Does Your Hubby Know How Much You Weigh?

When I was military, we used to have to say our weight out loud, in front of others, all the time. I got pretty immune to it BUT what I *didn't* get immune to were men's reactions. HeHeHe.

If asked to guess, I'd be told 115, or buck and a quarter. EVEN if they were holding me at the time (as part of the bet). I was very tall and very thin. 167. It used to crack. me. up. that men really do have no idea how much women weigh.

FF many years to my doubling (yes, doubling) my weight when I was pregnant. The "guess" people would say is around 200-225. I was over 350 at the birth and 310 the day after (10lb baby +23lb placenta plus apparently 7lbs of water).

Today, I'm about 50lbs overweight. When people guess, they guess about 175. (Which is what's on my License and what's going to STAY on my license). And they're about 50 pounds off.

People, men in particular, are absolutely clueless about weight. You could say that these people were being nice... but I doubt it since there was almost alway $ on the table (serious $, which is why I'd actually be picked up in some cases to "judge" before I stepped on the scale), and the people guessing now are my boundary-free family.

What was LIBERATING about telling people my actual weight was both their shock and the complete and total "shame lift". What's annoying is their shock. No. I didn't just magically get heavier between one sentence and the next.

To my way of thinking, weight is like age. It used to be that NO woman was ever asked her age, nor would she ever tell. Now, women are completely and totally open about their age, and to my way of thinking... it's to the betterment of ourselves.

He knows your real weight. That means you can step off the scale and clap and cheer and say XXX and have him clap and cheer with you.

Victories come in all kinds. And I think that part of YOUR victory is having your husband be happy about the truth, and not a mathmatical lie. Besides, cat's outta the bag, hon. Make it work for you.

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my hubby knows exactly how much i weigh... he sees me naked hes watched me give birth i could care less if he knows the number lol

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30lbs ago he knew my weight!

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First off congrats on the healthy lifestyle that you live. I am surprised to hear that you feel that you leaked a horrible secret to your husband. I guess I am just shocked because my husband knows everything about me. I wouldnt think of keeping anything from him unless I know its something that he doesnt care to hear about (Ex. period stuff and lady TMI stuff) otherwise we tell eachother everything.

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i just asked my fiance... he doesn't know how much i weigh. i'm not above telling him. he knows i weigh more than him (and am more than a foot shorter than him). I have told him my goal weight. But he thinks i'm amazing how i am, and only encourages me to loose weight for my health. but i'm sure he could guess within 20 lbs.

I think you're feeling that way because of your insecurity. your hubby will think no less of you knowing what you really weigh. it won't change how you look, or respond to him. just know that he loves your body if you weigh 100 lbs or 250. he is your husband. he loves you for more than just your body. you are blessed to have a hubby like him.

good luck on the getting into shape! i'm currently working on the same thing! go get 'em tiger.

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read your title and thought Dear Lord i hope he doesn't know.

But really, it's just a number and you sound healthy and motivated to be even healthier and he sounds awesome and wonderful. Don't worry about it. Just let it go out into the atmosphere and focus on how darn cute he thinks you are!

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Dont feel like you shouldnt have told your sweet hubby. He is there to support you no matter how much you weigh. He obviously loves you no matter what you weigh etc. So I think its a good thing, just means that you arent being judged by him and he loves the way you look :)
My hubby knows how much I weigh and to me its no biggie cause he doesnt care, he just wants me to be happy. I feel like hes the one person I can tell and be okay with it.

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Interesting that is the first question you ask on here. I would think if your both trying to lose weigh knowing each other's weight is a great way of keeping track of how much you lose. I mean if you think something as simple as weight is a huge secret idk. I tell my hubby everything even have him come into the dr's office with me and me with him. Good luck on losing the weight

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Yeah he knows but that's only because he weighs alot more than me!

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Two words...hell NO!

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He has never asked :) I am like Riley. I look a lot less than i weigh. My mom used to tell me it was big bones...lol!

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I have no problem sharing mine with my husband. I am 198 at 9 months pregnant. :) (Not happy about that number and this is the most I've gained while pregnant, but whatever. He was sitting with me in triage when they asked.)

My husband doesn't really register numbers either way. I was close to 150 pounds and wearing size 4/6 and he was upset that I still wanted to lose a little weight before I got pregnant again. When I pointed out that according the weight charts I could be less than 120 pounds at 5'6" and be "healthy" he got upset and said I should never been within 20 pounds of my best friend (who is not even 5 feet tall). I think most guys don't have any idea what weight "looks like" and they are usually surprised by what our actual weight is. It also depends on your scale. I had a scale with a dial for years and it always registered the same differences as my doctor's scale, but the actual number was about 10 pounds lower. It finally broke and I bought a digital and had an overnight 10 pound weight gain, so I'm learning to consider my weight only one indicator of health.

It sounds like you are insecure about the number, which is fine, but I honestly don't think guys care that much--they are much more interested in how we look and feel. I also know more men who like curves or "meat" than women who are too thin, so that is always reassuring. :)

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does your hubby know how much you weight ?
he delivered our baby, and kept me from bleeding to death on the bathroom floor, if he wants to know how much i weight, i got no problem with that. anyone else wants to know, i tell them, not going to happen
ok, lets look at it this way, if you were a man, do you think people would be concerned about your weight ? no, didnt think so. if someone asks you how much do you weight, ask them a extremely personal question in return, like, do you spit or swallow ?? and while they are standing there looking stunned, you say, well? you wanted to know how much i weight, i and want to know do you spit or swallow, wheres the problem, you dont like being asked personal questions??
so, your husband knows your actual weight, so what.as long as he didnt put the information on cnn, i wouldnt worry about it
K. h.

