Hi ya P., have no fear....I does drive you crazy but it is ok. I have a few questions for you? Does he take laxatives prescribed by a doctor? I have a few things I know that can help you to make it easier on you. My son is 8 and still on his medicine, which really helps regulate his bowels. Taken in the evening before bed helps, because he can relax better. We have been dealing with our son since he was two...he had confidence issues on the toilet. I actually bought him a toilet seat that latches on the toilet and makes him feel like a big boy. Also when your son goes to the bathroom, sit with him and talk (it helps to relax them) and do a game I call make a balloon, it helps with the actual flexing of his intestines and stomach area. Make him suck in a large breath and release it out, making his muscles contract. As for my son, I have found that tighty whites don't help this situation, and boxers are the way to go. Let me know if any of this helps....I got plenty of ideas. I got frustrating at first but it does get better.