L.D. asks from New York, NY on October 03, 2008
A.D. answers from New York on October 07, 2008
Hi Lacey, Congratulations. There is nothing wrong with your being tiny. If your doctor does not see a problem with delivery of your baby, then you are OK. Eat well and stay healthy. Read as much as you can about pregnancy and childbirth. The more you know the better prepared you will be. Our worst fear is the unknown. If you can, go to childbirth classes. Even if you do not go natural, learn the breathing. It helps so much with labor. Try not to be afraid. Pregnancy and childbirth are such a blessing. Not everyone can bear a child. I will pray for you. I was 20 years old when I had my first and I now have 5. All my (grown) children and their friends call me mom and I would be honoured if you would too. Best wishes, Grandma Mary
J.S. answers from New York on October 04, 2008
Congradulations with your pregnancy. Don't worry about size or how much weight you gain. Babies are a blessing and being pregnant is a wonderful and magical time. Your body will go thru many changes and NOTHING
A.P. answers from New York on October 06, 2008
I was 23 when I had my first child and was 105lbs. I only gained 15lbs. The dr. wanted me to gain more. I tried but it didn't happen. My son was 7lbs 11oz. I was in labor with him for 2 1/2 hours. Had him all natural. I just thought about just getting him out to see who he looked like. I wasn't thinking about the pain at all. When you are in labor just think about who your son or daughter will look like and you will be so excited and not scared.
I wish you all the best!
D.L. answers from New York on October 04, 2008
hi - the thing i can say about labor is that it never goes as you expect! so, my advice would be to focus on what matters the most - getting this baby safely into the world! don't have too many expectations about what you want to happen.
this is also a time, that you have to be sure to speak up and ask for what you need. if you want a friend to visit you in the hospital, tell your friend ahead of time. if you want help when you bring the baby home, ask! the experience of giving birth for me was amazing, but, very overwhelming and emotional!! reach out and ask for support if you need it!!
congratulations!! i know you're going to do a great job!! love, debbie
S.T. answers from Albany on October 04, 2008
Lacey, CONGRATULATIONS ON YOUR PREGNANCY AND THE BABY!!! I am sorry about you not having a mom or mother figure, but my mom had alzheimer's when I was pregnant, but I did have some women to talk to at church and groups for mothers and it's scary with the first pregnancy. Whether you have a mother or not, it's scary but it does help to have a mother...I think it would.
First of all, all questions you have, ask your OB GYN and if you don't have one, alot of women on MamaSource can tell you best one to go to if you tell us what town and state you're in. You will gain weight, but the dr will tell you best how much you should each month and it won't be any different with your size. Whether you're 100 lbs or 200lbs, labor won't be different, except that you keep active, walking and swimming is the best to keep you active and you'll need that when pushing comes when the baby is ready to come. That day is the best day after it's over because you'll have a beautiful face to look at as the result and it was all worth it.
I was wondering what state and town you're in because then you can go to MOMs group they have different places and my church has one. You don't haveto go to that church because alot of mothers go to the group and not to that church. It's great and get the support and answers to questions about pregnancy, labor and etc and it's great to fellowship especially after you have the baby to get the support you need. There's a Healthy Kids Program in my area and I can find out where it is in your area if you let us know where you live to help you out. They come to visit you biweekly before you have the precious baby and then come weekly after you have the baby and answer alot of questions and get you the the support you need by contacting places and get you the help you need. Also, there are health programs for your child if you need health insurance and for your baby and now you can get a low cost or no pay health insurance for you baby :) Great!! I AM THERE IF YOU NEED TO ASK QUESTIONS OR SEEK ANSWERS OR SOMEONE TO JUST TALK TO. I KNOW HOW HARD IT IS AND NEEDING GUIDANCE BUT JESUS CHRIST HAS BEEN THE GREATEST HELP IN GIVING ME THE SUPPORT AND ENCOURAGEMENT AND WISDOM WHAT TO DO EVERY STEP OF THE WAY. You're young nd Ill answer any question s you have and if you just want tot e-mail me personally, feel free and NO QUESTIONS ARE STUPID NOR DUMB THEY ARE ALL IMPORTANT AND NOW MATTER WHO YOU ARE!! May Jesus give you His Wisdom in what steps to take and what to do when you ask Him......I'll pray for you and your baby (and your fiance'). Jesus loves you more than you'll ever know no matter what! :)
N.B. answers from Jamestown on October 04, 2008
The first month of every one of my pregnancies(4)I was down to 98-100 pounds. I gained all my weight basically towards the end. I was induced three times and had epidurals for the first, second, and fourth child.
You should be fine. Just do what your doctor says and don't let anyone tell you you have to gain a million pounds.
D.S. answers from New York on October 04, 2008
I can't really relate to the size because I am more of a medium frame, however I can relate to being nervous. Trust me it is normal to be scared. I had a husband, a mom who stayed with me the first week and was still nervous. One thing I can suggest is get into some type of birthing class so It will help you prepare emotionally for what is going to occur. Ask as many questions as you need from your doctor and maybe go to the library and read some books. As far as not having a mom we here at Mammasource can help you as much as you need just reach out you will be fine. Good luck to you and your fiance!!!
A.S. answers from Albany on October 09, 2008
Do not worry about this part. That is what I did and you do not know what will happen until the day, night... I had a very rough pregnancy, was in the hospital a lot. I should have lived there. So I assumed that my delivery would be hard and it wasn't. My water broke at 3am, I went to the hospital at 5 am and was dialted. Then I was on some medicine and waited around, comfortable until about 1pm and then started pushing and then she was born. Healthy and no problems. Try not to get all the horra stories, it will drive you crazy. This was my first pregnancy. I would say when they had to deliver the placenta, that was a little more painful. Other then that I was comfortable. Get all the drugs they offer you adn the epidural. Take care and hope all works out.