I'm cohosting a baby shower for a good friend and we will be buying food and drinks for everyone as well as giving the mother to be a spa treatment from the hostesses. I'm wondering if a hostess also automatically buys a baby gift. If the answer is yes, I will get her something fairly substantial. But if it's not an automatic yes, I likely will get her something small then since I'm already spending quite a bit to throw the party. So just trying to gauge how much to spend on the gift. For reference, I didn't want a babyshower so this friend did not throw me one. Thanks
Cool! Glad I asked! Thanks very much everyone.
Is the spa treatmen a joint gift from the hostesses? If so, then that is a gift from you as well. Anything above that is extra. I personally would probably still get her something for the baby (an outfit, diapers, something).
If you are going in to get her a spa treatment plus paying for the party, then I would say no you dont have to get her a gift as well. You are covered there. For me htat would be more then enough :)
uh...you're paying for the party AND a spa treatment?! i would say your exempt...maybe reveal the spa treatment at the party to still show a gift to the new mother, but i would say you are TOTALLY exempt
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I agree with the other mama's. Just wrap the certificate and enclose a nice card. If you want to get her something, but feel like you are already spending a lot, then do something small, like a post baby pedicure for the two of you....but if you don't have all the excess to spend, don't worry about it. The shower in and of itself is a wonderful gift, along with the co-gift for the spa. If I were receiving, I would say you had outdone yourself and feel thoroughly "showered" with your generosity. Plus, there will be ample birthdays to come in the future where you can slowly spend on nice gifts for mommy and baby if you desire to do so.
Hope that helps!
-E. M
Sounds like you are buying her a lot already. I wouldn't get her an additional gift unless you have the money to spend.
The spa treatment sounds like the gift to me. Are you wrapping up the certificate? If not you should.
You are done with gift giving. You have done enough already.
Buy her something small... you are throwing the party which will result in tons of gifts and then giving her a spa treatment. Honestly, a friend of mine gave me a spa treatment as a shower gift and it was THE BEST!
I would just put the "reservation" or gift certificate into a baby shower card and leave it at that. More than enough- you could also bring over something small after the baby is born.
If you've gone in on the spa treatment and thrown the party, then I would think a small baby gift would be more than enough. Your friend is lucky to have a friend like you!
Sounds like you are doing quite a bit already. I personally wouldn't give a gift but if you feel like you want to do something more for your friend maybe you could offer a service instead. For example- offer to go over to her house and do a load of laundry, pick up the mail,watch the baby for 20 minutes while she takes a shower, bring over a home cooked meal, unload the dishwasher, run an errand for her, etc...
You get the picture. Sometimes the simplest things are the hardest for moms with newborns. Offering to help once or twice (maybe even via redeemable self-printed certificates) is one of the best "gifts" anybody could give.
:-)
I agree with the other moms--you ARE giving her a gift--a spa treatment! Put it in a card from you & the other hostess.
your done!! you may want to give a gift to the baby when he or she is born but something small just for baby.
As others have said: You've already given!!
I just cohosted a babyshower...but the recipients of the shower gave us a budget / a couple hundred in cash to pay for everything
I did give my SISTER gifts at her baby shower (spent about $200 on the gifts alone) but she was my baby sister. Otherwise, nope. The shower itself is expensive, so I would definitely consider that my gift :).
I wouldnt expect it if you were paying for the shower.
Give her an album of the shower - have everyone that takes photos send you copies. You can make an album through Shutterfly that look really nice and only cost about $15. It's the thought that counts - not the $$.
She'll love it!
She's gonna get plenty of outfits for the baby - nobody buys practical stuff for a shower so my other suggestion would be a nice cotton knit blanket.
I am having my baby shower this weekend and I would be really surprised if my host (my good friend!) got me anything! She is doing all the planning and buying the food so I am soooo appreciative of that! I am sure she will get me a cute little outfit or something, but I am not expecting anything.
L.
