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Extended Breastfeeding

Any other moms out there who have toddlers and are still breastfeeding? My son will be 3 in a few weeks and I think I am the only one on the planet still breastfeeding...he is of course eating solid food, but isn't much of an eater anyway. Anybody else out there w/this same issue? My plan was to let him wean himself, but now I find I'm "done" with breastfeeding. When I make efforts to wean, it's like World War III. Any tips or advice from people in the same boat is much appreciated.

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Thanks to everyone that chimed in on my extended breastfeeding question. I have decided to let him wean himself. In the last few weeks, I've been making the point to say that "boobies are for night night" and he seems to get that. I have also noticed that he wants to nurse usually just before or when trying to have a bowel movement, or just before bed. Talked to the pediatrician about this and we are going to go see a food/occupational therapist as my son has some serious food aversions and chewing issues. Posting this question her has made me focus my attention on the issue, and in doing so, I learned a lot about my son. Thanks again for all of your opinions and advice. I appreciate it!

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Well, I have suggestion: my rule is, if one of you is ready to quit breastfeeding, then it's time to let it go. My son breastfed until age three, then I gave him a "Bye Bye Baba," party. I talked about the party for two months & explained that I was running out of "baba" and that he drank it all up! But he was excited about the party (and the big red firetruck he was going to get) we slowly managed to work up to it & then it was a breeze. PS This technique was suggested to me by other Moms...

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I had a friend with the same prob. She put bandaids on her nipples and showed her daughter that they were broken. It worked well.

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Hi, I breast fed my girl until she was 2 years and 3 months. she too, loved it and put up a fight everytime i made a effort to stop. I had to stop because i became pregnant again. For us, one day, i went to the dr.'s and she new about this visit, when i came home to her i said, "the Dr. says no more milkie" (or whatever you call it) And that night i stuck to it when it came down to feed, she agreed. It felt like a miracle, it was so easy. Perhaps she was just 'ready' whereas before she wasnt. Good luck. I commend you for keeping it up so long, so many moms quit so early..

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HI there. I went through this same thing with my daughter a few years back. (she just turned 7). She was approaching her second birthday, and it just hit me all at once, that I was DONE. I wanted my body back, but she LOVED nursing, and just refused to even consider that she would ever have to give it up. My sister in law told me something her pediatrician had told her, about putting a drop of pepperoncini juice on my nipple. I resisted that for awhile because it seemed cruel, but they assured me it would just make her not want it anymore. So I began telling my daughter how someday momma's milk would curdle, just like old milk in the refrigerator. Then about two weeks later, I tried it. She got the funniest look on her face, and was very sad, but I told her maybe the next day it would be better. We tried again the next morning, but mommy's milk was still bad. That was it. She couldn't blame me or fight it because she thought it was a normal process. :)

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Well, I have suggestion: my rule is, if one of you is ready to quit breastfeeding, then it's time to let it go. My son breastfed until age three, then I gave him a "Bye Bye Baba," party. I talked about the party for two months & explained that I was running out of "baba" and that he drank it all up! But he was excited about the party (and the big red firetruck he was going to get) we slowly managed to work up to it & then it was a breeze. PS This technique was suggested to me by other Moms...

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I had a friend with the same prob. She put bandaids on her nipples and showed her daughter that they were broken. It worked well.

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HI, my son is now 8 and I breastfed him until he was almost 4. I had wanted to allow him to be the one to wean himself but losing our home and other stresses really took their toll on my health. I remember easing into the weaning by telling my son that my body was telling me that it is almost time to stop nursing. I think that went on for about a week (as I would still continue nursing). Then, one evening when I would normally nurse him to sleep, I told him that my body is telling me that it is now time to stop nursing. I described what I felt from my body and told him that it is a normal thing for mommas and babies to go through and that it doesn't mean that we can't snuggle, read and be close when he and I need it. He handled it very well by listening deeply and then saying, in essence, "ok".

