Family Reunion...updated

hmmm, honest answer: I would wait until asked. Seems a little rude or off-putting the other way. :)

Another option would be to compile a list of motel options & sent it to ALL family members.

EDIT: read your SWH....awful defensive! Here's an analogy for your "presumed & assumed" situation: you're wanting the rabies shot before the dog bites! :) My vote is still for a list of options sent to ALL family members. Peace.

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I would do just what you said!

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I think that you would be stirring up trouble by addressing the issue now. There are several months before the reunion. They may not even be able to come.

You could make a comment on Facebook about how you're not hosting anyone in your home and for anyone who wants to plan ahead you will give them a list of places they could stay. Make it about everyone. Do NOT single out this one family. That would be rude. That would be you making an assumption and it would sound like you don't want this family to come.

After your SWH Wait until there is a Facebook page or until you're sending the invitations. Make staying elsewhere a general announcement to everyone.

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I would. post something to the family page addressing everyone. I would not offer assistance, that will definitely bring requests to stay at you house. I would price some close hotels, block of rooms,etc. then post something like...

For those planning on attending the summer reunion on Xxx, we will not be able to host overnight guests. Here is a list of nearby hotels and prices. If everyone books at the same place we may get a better rate overall. Thanks for understanding. We can't wait to see everyone!

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OR, you could put it out there that "our house will be full, hopefully everyone is thinking ahead about sleeping arrangements.." or something to that affect.
Let them figure it out...

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I don't think you should email them specifically about their accomodations. I think on the family page you can post something to the effect of:

"We are so happy to be hosting the family reunion this year. Summer will be here before you know it so don't forget to plan ahead. If you would like our help in finding a hotel, please let us know as we would be pleased to compile a list of ones that are local".

That puts it out there for everyone and doesn't single them out.

You should also post something like "So excited that Jane and Joe will be attending this year!"

***I just read your SWH and while depending on the wording, there should be nothing wrong with it I must say I am puzzled by your remark "Their bold assumptions were met with my bold response" because from what you said they only posted that they missed everyone and would definately be coming. Doesn't seem too bold to me.

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i agree with putting a general list of hotels on facebook or the invite, directing it to them seems harsh

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I think you have a good idea there. I might even word it a little more bluntly and say that the _______ Hotel (add your last name) wasn't going to be open for business.

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I would post to the family page and do an attachment of the local phone book to shoe all the hotels and motels, prices, amenities, etc....like a little travel agent might do. If anyone calls you on it just say that you are not going to hurt anyone's feeling by letting one stay and not the others.

Although I would love the company I know there are those who don't like it and would not find it wonderful fun to spend a few days with family.

I would wait until asked as putting it out there is putting yourself in a potential issue with the whole family. The only way to politely put off anyone from calling on you is to call and area hotel and talk to the marketing manager and see if the will give a family reunion discount if you post only them to the family facebook page and then word it like " I. Spoke with our local hotel__________ and they have kindly agreed to give a discount to anyone coming in that needs accommodations. I am almost thinking of staying there as our house is so chaotic". Then give the info include the number address of hotel, directions to get to the reunion functions. If she still calls and asks just state that your unable to host at this time. Short and sweet as the more you put into it the more she will feel unwanted.

Hmm...I don't know why they would assume that they are staying with you?! Even if you believe that they may want to stay at your house I would NOT send out that email! I would be taken aback by receiving an email from a family member whose only intent is to make sure that I know I am not welcome to stay at their house...AND it's January!
When you set up the "formal" invite for all family members you can include local hotel information. Then, you can add a not-so-subtle hint that houseguests cannot be accommodated due to space limitations and the fact that you will be too busy hosting! Good luck :)

Are you having many out of town guests that need a place to stay? My first thought was to book a block of rooms at the closest, reasonably priced hotel. If you talk to the manager you can often negotiate a reduced rate. That way all out of town guests will be at the same hotel and can hang out together and you don't have to have them stay with you, as well as other family members. If they want to work something out with another local family member that is up to them.

I'm guessing you just don't like them, as many a person (myself included) has found a tiny spot on the floor for people we like. Just say no. That's it. You do not need to write a big long letter, however, yes, to alleviate guilt or whatever send along a list of hotels (which truthfully you do not need to do as the internet provides all that information and most people are internet savvy) and have a great time.