Essure Permanent Birth Control - Rancho Cucamonga,CA

Hi B.,
First I would talk to the hubby and make sure you are both on the same page. Second, men are very nervous about vasectomy, its kinda like losing their manhood. I am proud to say my hubby went through with it. We asked my obgyn for a doctor, and discussed the pros, as opossed to the cons of getting my tubes tied. I asked my hubby if he was sure, then I made the phone calls, and did the scheduling. The day after I came home from the hospital after the birth of our third child, he was at the office having his Vasectomy. He was in the office for an hour, on the sofa for a day. It is such a minor procedure, he could not even milk it for attention- he didn't even need pain meds. I on the other hand am still recovering from my c section. (This all happened at the beginning of August). When we went to my first postpardum appt, my doctor shook my hubby's hand and said he was proud of him and wishes all his patients hubby's were as agreeable. I went through so much to have our 3 beautiful children, all he had to do was get a little snip. It is the most effective way to stop making babies, and it can be reversed. We found it also helped to be open about it. We found friends who had the procedure, and had the full support of my family- as they came over to help with the kids, the new baby and the recovering parents. It has made me appriciate him more, and realize how much he loves me. Good luck on your research, I hope you find the answers you are looking for.

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Hi B.,

To me, it does not sound like you have completely decided if you and your husband should do something permanent yet. Your babies are still very young, demanding and time consuming. I would not make any permanent decisions util they are a little older, if I were you.

I am a mother of four children...the oldest and youngest are 16 years apart. We had two children (19 months apart) then we waited 10.5 years then another one...then 4.5 years later we had one more. My husband had said he did not want any more children after the first two...thank goodness we did not do something permanent because I cant imagine my life without my two younger children. WE love kids and we are both so glad that we had the last two. People always think that our last two were "surprise babies", but it was the first two that were unplanned! But, I would not change any of it for anything...
If you think you may get to a point when you might want another baby, do not do any thing permanent. A few more years of the pill will not make that much difference in the long term things. Give you and your husband a chance to let the babies grow up a little and then you may decide to have one more. If my husband would have had things his way, we would have only had two. My husband changed his way of thinking when all of our friends and siblings were starting their families..(that was when I told him I was finished taking the pill----if he was done, he needed to go and get a vasectomy). Well, he decided that he liked having kids and wanted just one more...well, when our 3rd one was about 3, he figured he would have been like an only child, so he asked me if I wanted another one...and when I was pregnant with her, I KNEW that I was finished having children...now I am waiting for grandbabies!

Best of luck with your decision....
T.

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Given your health risks it sounds like your husband is being super selfish. I'd put it on the line with him; you're ok having another baby, but if he's not ok with it then he better solve the birth control issue. Trust me, around the third time he has to put on a condom he'll be fine with a vasectomy. Good luck!

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I don't know anything about essure, but I do know about not feeling as if your family is complete. I just had our fourth and last baby, and our attitude was that we would never regret a baby we had, but we would regret babies we didn't have. We have lots of friends with grown children who say their only regret is that they didn't have more kids. We will never feel that way. You might want to have a conversation with your husband about the possibility of number three before you shut the door on that. Good luck!

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Have you looked into an IUD? I have 3 kids, the youngest is 4.5, and I have had the IUD since my 6 week check up after he was born. I had my third child at age 30 and didn't want to completely close the door on kids, so I wasn't ready for something permanent. This is what my OB recommended. The OB inserts it into your uterus in a quick office procedure. It lasts 5 years, but can be taken out at any time if you decide to have another baby, with no ill effects. When I first looked into it, after my second was born, it kind of freaked me out a little, so I decided not to get it, and then got pregnant (while taking the pill) with the third. So after that I needed something surefire. It has been GREAT and 90% of my girlfriends with kids have one too. They all love it as much as I do! The benefits of the Mirena (as opposed to other IUDs) are: it definitely makes your periods shorter/lighter, (I actually don't get periods at all), plus it is 99.9 percent effective. I'm probably just going to get another one when my son turns five and the current IUD expires-much less hassle and less invasive than surgery! Hope that helps.

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Hi B.!

I had the Essure procedure done about 2 years ago and it was a cake walk. It was done 4 months after I had my daughter. So far there has been no down side to it. Even my OB said this was very safe and it was much easier to bounce back from than the traditional tubal ligation.
I went to the hospital to have the outpatient procedure done at 6:30 AM and was home by 11 AM. I had some cramping but ibuprofen took care of that. The only thing I really had to recover from was the anesthesia. I carry a little card with me that I keep with my drivers license that shows I have the titanium springs in my fallopian tubes (its just like one if you have breast implants). It has the refference/lot number on it.
This was a great decision for me! BTW ... I am still waiting for my husband to get his vasectomy.
Good luck to you and if you have any more questions feel free to ask.

K.
SAHM to an active 9 year old and a hurricane of a little girl age 2.

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I don't know anything about that procedure, but from reading your post, you may not want to do it. It sounds like both you and your husband are not for sure that you do not want another child. Unless you are 110% sure that you are done, you should avoid any permanent procedures.

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Have you considered the Mirena IUD? I had one after my 1st child and it was great. It even stopped my periods. It is not estrogen based so it is fine if you are prone to blood clots (I am too that's why I got the mirena iud) It was also really easy to get pregnant again if you do decide you want another child. It was no biggie getting it and even easier getting it removed. It is good for 5 years.
It sounds like this may be a better option if you have even a possiblity of wanting another child. I have several friends that had permanant birth control, later changed their mind and it is hard to reverse and very expensive.

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Hi B. sounds like you have your hands full with the boy's. Maybe your husband would like another down the road but not now...remember he sees you tired and stressed...We welcome happy accidents and we work around it but to plan another may not be such a good idea, wait a few years. Get on birth control and breeeeeth
H.

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I have done a little bit of research on Essure for myself and I would also be very interested to see if other moms have had this done and what they have to say. I also have 2 little boys, 3 and 2 (15 months apart), I'm 36, and I'm going nuts! I KNOW I don't want anymore, but my husband still wishes I would change my mind. We've agreed that the simplest thing would be for him to go get a vasectomy, but he isn't rushing to get it done, meanwhile, I'm pumping hormones into my body with the pill, and neither of us is thrilled about that. So if this Essure is quick, simple enough and I can afford it, I'll go get it done! The one hesitation that I have is that it is a fairly new procedure, so we don't have any studies about the long term effects yet.

I hope you can wait a little while before getting anything done. Since you feel like you want another, and your husband sounds like he's warming up to it, sounds like the perfect recipe for baby #3!

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I just googeled it after reading your post. Sounds much better then having your tubes tied. I also would be interested in hearing from someone that has actually choice this method and what the experience was like.

I would love to know what you find out, I had asked the same ? and did not get many answers.. Kind of a new subject I think.. I want to do it too as I know I am done with kids, I am just afraid of down the line they see there is a problem with having this object in your body.. and scar tissue can't be healthy to have either??