Later, when I asked him around the age of 5 what he liked about nursing he said, "the taste!" and I also asked if he would have kept nursing if my body hadn't been done, and he said, "YES!" Later on at the age of around 7, he had a tooth pulled and he sat on my lap and lifted my shirt up like we used to do when he nursed. I was surprised and let him go on to see what would happen. He suckled for a few seconds and then stopped. It was such a sweet moment and I know that he must have really needed the comfort. That has happened one or two times since and I can see that sometimes it is good to be held like that in momma's arms and be comforted like no one else can comfort.

He is a confident child with lots of friends. He is helpful at home and nurturing (he'll offer to massage my back if I mention it is hurting... something I guess I've done for him). He's independent and curious.

In closing, I feel that nursing is a relationship and both the child's and mother's needs are important. By taking both into consideration, we can find a way to fulfill each other. Good luck!!!!

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What a devoted mama you are! WIth both of mine I weaned them around 2.5 years. I was pregnant the first time, which made it a lot easier. With my son, my last baby, I did many things already suggested here: we cut down to the essential time (night time, for us), I verbally prepared him a week in advance and then every night until the last night, and then I wore a sports bra to sleep in for about a week and son slept with papa on the couch with a bottle of water. It actually worked really well! The other thing I did with both kiddos was to make up a song about the "tee-tee" (for my daughter) and the "na-na" for my son. It went something like this, ususally when they were climbing on me and pulling on my shirt: "The na-na is night night, the na-na is sleeping. The na-na is all gone, the na-na is dreaming. Good-bye, na-na, Good-bye na-na. Now I go night-night, now I am dreaming."

Best wishes to you and your son!

-C

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God made you the mother. He may not want to wean because it is his first contact/security. You would do well to mimic the br. feeding with position and substitute sippy cup or pacifier for a while to let him know that you are not punishing him or going away. He is also old enough to understand if you tell him that he is too big boy for this and he needs to move to the next "stage". You need to believe it and stick with it to support him thru the transition. Good luck.

I also nursed my daughter until she was almost 3. She also wasn't a big eater. I wanted her to wean on her own, but I had to help her along. I set dates and told her that we would stop nursing after a certain day. First we got rid of the middle of the night nursings. I would give her a little prize if she made it all night. Several months passed and we stopped the one right before going to bed. It took some time, but it wasn't as hard as I thought it would be. You should check out "The Nursing Mother's Guide to Weaning" by Kathleen Huggins. Good for you for going for the extended breastfeeding. Good luck!

I've had very few friends who breastfed for an extended period of time, but those who have recommended the following tips about weaning. First of all talk to your son - at age 3, he can understand more than a younger child would. You should tell him a certain cut-off time that he will no longer be able to breastfeed. Some have even tried putting Band-aids on their breasts and telling their children "Mommy has an owie". You should be able to explain to him, though, that your breasts belong to you, that this is your body, and that you want your breasts back again. And don't be tempted to give in to tantrums. If you do, you will be teaching a much bigger lesson - that tantrums work. Best of luck to you!

Hi - I breastfed my now almost 6 year old daughter until she was 3.5 years old. I had intended to allow her to self-wean also, but after 3 years, I too was feeling ready to stop. My dd seemed ready also, but wouldn't give up the habit on her own, it was just for comfort, not so much for milk by then - maybe a couple of times a day. So I bought her some story books about children weaning (look on Amazon). And asked her if she would like a weaning party and a special gift. She jumped at the chance and on top of that, asked for a bunk bed as her special gift! (we were co-sleeping and wondered how we would get our bed back.) So not only did she wean, but she left our bed (eventually). In truth, she wasn't completely aware that after the weaning party, that would be the end of bf-ing, but she was more wistful about it than upset. Congrats on going the distance! Don't worry, weaning will happen - You're not alone.

:) A.

