Embarrassing Question...

CHile.........He beat it up. The insides of your walls are raw from the friction. It takes a few days and maybe a week. I would not suggest doing it again so quickly because it will last longer. Sypmtoms of a STD don't appear over night. I'm no doctor but when I have good sex with a man who is packin.......you will feel the effects. You wouldn't be so worried if you would use a condom. I'm sure you know this. Also, you should only be sensitive to the touch. You did have an aerobic workout so your chest, arms, pelvis, and thighs should all ache. Next time do some warm up exersizes........just kidding:-)

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You shouldn't be embarrased! I go through the body aches myself. In my case the aches come from not being sexually active very often and the length of time involved in the sexual act. Don't forget that you have a human body on top of yours and that weight stresses your muscles as well as the positition(s) he put you in. You haven't used those muscles in TWO YEARS girl. So Monday, Tuesday and Wednesday will be the achy days and it should get better from there. The more you have regular sex this won't happen. Don't be scared take a hot bath with epson salt and use muscle rub and get back into the swing of things and have fun. LOL this is a problem you should feel good about!

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I would see your OB/GYN and get everything checked out just to be on the safe side. I would also use a condom. There are plenty of STD's that would be uncomfortable to live with for life (herpes, warts, etc.) but HIV is a death sentence. Be careful!

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My advice is to see your gynecologist. You may have an infection that was there before the sex but the irritation made the area more sensitive. See your doctor.

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i would think that is normal. you havent "used" that spot in a long time. it is made of sensitive tissue and delicate mucscles. when i got married i had not been with anyone and it took a while for those symptoms to subside. your body has to adjust to sex just like any other kind of exercize or stiumulation especially if your not a great fit at first. also you are using muscles around that area that dont get used on a daily basis...remember having a baby! you found muscles you didnt know you had. just let him know that you are having soreness as a result of becomming active again and to be gentle and not expect sex everytime.
if it doesnt subside then check with your dr but my guess is they will tell you the same thing. when my h goes away for months on end and comes home i have to re-adjust physically but it doesnt take as long...2 years is a long time.
best wishes, be safe even if he has been fixed and says hes not active. stds can lerk in a man for quite a while without symptoms. i cant speak of stds except from what iv read.
also each person has different natural bacteria that they carry. you have been normalized in your body for a while and introducing his natural bacteria could cause an imballance so be on the look out for uti signs ect...i got plenty of those when i was first married even though my husband had just showered.

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Its possible that while you were arroussed and wanting to have sex, you body was still tense and that's what caused you to be in pain. Being dehydrated could also have lead to those symptoms, as could a UTI. Always make sure you pee and clean yourself after sex to prevent a UTI or yeast infection.

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J. ~
The first person you should ask is your DOCTOR! I am not a doctor, but my advice is simple common sense. BAD idea not to use a condom, no matter how well you think you know this man. DO NOT DO THAT AGAIN! What you probably have is just vaginal irritation since you haven't had sex in a long time, especially if you didn't use any lubricant. Or, if you did use lubricant, it could be an allergic reaction. Don't dismiss this! You could have an infection of some type and you don't want it to spread. If you have bumps of any sort, there is a possibility of herpes. Just because someone hasn't had sex in a long time doesn't mean they might not have a disease. Go to your doctor right away. Good luck.
K.

PS) After reading your response to the responses, it seems you do not get it. Your life is not something to take risks with, especially when you have children to care for. You say there is nothing wrong with making love, but yes, there are times when it is wrong. We, as human beings have been given the gift of thought, reason and common sense. We should not live our lives on desires alone. Another reader asked the question as to whether you would want your own children to have premarital sex. Think about that. We are models for our children's behavior. I know this world has become very liberal when it comes to sex, but where has it gotton us? Aids, STDs, unwanted pregnancy, even rape. Not to mention the emotional toll of sexual intimacy with someone you are not completely devoted to. There comes a point when we all should just WAKE UP! Stop secumbing to social pressures. We are bombarded with sex in this society. Please, please think long and hard about your actions. It WILL affect your children, believe me. My words are not meant to be harsh, only to try to tell you to protect the ones you love most. I hope you will take to heart ALL the responses you recieved. People really do care about other human beings.

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that sounds like something you should definitely ask the doctor. just cause he's not sexually active doesn't mean he isn't a carrier for something. on the other hand, it could be completely unrelated, and you've just come down with a fever not because of him, but lots of viruses present that way, including sexually transmitted ones... Good luck!

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Well first off I'm glad you got some! LOL!! Second in this day in age I would have definately used a condom! I pray that you have not contracted anything. But now that you've done it in the "nude" it might be hard for him to understand why you want to use a condom. Until you have both checked out I would definately put condom in use. If he refuses, he doesn't have yours or his bestinterest at heart.

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My guess would be you are doing something that you body hasn't done in a while. It will probably go away after a while. You know like when you exercise for the first time, you body is sore and has to get used to the activity again.

That is my humble opinion. Good Luck.

P.S. USE A CONDOM!!! better safe than sorry.

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I agree with the other reader that you were probably tense. And remember, sex is a workout! It can be very tiring and exhausting. I have to tell you though, you really should use a condom. Just because he isn't sexually active doesn't mean you can't get an STD, unless you are saying he is a virgin. Many STD's can be dormant, but still catching (e.g. herpes). I am glad you found a guy you like, but just be careful!

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Go to a doctor. Now. Seriously.

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