Feeding a Child of % Years

Are you for real? If so, NO that is not healthy. Feed him anyway. She should be reported to CPS.

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The trolls are out early for the weekend.

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once again......

you can't be serious.........

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Puh-leeze. This is a troll. First question, never answered anything else.

Lady - find something better to do with your time than waste ours.

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No that isnt healthy. Feed him. If she doesnt like it call CPS.

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Yeah this has to be a fake one

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I say feed him AND call protective services. She needs an education.

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I don't agree with it, but many parents are very strict about the whole 3 meals a day/ food only at those mealtimes. Typically those hours are 6am, noon, 6pm. If she's one of those people and her son has lunch before coming over, then she picks up at 530 and they have dinner at 6pm, I can see it. I don't agree with it, but I can see it.

Same token, I know many kids with severe medical dietary issues (allergies, inability to process certain nutrients, GI problems, etc.)... their parents are *very* strict about what they eat.

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I would find out why she only wants him to have water. Is she not comfortable with the foods you have? What times is he there? It does seem that the 5 1/2 hours should include a meal and even a snack at some point. I would be concerned about his blood sugar level. Is he obese? Is she concerned that he will eat junk or not eat his meals that she feeds him? It seems like more info is needed.

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I don't know what hours you watch him but you should feed him yes. If it's in between meals (but doesn't sound that way) then give him a snack. Kids should have snacks! Heck, I still eat snacks!
Honestly, who posts a question like this? Not be be a b**ch but this should be common sense.

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*IF* this question is real, that's called neglect. Not only by the mother, but you...for not feeding the child some freaking food.

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In child care children are required to have food every 3 hours minimum whether that food is a meal or a snack. For instance if you serve breakfast then you don't have to offer a morning snack. But lunch has to be 3 hours or less from the end of breakfast. An afternoon snack has to be less than 3 hours after lunch. If you keep kids after it has been 3 hours after the afternoon snack you have to serve another snack or meal to them too.

My feeding schedule at the center:

Breakfast served until 7:45 am
Morning snack, fruit or some brunch food with 100% juice, a light snack
Lunch starts around 11am for the babies and toddlers, the rest follow
After nap time, around 2:30 or 3, a good substantial snack is served, with carbs, protein, and juice. A mini meal.
If kids stay after 5:30 they get a very small light snack so they will still eat dinner. Maybe a half serving of fruit, or a half sandwich. Something to just tide them over for the trip home and while mom and dad are cooking.

Their bodies are not like adults, they are constantly growing and need a semi constant source of nutrition.

I think she doesn't like the food choices you offer him or she is just being controlling. I'd sit down and have a frank discussion with her.

If she really doesn't like the foods you have in your home ask her to bring something.

If he is not eating food at mealtime due to having had too much to eat beforehand then she might consider allowing him to have several smaller meals through the day.

If she is just being unreasonable call child welfare on her. If it is a valid concern then maybe you can understand her limitations and support her. Sometimes hearing the same thing mom is saying from a different adult has more impact...for instance if she is having problems getting him to eat if he has an afternoon snack then you could say to him when he asks for food "Your mom said you are having dinner when you get home, what are you eating? That sounds like a yummy meal, I bet you will be so hungry you'll eat it up". That way he is hearing that you heard him when he told you he was hungry, he heard you say he is going to get food soon, he heard you say the same thing mom said, he needs to eat at mealtime, etc...it is offering her support in a positive way.

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No, it's not healthy. I generally think that parents should get the final say on how their child is cared for but this isn't "care" it's neglect of a child's basic needs.
Feed your grandson and if your daughter fusses, she can pay for daycare. They'll feed him there too and your daughter won't be able to deny him what he needs to grow.

Your daughter is wrong. It's okay, give him good healthy foods and let that poor lil' guy grow!

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That is craziness. If the child is hungry feed him. At least a snack! What are your grandma instincts telling you? I really hope that he is getting enough food at home.

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The healthiest way to eat is to have several small meals a day. You actually wind up eating less overall and your blood sugar levels remain constant. I would discuss it with her, there may be a specific reason.

