False Pregnancy

I don't know how likely it is, but it happened to my husband's cousin. She was rushed to the hospital from the dr.'s office for tests and more ultrasounds before they realized she just wasn't as far along as she had thought.
Hang in there and, while not getting her hopes too high or telling her it's all fine, keep her from dwelling on the negative because the stress could do damage.
Keep us updated.

I had a good friend that was told she had an empty sac around 7-8 wks, but was actually pregnant! It can be very difficult to tell if the sac has an embryo at the early stages of life. The blood work should tell her more...the HCG should be increasing with each draw,. I think they draw every 48 hours. Hope this helped.

Well, I would say it is definately likely. Although, what I'm confused about is that she was on a fertility treatment? Then they should have been monitoring the rpoduction of eggs through the cycle, therefore know exactly when they egg should have released. A 2 week margin while on treatment is a lot.

If she's not being monitored closely then I would say it would be possible that she ovulated late (I did and was 1 week less than I thought, but there was a heartbeat at 6 weeks.
I am 36 weeks now.
My biggest suggestion would be helping her be distracted so she doesn't stress, its better for her pregnancy that she's relaxed.
Just be there if she wants to talk about it, its painful to try to and not be able to, and scary to think you may not be able to have a child :( Ours is a miracle after 7 years.....and then we got preggo right away so our daughter will be 11 months next month when our boy is born (7/10/07)
Anything is possible!!! :)
Amy

Hi P.. I went thru what your friend is going thru. I tried to get pregnant for 5 1/2 years. I miscarried my first one and then went to a fertility dr who was absolutely wonderful! I then got pregnant a second time and have a wonderful 6 year old son, then 2 more miscarriages and then was pregnant with my daughter! 2 of the times, the ultrasounds showed just the empty sac. It is totally devistating to go thru miscarriages especially if you have been trying to get pregnant for a while. My advice to you is to just listen to your friend and be there for her to cry on. Don't tell her that "it will happen" and if she does miscarry that it just "wasn't meant to be" those were 2 things people kept telling me and I hated to hear it. Tell your friend good luck. I hope things do work out for her. If you or her need to talk, you can email me any time.

S.

P.,

I hope all is well with your friend and her baby. I've never had any experience with that kind of problem, so I'm no help. I just wanted to give my prayers and support to your friend. I'll be praying for her and her baby.

S.

I am so sorry to hear about this. I went through nearly the same thing. My husband and I found out we were pregnant for the first time and were ecstatic!! At about 8 weeks, I didn't feel well and then started spotting. I called the doc and they had me come in for a vaginal ultrasound...that is when my world crumbled around me. We didn't see anything on the ultrasound. The technician asked how far along I was. I told her... and she said "That is wierd". I asked why and she said she doesn't see anything. We spoke to the doctor and she said that she was diagnosing me with a Spontaneous Abortion. (basically the pregnancy didn't take and we lost the baby for no reason) They also tested my HCg levels and they were SOOO low. That night I ended up miscarrying.

Just be there for her. She may go through feelings of wondering if it is silly to feel so sad even if the pregnancy never really took. But of course, she should feel sad. She will also hear lots of "Well at least you weren't further along" as if it isn't as much of a baby. That is one of the worst things to hear. Just help her validate her pain, encourage her to recognize that this is a real loss. We refer to our miscarriage as our Angel Baby. I also wrote a letter to my Angel Baby in the pregnancy journal I had started and kept it. Most of all, just be there to wrap your arms around her when she needs it.

Editted to include: also remind her that most people that miscarry go on to have incredibly healthy pregnancies! It will happen!