P.B. asks from Occoquan, VA on December 21, 2008
Alright... Am I crazy/too traditional-thinking/backward/out of touch with today's times? Or am I right on track/wise/clever/an okay mom/not crazy/in touch with today's times? I'm talking about etiquette classes for my two older daughters (4 and 5). Is this a little nuts? We are not wealthy and go to a lot of formal parties or attend "proper teas" with our pinkies out:) Just a normal family with a mom who wants her girls to be a little more respectful, appreciative and have proper manners- and WANT to be that way:) What do you all think? And does anyone have recommendations on who from/where to get these lessons?
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D.W. answers from Washington DC on December 22, 2008
J.C. answers from Lynchburg on December 22, 2008
I babysat for a girl whose mom got several etiquette books that were age appropriate and just implemented the rules at the house. She really liked them. I don't know titles, but I know she really loved the idea that she was teaching her children and not possibly putting her into the hands of someone who would be too strict/authoritarian with her daughter. I plan on doing it with my children in another year or two (for my son, longer for my daughter), and I'm going with the books so that I can choose the learning method b/c my son is rambunctious and easily heartbroken.
N.R. answers from Richmond on December 22, 2008
You are so RIGHT ON! I LOVE IT! As a mom with all boys, I am so excited to hear that a mom with all girls wants her girls to be....LADIES! YES! YES! YES!
I have a friend of mine, that introduced us to Civil Air Patrol for our oldest son. Her foster daughter is also enrolled in the C.A.P. She was telling me about the ballroom dance lessons that Faatima is taking. Well, it doesn't take a rocket scientist to know that you can't have ladies dancing without the gentlemen there to lead. LOL So I was asking about it for my oldest son. It's a program (I will find the name for you) that teaches etiquette, ballroom dance and other dances as well for both boys and girls. I'm not sure of the total cost but I know it was rather expensive.
I will find out the info for you and get back to you soon. I hope to see them tomorrow at C.A.P. class. I'm in VA are you here too?
Good job mom! I love what you are looking to do for your girls. Merry Christmas!
N. :) SAHM homeschooling 3 boys and married to my Mr. Wonderful for 15yrs. I love to help other moms, who want to become SAHMs, reach that goal!
S.S. answers from Washington DC on December 22, 2008
first of all i am proud of you that you want to encourage good behavior. yes ettiquette is something that needs to be learned. here in baltimore there is a school for manners. i even get the newsletter but i couldnt tell you the name of the school. but i am sure you can find something just googeling it. 2nd i am very very happy you are
Christian family who love Jesus.
E.V. answers from Roanoke on December 22, 2008
Hello! I think its a great idea. I checked out your profile to see where you live. I used to live near you in Alexandria! I'm sure that you have many places you can find in that area that will be good for your girls! I agree w/most others in that we need some polite kids running around! My BOYS are 5 and 2, and they at least say please and thank you (most of the time)! but, they too, would have no idea how to sit still/behave at a formal dinner! I also wanted to commend you for staying home w/your kids in an area that demands so much time/income for survival! I do NOT miss living there! (except for the shopping and being close to national museums, etc!) I think its great that you are wanting to raise your girls to be respectful Christian girls! God Bless and Merry Christmas!
K.H. answers from Washington DC on December 22, 2008
I live in Gaithersburg, and I know that the county has a program that teaches manners, etc. that it offers through its recreation dept. I receive the catalog of classes in the mail, but it's available online too. Most of these classes are only about 6 weeks, but it would be a good start, and they are very affordable. Good luck!
S.H. answers from Washington DC on December 22, 2008
I have read the responses to your request, and I have a few thoughts. It seems that your children could learn proper behavior from you (from an expense stand point). I didn't think etiquette classes were even offered! Obvoiusly not many children are going, nor have their parents! Anyway, I don't think it's a bad idea, it just seems that you have them on the right track on your own. From reading the feedback, the classes look like they coach through "pretend" activities, which would be a lot of fun for children. But may be a little "retro", in that I don't see many people with formal lifestyles or entertaining in a formal manner anymore. You can still have good manners without being formal, so it really is up to you to decide if you can coach your children, or would they respond better to a taecher outside of your home. Good luck.
D.M. answers from Washington DC on December 22, 2008
Hi P. B,
I have always planned for my girls to take etiquette classes as well. My oldest is 4 1/2 and my youngest is 19 months. I looked up etiquette classes online and most of them won't start until the kids are around 8 yrs old. I would love for you to find any that start young because I would love to enroll my oldest and eventually my youngest. Best wishes in finding one.
M.T. answers from Norfolk on December 22, 2008
I don't think you are crazy at all. When I was younger we had to set a formal table for holiday dinners and dress our Sunday best. I have a daughter who is 6 and I would love these kinds of classes for her as well. I will be watching the responses that you get because they can help me too.
J.P. answers from Washington DC on December 22, 2008
I think the best teacher your children can have, especially at this age, is you! Modeling the behavior you expect from them, listening and explaining your standards/morals to them, setting boundaries...all of these will go far in setting a strong foundation for your girls. When you see unacceptable behavior from other people (in books, movies, tv or real life), use the example to discuss what was wrong with the scenario and role play a better outcome. These are all things I have done with my almost 6 yo since she was born and she gives me reasons to be proud of her every day. Good luck, wouldn't it be nice if all parents did these things!