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5 1/2 HOURS??!?!?!?!?!?!?!?
NOooooooo! I would give him snacks or something. That is truly awful of her to think he could go over 4 hours worth of not eating.

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Daycares typically provide breakfast, a morning snack (around 9), lunch (11:30-noonish) and then an afternoon snack around 3. That's not counting supper at home.

They run according to Child Protective Services (or at least in IL)... So do what you feel best!!

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Heck...why don't she just leave him in a kennel in the laundry room while she is gone!

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I can't imagine my kids going that long without food. But before feeding him anything I would simply ask your daughter what her reasons are. Maybe she has a good one you're not aware of? Go from there.

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No it's not healthy , feed him , and tell your daughter she's wrong.
if she dosen't stop this rediculus thing report her,

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I don't think so. He should be fed at least a meal and maybe even a snack during that time...Definitely more than water....Poor baby : (

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Well, she's obviously NOT Italian, because we feed people even when they're NOT hungry. WTH? Who does not feed a child when he/she is hungry? Kids that age need 3 meals per day AND 2 snacks...maybe another light snack before bed or at least milk.

Is there some medical issue? Psychological issue with him?

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THAT is crazy! Have you asked her why? Is she afraid she will be imposing on you to feed him during the time you care for him? Is she doing some sort of wierd cleanse on a 5 year-old? Or maybe she has some fear he will become obese like so many kids are these days. Certainly our government has done a number on us .....if kids ate the RIGHT foods this won't happen. I think that this is hedging on asking you to neglect his needs. I would feed him anyway, ask questions later.....and be sure to ask her. AND what is this about % of age? What will he be eating when he is oh...say...24...NOTHING? Even at 10, not eating for 10 hours, for a growing child IS neglectful and abusive!

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Sorry, but that sounds completely ridiculous. Who goes for 5 hours a day without eating something, especially a growing, active child. It doesn't sound healthy either. That's a long time to go without food. I would at least press for his getting healthy snacks such as fresh veggies or fresh fruit. Nothing but water sounds crazy!!!

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You are a mother, did you let your daughter go this long without eating... However, have you asked her why she has this 5.5 hour with no food... He eats at noon and doesn't eat until dinner at 5:30 or something like that. Is he over weight and she's concerned for health reasons...

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There has to be more to this story. It sounds wrong to me.

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First I'll ask: is he at risk of being overweight? Does he have food sensitivities? I have a child high on the weight charts who wants to eat every half-hour, but I suspect he's not getting enough water. I ask him to drink water before eating because it's healthier and because he has the tendency of mindless eating (parents are working on that too).
Having said that, 5.5 hours (plus travel time) does seem like a long time to go without some sort of snack...some carrots, or frozen grapes is a wonderful filler between meals that have healthy benefits.
Ask your daughter what she's thinking and try to come to an agreement (I don't think "sneaking food" is a healthy arrangement)....if he truly is hungry, he does need a supplement between meals.

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Seriously??? Almost 6 hours without food??? That is just wrong! Kids exert energy and need food to refuel and replenish their system. Reads like your daughter has, or has had, and issue with food and is putting her problem on her child. I would take matters into my own hands and feed the boy a healthy meal/snack when he is hungry.

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I would say it depends on the timing (if you watch him during bedtime hours, it is reasonable). If he eats breakfast before you watch him and he eats lunch 5.5 hours later then there should be a small healthy snack in between. If he eats lunch and then you watch him, their should be a small snack in between but not so late as to ruin his dinner. It is reasonable to only want water in between and not constant snacking/eating.

I saw your update. Sounds like someone needs to talk to his doctor because eating lunch before you get him at 1:30 and not anything again until after 6 pm is too long for a 5yr old to go between meals without any snack. Kids need nourishment.

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And why does she say to only let him have water during this time? We need more information........

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No, that is not right. I give my kids breakfast, a small morning snack, lunch, a small afternoon snack, dinner and a little snack with bedtime stories! This means every 2.5 hours they are eating and drinking. They get milk with 2 of their meals too. I wonder why she does not want him to eat for so long? Is she worried he will not eat dinner? Does she not like your food choices? Can she bring a snack each day too? Poor kid!

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