I totally disagree with many of the posts here. Women, you aren't doormats and you don't deserve to be walked on. If you're going away, yourself, and having fun, then it's fair, but if not...then he's taking you for granted.
Given, every person deserves time alone, take into consideration what marriage means. It is a joining of two into one. That means he should also spend quality time with YOU alone, not his friends, and not on vacation without you in places where there are strippers and hookers.
Gallop Poll - Men who cheat - $92.6% do it on weekend getaways without their wives.
I don't control my other half, but I do think that although there is free time for both of us, separately, it is still very, very important to pay attention to the other spouse.
This woman complains that she's left alone often. He's always gone on trips with friends, late nights at work. As a woman working with control freaks, they often keep little women at home, play the field, do it right in public, because they can.
Women, you've been so brainwashed not to be controlling by the media, masses, etc., that you are forgetting your equality. Controlling and being cautious, and considerate and emotionally equal are different things.
You can't stop him from going away, and having fun, but you can make him have incentive to return to you. You can tell him to have a very nice time, and then take some return calls about hotels, babysitters, etc., for yourself.
Make it happen. Get a babysitter. While he's gone, go away and have fun. What's good for him is also good for you.
You're being controlled terribly. I hate the mindset of women who are used to being doormats. Half the women here claiming perfect marriages are so far from their husbands, emotionally, that they will never mend, because they are too free.
That isn't being clingy and it's not controlling. It's being married. And, according to anyone you speak with, the marriage should be equal.
If he has given you any reason to worry, pack your bags and go along. If it's a golf game, he can take a wife. You ARE his wife.
You are not his mother, however. Find a healthy medium in between. It works for me in my relationship.
I don't want to scare you, but I see some very negative signs in the frequency of his disappearances. They are showing "boredom" and when a marriage is so devoid of attachment that a man or woman feels that they need time apart, then it's on a rocky road.