Hi S.! I just wanted let you know that yes, I'm still nursing my son, and he'll be 3 in a month. I don't have any weaning advice or anything, because I'm still in a place where it seems like weaning would be harder than continuing, but I wanted to let you know you're not alone! :-)

I breastfed my daughter until almost 3...she went to preschool and other kids were stopping at 3. I did a slowish transition--telling her it was only going to be three times/day (for two weeks), then 2, one--none. I also talked with her about all the new big girl things she could do. And introduced the idea of "special drinks" (hot chocolate, and honey milk) she could have when (but not until) she stopped nursing. It worked well. Now she has a baby sister. Knowing she can have a special drink has helped with jealousy around nursing. Sometimes she wakes up and says "this is a special drink morning".

I nursed my son until he was 1. You may just have to tough it out. My son was not much of an eater also. But he loved PBJ sandwich. You may just have to stop him cold turkey. Remember you are the mom and you know what is best for him. Hang in there. If he goes to bed without dinner and you nursing him it won't hurt him. And the next morning he will eat just about whatever you place in front of him. It will be hard. I know.

Hi S.~ You are not alone!!! When I read your post...It was as if I had posted it myself! I too am nursing an almost 3 year old boy. I am letting him wean himself, but at the rate we are going I feel like it will never happen. He only nurses before nap and before bedtime. As far as tips or advice, sounds like I could use some too..lol! Durring the daytime one thing that does work for me is if I offer him some water/milk/food instead. I tell him he must be hungry or thirsty if he wants to nurse. I offer hugs instead too and suggest cuddling and story time. Unfortunately he doesn't always fall for it...Well, hope this helped some. Nice to know there are others out there like me!
L.

This is a very touchy time for you. The only other mom I knew of who breast fed her son at 3 had lost his twin after just a few months. She was in mourning and nursing kept her close to her surviving baby. But let me tell you, that kid ate everything as far as solid foods and was smarter than a whip.
Weening is a terrible process. But it has to happen sooner or later. I had to have an operation and was put on medication about a month prior. The doctor told me that once I received the shots, it would make my baby sick if I nursed him. It was torture. My son was 15 months old and I couldn't even hold him because he would literally lift my shirt and try to nurse. I felt like the worst mother in the world. But, after a month of the medicine and then my time in the hospital, my son had settled down and accepted a bottle and a sippy cup. It may sound strange, but my husband came up with the idea of putting ice cubes in the bottle and my son had a "rattle" that he could drink from.
(Then we had to break him from the ice bah-bah which is a different story). The point is.....anything you change in your child's routine will be difficult. But, you can do it. And your little boy will have fits and be mad. It's not REALLY World War III. He is actually old enough for pre-school and he can't go in a diaper hooked up to the boobie. Try letting him drink warm milk through a straw in a "big boy" cup. It will probably be hell for at least a month, but he will still love you. My son is 12 now and has no memory of those difficult days. He is the cuddliest boy on the planet.

I was finished by 18mo! but I did have a friend that her daughter was in her 3yrs. She developed the habit of sticking her hand down mom's shirt when she wanted to nurse or just for comfort. I remember the mom holding her daughter sometimes when she would try and get her to eat and it seemed to help keep the tantrums down.
When I weaned my daughter (I thought she would self wean also before 18mo.) I started just letting her nurse less often. I would tell her "not now, later" and give her some food (she loved Chiquita bananas) and then let her nurse only a little after she ate. This helped me physically also.
Good luck.

Hi, I breast fed my girl until she was 2 years and 3 months. she too, loved it and put up a fight everytime i made a effort to stop. I had to stop because i became pregnant again. For us, one day, i went to the dr.'s and she new about this visit, when i came home to her i said, "the Dr. says no more milkie" (or whatever you call it) And that night i stuck to it when it came down to feed, she agreed. It felt like a miracle, it was so easy. Perhaps she was just 'ready' whereas before she wasnt. Good luck. I commend you for keeping it up so long, so many moms quit so early..

Encourage your child to take a sippy cup any time that he/she wants to nurse and then spend extra special time not nursing but maybe just rocking or holding him in a big chair while he drinks the sippy. Breastfeeding at this age is not obviously for nursishment but for bonding. Anytime that you can encourage your child that you can still have that special time but not HAVE to be nursing is great. I would encourage you to take out one nursing at a time. Maybe the least important one first.

