Fear of Water

Dear M.,

that is an excellent idea with the sticker! I know what you are talking about because my son has a lot of sensory integration and perception issues and perhaps shares many other issues with your eight year old. My son's reaction to hair washing was VERY similar to your son's, even two years ago. We have mandatory swimming in our school system and it was an absolute horror for the first two years. We were told that he didn't like the feeling of water due to neurosensory issues and that we couldn't imagine how it felt like for him, etc.... but now he actually swims with his face in the water thanks to a wonderful new patient teacher. He showers and washes his own hair now also (he is about to turn ten). I wonder if you might want to find a swimming teacher who is good with children with these sorts of issues - the showering came as a fringe benefit to the swimming, all perhaps as if his system had somehow matured enough to manage the feeling of water on the face. All situations and children are different, but it worked for us.

You're doing a good job. Good luck. Hang in there.
K

I have a 10 YO who has asperger, (how did you get him diagnosed that young? They tell me they can't give a full diagnosis on asperger until they hit puberity!!!), ADHA, ODD, and depression. I think a lot of the problem is sensoroy since must autistic children have a sensory issue somewhere along the line. We have a food texture issue.

Does he like to swim? Play under a sprinkler? Have water gun fights?

If he can do the other things with no problem I would say it is because when he was really little he got water up his nose, or got water/soap in his eyes and it burned. Baby shampoo burns like fire if it gets in your eyes.

I would try the water gun fights and the sprinkler in the yard to help him break some of the fear.

P. R

Have you tried swim lessons? Maybe you could get him in a lesson for younger kids that are learning to like the water more than learn to swim? We did lessons at Riverview Rehab (there are 2 locations) and the water is as warm as a bath! It's a nice transition from bathing to swimming.

My 8 year old son has sensory processing disorder, which was diagnosed when he was 4. He hated baths in general and shampooing was only done every few months because the shampoo felt like it was burning his scalp (regardless how mild it was). Our most successful way to shampoo is to let a good part of the bathwater out so he can lay on his back in the tub and his face is well out of the water. I can use my hand to bring up enough water to wet the front of hair, then he sits up for the shampoo, and lays back down to rinse. If he gets a little worried or worked up, I'll give him a folded up washcloth to put over his eyes. It works really well! Good luck!

I would try private swimming lessons and play games with him when it comes to water. Put things on the shower wall and let him hit them with the water then splash him. Make it fun......Kids always respond to things differently when you make it a game.

It is not unusual at that age.
You are doing the right thing, keep up the good work!

Hi M., I'm T.. I have a 3 year old that has always been terrified to get water in his eyes when bathing. If I try to rinse his hair, he absolutely freaks out. I tried everything i could think of and finally bought a pair of swimming goggles for him to wear. Now as long as he is wearing them, he loves taking a bath. I'm not sure if this will work, but I hope it helps! God bless~T.

I have had three children of my five with a huge issue with water in their face. We take a folded washcloth and have them hold it over their face. The we howl at the moon. I told my daughter, "You know what we could do? We could be coyotes, and when we get scared we could howl at the moon." I showed her how to throw her head back and howl really loudly with the washrag over her eyes. She thought this was really funny and fun, but it also gave her something to do to express her feelings so that she didn't panic or feel helpless. And while her head was back I rinsed her hair with a giant glass of water so that we got all the shampoo out in one "howl."

Swim lessons might help him get over this.
My oldest son hated water on his face when he was little, so I would fold a hand towel and have him lay that over his face when I washed his hair.