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My hubs and I have been trying to get in shape together also! That's awesome, keep up the good work. He knows how much I weigh, and vice versa. I carried and gave birth to his children though, so information like that is just a minor detail. If he were to ever give me any grief, I think I'd have to punch him.
Good luck on healthier living!
Lynsey

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My husband doesn't know my weight, nor do I. We don't have a scale in our house and we rarely go to the doctor (that is the only time I get weighed).

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When i was pregnant and my husband would come to OB appointments with me, I would make him turn around before they weighed me. Now that i'm actively trying to LOSE the baby weight (after having 2 kids in 2 years) I do tell him and I tell him every sunday what my weight is. He never asks and I doubt he even cares but I feel like it makes me more accountable in my weight loss goals when I tell him honestly how much i weigh. It really is a self-confidence issue, and I am terribly insecure about my body and weight. Hearing my sexy husband say "good job, babe!" or "daaaammmn girl your lookin' good!" just makes me that much more motivated. Your hubby sounds so dreadfully sweet and wonderful and i'm sure he could care less about the number on the scale. Keep up the good work and enjoy those sexy curves of yours! (I'm sure your hubby is enjoying them too)

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pretty much. we don't keep very close track of each other, but i did get to where outweighed him a while back and i don't want to go there again.<G>
since both of us are working hard at eating well and staying fit, we do tend to discuss our progress with each other so have a good ballpark idea of how much we each weigh. it's no biggie.
he thinks i'm a hot babe, so it's all good.
:) khairete
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It doesn't come up - and I don't plan to encourage it to either...

We both talk about our weight and share openly about our weight loss goals. We have both struggled with our weight and have been working on it together for quite some time. We are still both overweight but trying to get healthy. I am currently pregnant with #3 and he knows my weight and that I can't try to lose any. The hardest thing is that he is losing and is almost down to where I am. I keep telling myself it is okay since I am pregnant and I will lose the weight once the baby comes. He is super supportive and doesn't make me feel badly about it at all. I think it is good to have everything out in the open.

HAving fought weight after 4 kids, yes mine knows the number.
Your hubby is a good man. There's no reason not to let him know. He's trying to help.

My husband knows my weight. We know almost everything about each other, and weight is just a number.

Yes,
My Husband knows.
I really don't think it a deep secret of mine.

My hubby and I joined the gym and have been working out together. Some of my mom friends have a message board where we report to each other our successes, frustrations, etc with losing weight/getting in shape and we encourage each other. Sunday mornings we "report" our week and share our weight, if we choose. Its awesome! One of my friends has lost 96 lbs in the past 12 months!

I weigh-in on Sundays and this week, my hubby weighed in with me. I love that we are in this together. I push myself way harder when he's by my side.

I don't actually know how much I weigh, so I could only tell him a ballpark. I always told him how much weight I gained during the pregnancy. I assume I lost everything I gained, because I look the same, but I'm not sure. So, yes I would tell him...if I knew. If he thinks I look good, I don't see hwy it matters. I think it's probably your insecurity, and what's done is done! I seriously doubt your actual weight number has colored the way your husband sees you! Men go less by numbers and more by appearance, anyway.

Yep, and I know how much HE weighs, especially after that helping of chips I wish he weren't eating! LOL!

D.

Nope he has never asked nor will I tell he has no problem with my weight however I do & am trying to change that everyday I eat..

yep, and he helps motivate me if I think I need to loose a few lbs.
He usually tells me that he thinks I look great.
I don't think it's a big deal really for him to know or not know.

Riley I know EXACTLY what you mean I was in the military as well lol.

Yes, we talk about our respective weights - the real numbers - and encourage each other to work out, eat better, watch portions, etc. We have both been up and down the scales (especially me with three kids!) and we share all the bumps in the road to better health.

Yep. We pretty much tell each other daily as we are getting ready, "I am down to this" or "I am up to this". We both are continually working on getting in shape but we both also slip up and go up and down.

Mine is a personal trainer so yeah he knows.

I think he could guess within 10 lbs., but no I have not told him since our 2nd child.

I do and im currently pregnant with #2 and i still never lost the 20lbs from baby #1 so im a bit heavier. But im not shy. I jump on the scale in front of him and hes like i would have never thought that or i will ask do i look like i weight that much and he goes no babe you look good. So that helps but im def. determined after baby #2 its all coming off and back to my pre pregnancy weight:)

my BF goes to the gym, so he has a general idea of 'weights'.

Sometimes I am "on top" (hee hee) so I would say he would have to be a big giant idiot to not know how much I weigh.

But, no.... I've never given anyone a #. I don't know that I WOULDN'T. It just hasn't come up.

Your hubby is a smart guy for his answer!!!!!!!

u description sounds like me, and no he doesn't know how much haha i don't think i would tell him. The number on my license is all he's getting. We are both going to the gym now and eating right. When and if i get to my weight goal i'll tell him my weight then, not now.

My hubby knows my weight and I know his. We know eachother more then anyone. I dont mind because I am still 43lbs lighter then him:). We just love eachother the way we are.. Good for you, I think it keeps you close.

Yes, my hubby knows what I weigh, but it's kind of a joke because I'm very short and don't weigh much, and hubby is very tall and weighs more than double. Also, my 13 year old son just passed me in height about a year ago and is about to pass me in weight, so we all talk about height and weight all the time in our house.