Hi S.,

Thanks for asking such a great question. I have a fifteen month old who still breastfeeds and I'm planning to nurse him until he decides we're done (I'm hoping that will be until he's at least 2).

You're not the only one who is breastfeeding you're toddler, of course. On average, children around world breastfeed until the age of 4. In the U.S., moms aren't encouraged, supported or even know that they can go for that long!

My son eats solid foods, but I often think he should eat more solids. He nurses to sleep, upon waking in the morning, before his 2 naps every day and sporadically throughout the day, too. I think he nurses a good amount still.

I don't know what you've tried in terms of weaning. At this point, my plan is to discuss the reality that he will wean at some point with my son around the time he turns 2. Now, even though it may seem like a "complicated" or at least not easy subject to talk with a toddler about, I think its important that he hears it from me, and to give him some basic information. And I'm always amazed at how much he understands what I'm saying at this point in his young life!

I've heard of other mom's who have weaned their toddlers who use this method: They decide with their child the complete weaning date. Then they work backwards together and nurse a little less every month, week and then day, until the big day. Although it can clearly be difficult, it can be seen as a time to celebrate a rite of passage for both the child and the mother.

Hope this is useful. If you figure out any other inventive or creative solutions to your problem/situation, please share them!

Good luck!

-L.

HI...I'm in the same boat and have appreciated reading the other responses. My son will be 3 in a few months with no sign of giving up the breastfeeding. It's a habit that we've developed when he naps and goes to sleep at night or just wants some comfort. I'm actually surprised to read how many moms are doing this extended breastfeeding. I'm pretty close to done, but still enjoy the closeness we share and know that he has developed a strong sense of independence and awareness of what's happening around him in general. Don't have any advice on weaning, but I'm sure you'll find your way. We all do eventually :)

mine was almost two.. go take your son to the store, let him pick out a special cup that's just for him.. it will make him feel special. when you know your done, your done. i know this. sarah fought me for a couple of rough days.. but it does get better. they want that closeness. sometimes if you can make it exciting to use a cup, they sometimes will give up the breast.. sometimes it's war.. but will only be for a few days... i know its hard... just stick to it. don't go backwards or he will continue to do that same thing.. throw fits about it

Hi S.,
I agree with Charyl. You are going to have to use tough L.. Your son is old enough to understand what you're say so explain that he is a big boy and it is time to stop breast feeding. He WILL throw a fit but be tough, it won't be the last battle you two have. :)
Sincerely,
L.

My daughter is now 24, but I remember that she was a picky, light eater, too. She wanted
to nurse for YEARS. She was 10 years old when it finally began to embarass her that
she sought out the breast! I let her nurse sometimes until she was 3 or 4, but then it
dried up and she had to face the truth and begin eating grown-up food.

I sometimes wonder if her ADD was related to her need for her closeness to me. And by
the way, she struggled in school with ADD until her freshman year in high school. The
"cure"? : Kung Fu! She is now the two-time World Champion in her weight class. She also
got the Graduation Award as the Most Improved Senior. So there is hope for the ADD child.
Just find something they can suceed in.

Light and love, Grandma N.

I'm still breastfeeding my 2 1/2 year old and breastfed my oldest till he was 3 1/2. It can be quite hard at times, I know all about world war III! One thing you can do is offer distractions or if there is a favorite nursing spot, maybe it needs to disapear for awhlie. How wonderful you have been nursing for so long! You have a very lucky and I'm sure healty baby/toddler! Hang in there, it gets eaiser. Do you go to La Leche League? You may find moms with a similar situation to yours in need of support too.

I nursed my son until he was over 3 years old. I started to wean with the overnight feeding - I would explain to him before bedtime that he would drink water if he got thirsty through the night. We made a special water bottle (actually it was just a sippy cup but we added stickers to it so that he would be excited about that "special" cup). He would still cry for milk after drinking water once or twice but I would offer hugs and continue to offer the special water. After about a week, he stopped asking me to nurse him.

