December 14, 2009,
M.D. asks from Orange, CA on December 13, 2009
Ears That Stick Out
So I feel kind of foolish asking this question...my 5 month old ears started to stick out about 2 or 3 months ago. Ive been totally self conscious of it, since I must have passed the trait on to him as Ive always been really self conscious of my own ears. However, as a girl, I just wear my hair down and its not too big of a deal. So today, an uncle that had never met my son before says (and the first thing he says) "oh he has big ears!" I was kinda irratated since it wasnt congratulations or anything, just a rude comment! So now its been bugging me even more. Of course I am so thankful he is a healthy, happy baby and I know that is the most important thing of all!!!!!!!!!!!! Like I said im sooooo thankful just to have a healthy baby when so many other people deal with "real" issues. But, this world is so cruel and so I just dont want him to go through life with people making fun of his ears, as a mom we just want to protect our kids. Now my sons ears are not big at all, just stick out which makes them seem big i guess. So, this leads me to my question...has anyone ever had cosmetic surgery to fix ears..ie..pin them back maybe? seems simple, but of course I dont know anything. And of course I would never do anything like this to the baby...just thinking years down the road if this is possible? safe? expensive? etc...Hope this question is not too trivial but if anyone has any knowledge on this matter..just curious. Thanks!
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A.R. answers from Los Angeles on December 14, 2009
S.S. answers from Los Angeles on December 14, 2009
There's a cute toddler book called "What I Like About Me" that describes ears that stick out and embracing those unique characteristics that we all have.
K.M. answers from Los Angeles on December 14, 2009
My son has BIG ears that stick out :) and he got them from me, but I have hair to hide them! He is so handsome and charming,I've learned to embrace "them", because it's a part of him and he certainly is not the only one! There are lots of not so cute kids with perfect ears :) I had our drycleaning guy get out his measure stick once and measure his ears and said "wow, his ears are big for such a little guy"! As shocked as I was, I smiled and said "he can hear better than you can, that's for sure!". Ya know, it's a fact that his ears stick out, but he is very cute, and I get him a cool surfer hairdo that mostly hides them.
He's 5 now, and there are plenty of other things to focus on around here :)
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L.S. answers from Los Angeles on December 14, 2009
Yes, there is a plastic surgery that can "tack" ears down a bit. My husband's boss' daughter had it done; I believe she was in junior high school.
But really, we all have our character traits, no? Odd nose, jagged hairline, drooopier eye than the other, crooked smile... I know it's so hard thinking he may have a hard time with it and you not wanting him to be teased. But a bit of adversity truly never hurt anyone and I actually just read that some childhood adversity can work in our benefit, making us stronger and able to cope with the REAL and unpleasant challenges and set backs later in life. Don't worry ... we moms have enough to worry about as it is. Focus on his health and well-being and let him develop the way he was meant to be.
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D.D. answers from Los Angeles on December 14, 2009
a friend of mine had that done to her ears...i don't think the surgery is a big deal...i had a lazy eyelid..my parents had it fixed when i was in the 3rd grade...my son now has a slight one but its cute..it was worse when he was a baby and has gotten better..so now its barely noticeable ...i met a model saturday night at an Xmas party ..her little 5 year old son's ears stick out..his hair is longish..i thought it looked cute..like a little elf..i sometimes have my ear stick out of my hair and get called elf..i wouldn't fret too much about it...my son also has longish hair..like Little Lord Fauntleroy...let your son's hair grow out and it will help cover them up and then see if he wants them fixed..i wouldn't do something to him cosmetically w/out his opinion..and choice...i didn't even circumcise and i'm not a fan of piercing ears...so of course i would think that about a cosmetic surgery...just relax..enjoy your babe...put some hats on him...and b/c his ears stick out doesn't mean he's not absolutely gorgeous! I love quirks like that.
K.W. answers from Phoenix on December 14, 2009
God made your son exactly as he is supposed to be. I believe in the importance of teaching our sons and daughters to value themselves, the way God made them, just as they are. So, if somebody makes a rude comment, just teach your child that some people don't always say the right things.
It's your uncle that has the problem, not your kid!
So, next time, say "Thank you!" and "We think our son is perfectly handsome just as he is!"
T.G. answers from Los Angeles on December 14, 2009
Not sure if you are superstitious or not, but in our Asian culture, having big ears mean prosperity. Your little one will be able to catch all the wealth with his "big ears". In our culture, after a baby is born, that is the first thing they look for in the baby's features.
B.S. answers from Honolulu on December 14, 2009
I had a good friend in High-school who had her ears pinned back when she was 8. It made a huge difference in the way kids treated her and she never had any problems from the surgery. It's considered a deformity where there is too much cartilage in the ear, so they simply remove some of the excess cartilage, sew it up and it heals without visible scars. Good luck, I bet your son is adorable anyway. :)
T.T. answers from San Luis Obispo on December 14, 2009
my son who is 12 1/2 has very large ears, and they stick out as well. He is the 4th generation of this situation.
As a mom, I was very concerned about my son getting teased in the worst way, once he starts school. My fears were totally needless! He had from the beginning the total understanding, that ears come in different sizes, and that the looks and size has nothing to do with what kind of person he is. As he was about 10 years old, I asked him if he ever had trouble because of his ears? and if he is interested, we could have a procedure done to lay the ears closer to his head. His answer was pure and simpe:"Mom, who cares about big ears? They don't change a thing about me, and I'm totally fine with them". And he truly is. Sometimes he and his dad even make fun about my small ears "poor mom, look at her small ears", and all of us chuckle about it.
So for you as a concerned mom, please don't fret too much about a little quirk of nature. It will not impact the quality of your sons life, unless you start making a big deal out of it. If anything, it will help your son to firsthand learn and accept the differences of people's looks, and that looks have nothing to do with a persons qualities.
J.L. answers from Los Angeles on December 14, 2009
I think it can be ok either way. My boss jsut had his daughter's done ( 3 yo) and they are very happy. It is a simple procedure. While you can teach your kid to deal with it you could avoid the situation all together. I would think if the future. In 10 years will you regret the surgery? probably not. But worst case scenario will you regret not getting it if your son is tormented and has a hard time dealing with it? Also, yes your son is too young now, but you will probably not want to wait until the teasing starts and then his friends notice he did something about it.