August 05, 2008,
S.K. asks from Johnston, IA on August 02, 2008
Family or Relationship Counseling
Hi I am seeking a Family or relationship counselor in or around the Des Moines Iowa area. My husband has had this idea that your house has always got to look like the pictures of homes that you see in a magazine. He has always been this way and it has never been a problem until we had kids. My house is not dirty but with three kids it is messy at times. I can have it all picked up and organized and within 15 minutes of him coming home from work a small tornado goes through. And it looks like we have done nothing all day. It then puts him in a fowl mood and that sets the mood for the rest of the evening. And if he comes home from work in a fowl mood it only makes it worse. So we are in search of a good counselor that might be able to help us with this problem. Most of his expectations are unreasonable and I can not get him to see that and adjust some based on the fact that we now have a family and it is unreasonable to expect perfection all the time. This can easily be a serious problem in the future if not dealt with right now.
Thanks in advance.
L.B. answers from Hickory on August 03, 2008
Malabika Shaw's couple or single counseling (she calls it something else-but I forgot the name she uses) - it will knock both of your socks off and it won't take months it will only take weeks!!! http://www.visionwholistic.net/
This is from her website... Call Malabika at ###-###-#### for a 20 minute FREE consultation.
L.M. answers from Des Moines on August 05, 2008
I see Jaci Joens at New Life Counseling Center in West Des Moines. She is really great with my husband and I. My husband was not intimidated by her and did not feel like she took sides. I started seeing her myself a few times to vent before my husband came with me. Just a thought. They have a center in Ankeny too I think. ###-###-#### is West Des Moines #. There are 2 other counselors there too.
A.S. answers from Des Moines on August 03, 2008
Would even a counselor help with unrealistic expectations? It sounds more like a maturity issue to me. Maybe if he were to live your life for a week or two, and you got to go to work, come home, and expect perfection he could understand how these things happen, especially at dinner time!
I have heard many good things about Legacy Family Counseling in Johnston ###-###-####, I have never been there personally, but do have really good friends who have had excellent outcomes. Best to you and your family, and just know that dinner time is probably the leading anxiety time for all moms or dads that stay home!
C.H. answers from Des Moines on August 03, 2008
I don't mean to be flippant about this, but is he home enough by himself with the kids? It sounds to me like he isn't, or he would understand the situation better. Have you been away for a weekend by yourself, or do you have any outside interests that take you away for evenings?
J.S. answers from Des Moines on August 03, 2008
I have not personally seen them, but have heard good things about Central IA Psychological Services in West Des Moines.