Next, I worked on the daytime nursing. It was different for me because I was 8 months pregnant so I talked about how my boobs hurt (it was really sore). So he responded to that and within few weeks it was only night time. Of course, sometimes he'd get upset. I'd give him choices: 1) HUG/CUDDLE or 2) soy milk or water in a sippy cup. Eventually we weaned to only once a day, right before bed, I'd nurse him.

I ended up tandem nursing him and my second son for a year. I continued the one-time nighttime nursing with my older son. After a year he started to forget to ask for milk. Or he would fall asleep before it's his turn. He knows the baby has the milk first so sometimes he gets tired of waiting and just forgets. It was really natural. I think it's so much easier to keep that one time nursing/bonding time for as long as he wants to. I know a friend of mine who is still nursing her son who's nearly four years old. Once a day, too and he's fine.

I would really encourage you not to force him to stop altogether especially when he's not ready. Try not to make it a power struggle but a dialogue. My second son is now 2 1/2 years old and I am not even close to weaning. I am planning to have my third baby soon so I guess I'm just going to go on nursing! It has been 4 years non-stop and probably will go on for the next 3 years or so! :) It's very natural and special. Try to cherish it for as long as possible :)

We are still breastfeeding and my son will turn 3 in March. We are down to 1-3 times a day. It really came in handy when he was sick this past week. I haven't felt "done" yet, and he isn't wanting to be done, so no real push to wean. I nursed his sister until she was 3 yrs 4 mos (and he was 5 mos old) and she was relatively easy to wean. Of course, I had the "need to save some for the baby" trick going for me at that time. Not sure what I will do with this one. Best wishes to you.

Hi,

I breastfed my daughter until 2 yrs, 3 months. We weened her really gradually. I essentially made a chart in my head of when she breastfed (5 in the morning to get back to sleep, right before I left for work at 7:45, when I got home from work between 3-5, to go to sleep at night when I put her to bed were about where she was when we began. I had my husband spend time with her during the feeding we targeted to get rid of. By being consistent, by talking about "big girls get to do x, but don't need to nurse any more" we slowly eliminated each feeding. Of course the 5am was the last to go. It was difficult, and there were battles. Love-bombing her and offering her treats instead of nursing helped some to mitigate the battles. We went to the park a lot, she got to eat cookies, etc. But eventually it worked, and I think doing it gradually helped her transfer some of her feelings about nursing to other activities. good luck, E.

wow. i admire you. i plan to let my mags wean herself but i bet i would feel ready before her. let s say, in few years, you will look back at this and cherish the moments of nursing him.

xo

I nursed my son until he ws about that age. I'm glad I did, and sometimes wish I'd gone a little longer, to do a true child-led weaning. We dropped the nursings down one at a time until he gave up the last one- nap time. When he gave up that nursing he gave up napping alltogether. I was to the point where I was not enjoying nursing anymore, not because societies attitude but because I was just worn out. Mommy's feelings count too. But I never pushed him to give up nursing to the point where it was hard for him. I would just say not now honey and distract him. If he were hysterical and really crying, not just a little crabby crying, but sobbing, I would have given in but it went really easily. It sounds like your little boy just isn't ready yet. I would wait a little longer. It will be easier for both of you.

Hi, S.,

Kids are different, of course. I loved breastfeeding and my older child weaned herself early at 11 months, but my younger one kept on till three like yours, until I was DONE. It was mostly at bedtime and there wasn't much milk left; it was a comfort, closeness issue. When she got upset...I just told her Mommy wants to read or sing or cuddle instead (rocking chairs are great!) Even if your son objects strenuously, he'll get over it. If it is a chore for you, he won't enjoy it either, so don't feel guilty. It's for the best !

Just weaned my 2 1/2 year old son. It was starting to hurt among other reasons! We told him that the "nooks" had "owies." It was still a struggle, but when he would ask I would keep saying "no, no, it will hurt mommy." Tried to make it clear that in the past it was OK, but now it was starting to be painful for me--which was the truth! I heard of one woman who put band-aids on her nipples to show that they now had "owies"

We also talked about his other friends who were no longer breastfeeding "Alex doesn't get nooks, Jacob doesn't get nooks." Also tried to offer his other kinds of milk in a sippy cup when he would ask for me to nurse him. Good luck--he still asks about them, a month later, but the wrestling matches have stopped!

