone. Try to find a regular play-date or group of other moms you can spend time with. You need to be around other adults. Also, try to keep exercising. Maybe join a gym like the YMCA where they have child-care. Exercise is good mental health and it will get you out in the rest of the world.
Hang in there and good luck!

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I can totally relate to your feelings, I think a lot of us can. We'd love for you to join our playgroup. It's called Precious Possessions Playgroup of NE SA and you can join it thru meetup.com. I understand your affraid of passing medication to your infant, but I'm sure your OB would not have perscribed it if it could harm your baby. Your emotional health is important so you have to take care of yourself.

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Your never alone. I have struggled with depression my whole life. When I got pregnant with my second daughter it really hit me hard. I just couldn't deal with my first born with the emotions being so raw. I was a mess. I had no family near me and no internet. my ex husband was not much help either. I was living in a new state and town. It was petrifying. Even in those dark days the light came through. I ended up being able to come home and be with my real loved ones. I have been on the wellbutrin. It didn't work for me. The thing with those meds. are they work different for everyone. This could be just post pardom for you. And that means THIS TO SHALL PASS. I find myself today many years later. As mine are now teens. Feeling much better on better meds. You on the other hand may only need a little help now and the wellbutrin is not a very strong med. Hold your head high because you are gonna be ok. Your life will turn around soon. Its great that your husband is understanding enough to let you have your time. Try to do that more often. You are human remember that. We all love our children but we all need me time sometimes to. You are worth a few min. alone to recollect. Try not to feel guilty for that. I know that is easier said than done. They say to put the mask on you first in the event of a plane crash because you need to be able to take care of the babies. When the guilt sets in take care of you. They will understand......

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