I would just completely tell him no. You can also get something to put on your nipples that make them taste bad, usually used for thumb suckers. Look for it in the baby isle. But in my opinion a baby should only be nursed until 12 months. Just like dr's recommend having bottles be taken away by 14 months I think the same should go for nursing. But that is just my personal preferance everyone is different. I have three children two of which were breast fed, my oldest wasn't due to pre-term complications. Good luck with what ever you decide.
A.

Absolutely. My son nursed (less and less and less) even until he was 5. He really nursed through somewhere in the middle of the 3 year-old year, though I think at that point it was to go to sleep at night, sometimes in the night if he woke up, and when he was injured during the day. The following two years it was just at night and not consistently every single night. We talked about how nursing was something that changes as kids grow older - just another part of being a preschooler - and how it was such a nice way to calm down or to get ready for sleep, but that there are other ways to do that, too. We asked other people how they got calm after they were hurt and how they got their bodies ready for sleep. In the end we settled on he could hold my breast ("just touch, flat hand, no twiddling" was our mantra) as we settled down at night, which he still does sometimes. I have never to actually told him that he cannot cannot nurse, but I sometimes did say things like, "Ok. That's making me squirmy and uncomfortable. I need you to stop nursing and just touch now so that we can BOTH get comfortable and go to sleep."

The book How Weaning Happens is a WONDERFUL resource. Also check out Raising Your Nursing Toddler (or something very close to that title) -- both were EXCELLENT resources. Also there is an author researcher named something Dettwyler or Dettwiler at Texas A&M University who has many articles online. I think you can find her with a google search.

Most importantly - remember that suckling and being physically close to you are essential bonding attachment behaviors that extend beyond infancy. Weaning in a way that works for BOTH of you is the goal because it does have an effect on later life outcomes. If it's WW3 when you try to stop weaning, that's telling you something important - that your child is not ready yet and/or you haven't yet hit upon something that will meet his needs in substitute.

And there are LOTS of other people who nurse young children.
LOTS.

My twin girls are two.. and I'm still breastfeeding them... I've been trying to stop for awhile... I'm not good at cold turkey... so I've cut back to twice a day for the last two weeks... once in the morning, once before they brush their teeth... of course sometimes I give in and nurse them a lil more... but this is my last week... I'm going to be traveling for work on and off for the next couple months... so this is it... I feel sad but glad... Yikes

S.,

I didn't breastfeed as long as you have, but with my 3 boys I had not set a time line on when to quit as I think it is different for each family and each child. I found that when I was ready to stop breastfeeding my twins one was real easy with me, the other would scream and pull at me crying. I can relate to the WWII feeling. For me I started with cutting down how many times they nursed, I wore layers making it harder for them to get to my breasts. When I said no, I always offered another drink in a cup. There were times I had to sit with my knees up to my chest with my arms around my legs in a ball. He would have a fit, a BIG one, but I held my ground and after a few days it got a little better, then better and then it stopped. I found I had to hold my ground no matter how upset he got with me. Changes usual took time with my children, sometime a week or two and for some things even longer. For me stopping nursing took about a month with my boys. About 2 weeks of cutting back and the last 2 weeks of me saying no. It can be rough, but soon you will be on the other side of this issue.

Hope this helps you out. Have a blessed day! G.

you are not alone! my son is still dry nursing during my pregnancy and he will be two in may. i'm sure i will end up being a tandem nursing mom and then i'll feel like the only one on the planet - but i know i'm not. the internet is a great way to reach out to other moms in our shoes as we are certainly a minority. but being a minority doesn't make the situation wrong or bad and don't let people make you feel that way. there is an extended nursing moms group on cafemom.com that i know a girl really loves. plus, LLL is another great place to meet with moms face to face and show other newer moms this is totally ok and normal.

anyway... i have no advice for you on weaning since our weaning process has been coming on due to pregnancy - but i wanted to just drop in say you are not alone!!

Hello S.,
You are not alone. My son is 27 months and still breast feeding, but I do not see it ending in the near future. My story is similar to yours. I am happy to do it and feel it is appropriate for my sons needs emotional and physical. I actually know a lot of Mom's who are doing extended breastfeeding. So much that I wanted to have a little group at my apt so everybody can share their stories, ups and downs, with extended breast feeding. I still see great benefits for my son. And I love it most of the time. But I also have the opposite feelings of wanting to be done. Contact me and maybe at the very least we can do a talk over internet with other Moms. My e-mail is ____@____.com other Mom's who read this who are also doing extended breast feeding. Contact me and I will see what type of cohesive group we can form either virtual or in person.
J.

S.-
The worldwide average is 4.2 years, how wonderful that you are still hanging in there. My daughter weaned at 2.5 years and I was sad. I have many friends who nursed much longer. Hang in there, extended nursing is great!
-K.

My youngest son nursed until he was 3 years old. He is now 8, so yes, there is end in sight!
I involved my son in the weaning process. He set the date and then we worked toward the goal. The day finally came and he said to me in the saddest voice ever, "Will you still hold me?" We could have gotten through this a whole lot easier if we had communicated more. I still hold my son and put him to bed with back rubs, head messages and lots and lots of holding. Good luck!

I do not have any personal advice as I have a 6 month old nurser, but I just read and excellent and encouraging article in Mothering Magazine, I read it online through their website- just google mothering magazine, I am unsure of the web address, but it was a great article on the benefits if breast milk for the toddler and how in many other countries besides the US breastfeeding a toddler is perfectly normal and healthy especially if they are picky eaters. The article encouraged me to keep breastfeeding as long as my little boy wants to. Hope it helps

Hi there! You're not alone. I'm still breastfeeding my 3.4 year old. I plan to let him self wean (although I do say no when it's not convenient and encourage other sorts of closeness like back rubs, etc.). Good luck. I have never loved breastfeeding; but, it seems like such an awesome thing for my son. He has been sick for the last week and breastfeeding a lot - it reminded me how great it is that I can still offer that to him.

I am breastfeeding my 20 month old now. I'm hoping he will wean himself, too. But I guess there's little chance of that, from what I'm hearing.
My oldest did wean himself at 14 months, so I thought this one might too. I'm proud and thankful to be breastfeeding this long but he doesn't sleep through the night yet so that's a pain. I felt like the only one in the world breastfeeding this long, too. It's really strange, I posted a request about it and I got 0 responses. I see you've already gotten 26!! That's great! I wonder why I didn't get any at all?
I don't have any advice. But you're not the only one! Would you let me know if something works for you?

I weined my daughter right at 2..and only because I knew tandem nursing wasnt for me otherwise she would probably still would be. I do have 2 friends who nursed till 3 and 4 yrs, both were involved in the la leche leage. Its a great support group especially when you start feeling the pressure from others and your child is not ready to give it up. Best wishes....and don't worry, your not the only one!

I breastfed until my daughter was 3 1/2. I finally decided she wasn't nursing for nutrition. I stopped because I didn't want to do it anymore. It was the closeness she wanted rather than the breast. I don't remember what I did to stop the nursing but I remember it didn't take very long to wean her. She was in preschool and I think she was ready.

I will breastfeed my baby girl until she's ready to be weaned, but I hope to get down to morning and evening nursing only by the time she's 1.5/2. The benefits of breastfeeding continue for as long as we, moms and babies, are interested in doing it. But I totally understand being done at 3 years old.

As for weaning, pick nursing that don't have that much emotional/nutritional impact first, then go from there. It might be helpful to bring daddy in to be the "hero" during this time.

hello. i am also going through the same thing my son is 25 months and seems there is no end in sight. he loves to breastfeed. i know it is hard. i have tried everything except going away for the night. i just think that would be to hard (for both of us) i just wanted to let you know you are not alone. (i feel the same way. people look at me like i'm crazy)good luck to you and me both!!!!

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